Why shouldn't we commit suicide

I'm 58 years old. they're old, aren't they? When I was in my 20s, like you, an idol named Okada Yukiko committed suicide. Then, many people committed suicide as if they were following this idol.

Now, I'm thinking about those days. Suicides will probably become more frequent in the future.

Actually, such a trend has already begun in August, and in particular, statistics have been published showing that the suicide rate of young women like you has risen by as much as 40 percent.

Not only celebrities, but everyone was in a difficult situation to live, especially for women of the same generation as you. It's not just about you.

Speaking of how to overcome this situation and how to respond to your concerns as an individual, after all, it means “altruism” since he is a Buddhist monk.

Humans tend to lose sight of the meaning of life when they feel alone. Monks from the same denomination as me run the “Kyoto Suicide and Suicide Counseling Center.” There, a man who volunteered to commit suicide came to receive advice. At that time, she looked like she was dying even now. However, they were in the middle of moving, so while they were being helped, they were lively and by the time they got home, they were completely well, and it seems that they went home excitedly saying, “I'm here to help with anything again.”

This example clarifies how loneliness or lack of feeling useful to others reduces people's motivation to live, and conversely, motivates people to live when they are involved with people and feel useful.

Take me as an example, they have a children's cafeteria, and it seems really fun to see the faces of other volunteers. I can't see my own face, but they probably have the same expression.

If you can't find the meaning of living right now, it's time to put yourself in a relationship with someone else. Then, the motivation to live within that relationship springs up. Doesn't that just make dealing with children fun? If you don't like kids, it's fine if you're old.

Right now, due to COVID-19, everyone has to avoid contact, so society as a whole is lonely, isn't it? But try something.

Also, see the following article. Coincidentally, this is an article I just read.
https://www.dailyshincho.jp/article/2020/10020605/?all=1

I read your consultation.

Why shouldn't we commit suicide? But I don't think it's a problem that can be judged as good or bad.

But if you ask that kind of question yourself, even if you don't know the reason, isn't something wrong? Don't you feel it from the bottom of your heart?

Not only because you don't want the world or others, but don't you have that kind of thing as an inherent sense of yourself? The reason is nature before.

I've always been told that life is boring.

Life is “How boring! Somebody please enjoy my life!” That attitude doesn't make it interesting. It's boring just passively to wait.

The monk recommended getting involved with others first. I agree with that. Whether it's volunteering, a part-time job, or a club, anything is fine. Let's try it.
Getting involved with others is also accompanied by negative feelings such as hassle and annoyance. However, if you eliminate it and just flow in an easier way, people will become lonely and lose sight of the meaning of life. This is because I'm not living alone; I'm living in all kinds of relationships. If you eliminate the relationship, the content will be lost from “me.”

People who chose to commit suicide were not good or bad; they probably questioned the meaning of life over life and death. And I think they fought hard until they came to a decision.

Instead of choosing a path based on good or bad evaluations and values, let's maximize your own sensitivities and approach life with a subjective attitude about what you should do to get true satisfaction.

You could start by saying that you don't like bad things. It's a good idea to start by seriously working on it, even though it's disgusting, even though it's disgusting.

I'm looking forward to your future. Please tell me about the current situation again. I'm waiting for you at hasunoha.

Narira-sama

In Buddhism, it does not mean that the act of “suicide” itself is bad, and particular emphasis is placed on matters relating to that “motive.”

If the “motivation” is bad due to worry, etc., the consequences of that act will also be bad, and it will have a bad effect on karma for the future, so it becomes a problem.

Well, if it is a suicide due to a good motive, I wonder if it is good, but it is quite limited, and there are places that cannot be easily determined by us ordinary people.

However, I think most of the motives for suicide in the world are probably motivated by distress. So, after all, it's a place I can't recommend.

Anyway, there are places where only the person himself can understand his true motives and feelings.

I would like to pray that you will be on a good and peaceful path.

In Buddhism, we all talk about suffering first. Exactly like that, there is a world where people struggle a lot.

However, Buddha makes it clear in the four sacred truths that if you walk in Buddhism, you will reach a quiet and peaceful state without suffering.

It's suffering, concentration, destruction, and abandonment.

Now you know exactly the truth about suffering.

Next, let's learn about why suffering happens.

Please use the following as a reference for your studies.

“Dalai Lama's Buddhist Philosophy Lecture: From Suffering to Bodhisattva” (Daito Publishing)

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Narira-san

I read your consultation. I think they've worked so hard that they want to commit suicide.

Among the opinions that suicide should not be done or should not be done, there were also opinions such as “if you make yourself think it's easy to commit suicide, people will misunderstand it.”

There were various reasons, even for celebrities, and I think they all had their own worries and suffering.
I think suicide is an option. But I also think that's the last option.

So why not expand your options?

If you're afraid of getting involved with people, I think it's okay to experience nature such as the ocean, mountains, rivers, and animals.
Things called solo camps are also popular now. I think one option is to make time alone and spend time in the great outdoors, slowly looking at your heart by cooking and having a bonfire.

It doesn't matter if it's something close to you, so why not take action? If you change your behavior, your life will change.

I don't know why Narira-san wanted to die, so I can't say anything irresponsible.

However, what you posted on Hasunoha with a selfish interpretation sounded like a cry from Narira's heart saying “I want to live,” so I gave my own answer.

I'm praying at my own pace that Narira-san's suffering will cease to be suffering. Gassho