The verbal violence against children is unstoppable

Looking only at the content, I think it's very good that this incident is due to food likes and dislikes, but when I was a kid, of course, my likes and dislikes should decrease as I grow up, and when eating, I think it's very good that they try to enjoy surrounding the dining table as much as possible without overdoing it even if they have something they don't like. Not limited to meals, even when children get angry about not moving the way they want, on the contrary, all of the time becomes a time of pain. Please keep a warm eye on their growth.
I'm also raising children, but if I'm raising children, I think there are situations where I just get emotional. No matter how many times I say it, it repeats the same thing and doesn't listen to what I say... but that is a creature called a child.
As a matter of fact, everyone gets “frustrated” once said something is repeated over and over again. However, when I exceeded my limits like you, I suddenly changed, and I left it up to anger and yelled at them as an outlet for my own stress, and even denies my personality. From a child's point of view, it's not an accumulation. Try throwing the words you said calmly at yourself... do you understand how your child feels? This can also cause deep wounds that will move your child's heart into the future. You probably won't be able to fully regret your regrets. Even if you let your emotions get angry, your child will only remember being scolded. In the end, they do the same thing over and over again and get angry... it's endless. First, why don't you switch from “getting angry” that doesn't work for the other person to “scolding” that cares about the other person? You have the feeling that you care about your child, I feel that you have it properly, it's just that you are too influenced by your emotions... you should be able to do it.
Even if my emotions run high as usual, even if I overdo it, “think for this kid!” Please let Ego step back a little bit and try it out little by little so that you switch to “scolding.” Wouldn't it be better to be able to communicate with your husband as much as possible to control stress? Stress can be reduced just by having them listen to the story rather than accumulating stress. If that doesn't work, you yourself don't seem to be good at controlling your emotions, so getting counseling etc. at a hospital might be one way. It's a stressful modern society, and I pray that you can be even a little calm, have a heart that is not steered by my emotions, and be a merciful mother.

Do you know the difference between parents who scold their children and parents who get angry at their children?
Parents who are calm and love their children scold their children, but parents who cannot suppress their emotions get angry.
Being able to deal with children without getting angry is the way to be a kind parent.
Children make a big mistake when they think they don't understand things, and they observe their parents very calmly.
I remember that my mother, who had come to learn Rakukenpo and experienced it somewhere, was told by her child, “My mother didn't cause hysteria around this time.”
When you hit and scatter on children, you're tired and your body feels stiff, isn't it?
If you relax your body with the Rakuken method, etc., you will be able to relax your mind, and you won't be hit or fiddle with your child.
People with stiff bodies don't have peace of mind and are angry.
Being able to relax your mind and body is healthy.
It's a problem if you let stress hit your beloved child.
Today, you may need to relax your body, such as yoga or easy exercise.

First, it is important to avoid physical abuse, psychological abuse, neglect (abandonment of childcare), etc.
Also, no matter how much you scold them, it's probably important to tell them “I care about you.”
Let's play with them and let them spoil them.

Also, think that you shouldn't do things to your own children that would be a problem for someone else's child.
What if a big adult curses an unknown child he met by the roadside until he is thoroughly hunted down?
What if you suddenly steal someone else's kid's tableware and throw it away?
It will definitely be reported, right?
If you do something to someone else that would be a crime, you shouldn't do it to your family either.
I can't say bossy to people either.
For now, let's hit things in eight, not people.
Children who see that figure may notice it “dangerous” themselves.

For the test, let's say you're my kid.
“Keep your head cool, you idiot. don't be kidding. I'd rather die.” Do you listen to what they say when they say something like that?
For children, swearing from their mother has the strongest influence and creates strong feelings of self-denial.
Please promise that you will never get angry starting today.
Don't justify getting angry.
Don't have your own rules.
Yours is just imposing your own rules. Someday, your child will become mentally ill.
A child is a child's life.
Even if it's no good, it's fine.
The person himself will know when the time comes.
I can't even listen to you because your way of saying it is too harsh.
If I insult you in a way that publicly executes you in front of everyone, you should be far from listening to the fact that the feeling of why you say it that way of saying it takes priority.
Let's stop getting emotional and bullying kids. It's great as a parent.
It's not the kid's fault.
I'm upset that I don't listen to you and it doesn't turn out the way I want.
In other words, your ego is just strong.
You're just imposing your wishes, desires, and demands on your kids.
Will people around the world lose their likes and dislikes when they become adults? There are likes and dislikes, of course. I don't understand if I taught my children the importance of life with my mouth.
You said, “Don't scold kids!” Don't you stop scolding when they say that?
And even if this much is said by the monk, you will surely ask them to bully the child again.
You wouldn't know if it was said in words without a heart. If that's the case, wouldn't it be the same as my own child? They are similar. Scold others in front of others. If you do that, your own demons won't come out. It's bully to say something intimidating in a crackling voice, even if it's in front of someone else. You should be more externally illuminated. You should live a way of life where you're not ashamed to show what you're doing. What does that mean?
It means I won't scold you.
It means not getting angry.
It means admonish. I can't. it's difficult, isn't it? I'm going to do that.
P.S. ◎ It is the adult ego that demands high ideals for children.
Let's keep the following three things in mind starting today.
I don't expect it. I'm not asking for it. Don't impose your own opinions.
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