My marriage between an irreligious person and an emerging religious believer

Eminem
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an. Thank you for your support.

Having become aware of marriage, he has joined an emerging religion. His family also has similar beliefs, and they are told that they will accept marriage requirements, and they feel uneasy.

First, let's talk about “emerging religions,” but since Buddhism was an emerging religion about 2,500 years ago, there is no such thing as “new = bad.”
Also, even if Eminem gets married without feeling like believing in that religion, there is a possibility that a sense of faith will eventually develop.

The problem is that he hid (or didn't say) that until now. Also, at first, they didn't talk about credit, but now they are conditional on receiving credit.
If it's so important that a credit is a requirement for marriage, I'd like you to say it before 5 years have passed since you've been in a relationship.

If you're a very average Japanese person, I think there are many cases where men and women have their own family denominations. And once they get married, I don't think the wife will feel much doubt about performing Buddhist rituals in her husband's parents' denomination.
However, even if women have clear beliefs, isn't it an easy advantage of Japanese people to be able to live while respecting each other?

Eminem, this is something you should think carefully about. As far as I've read the question text, it's probably “If I (Eminem) are satisfied, I'll accept it. I don't think it's a situation where you can't say “if you're not satisfied, don't force it.”

According to the rules of Hasunoha, it is not possible to say which religion is good or bad. I'm sorry for throwing you away, but first, please do some detailed research on that religion yourself. I also recommend talking to Eminem's family.

Love and faith are different things! I'd like to say that, but it's a difficult position. (^^;;
Since they are certainly getting married, they are also in the position of husband. But it's a religion after all. If I could think at ease
how is it? I'm a Shugendo monk, so my idea is syncretism between Shinto and Buddhism. If you enter the peak (go into the mountain by going)
When gods and Buddhas dwell in rocks, rivers, and old trees, they visit everywhere. While shouting conch shells, many walkers form a line up and enter the mountain wearing a robe called bell kake, headscarves, and a robe with Bonten on it.
Think about it, it's a strange sight if you look at it from another denomination. (^^;; Yamabushi in particular has a bad image. But I love Shugendo. I like Yamabushi. I worship and believe in mountains and nature.
Seen from a third party's point of view, the person in question is serious, even when it is ridiculous. As an aside, peeking west when I first entered the peak
You'll be suspended from a cliff called that. It's really ridiculous and ridiculous, but that is ascetic practice. My idea is that worshiping precious things is the same for all religions in the world, Buddhism, and Shinto.
It's an emerging religion, so don't be afraid or bad, why don't you ask him to talk about religion once? As far as I can see the content of your question, it seems like they just heard the ceremony and naturally rejected it.
So why don't you make your own opinions clear too? If I were to accept the letter, I would do it. If you're not going to get accepted, you have to. If we've been in a relationship for 5 years, wouldn't we be able to talk clearly?
This question is very difficult to answer from our religious point of view. (^^;;
It's been so hectic that I haven't got an answer, sorry! I think I would choose love. m (_ _) m

You have no choice but to become his guru.
Let's launch an emerging religion with me and solve his brainwashing. (^▽^;)
We should think about the essence of things.
What is essential is originally religion, but I'm Tange, a religious researcher who feels that most recent religions are simply thoughts and such ways of thinking.
Because before religion, sects, and naan, “humans come first.”
When it comes to what that means,
eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body, mind,
Even if they say they don't like China, they eat Chinese food and drink oolong tea.
There are Japanese people who love kimchi and yakiniku, even if they say they don't like Korea.
It's the same thing when it comes to religion.
On the religious side, if it's in the narrow sense of a restraint system where this isn't cool or you have to do it, please think carefully about the above theory and chew it.
It can pass through your eyes, ears, or anything.
There is also a way for you to choose a free heart that is not bound by religion = religious mind in the true sense of the word. If you understand that, no matter what you believe, no matter where you belong, there is no blind belief or brainwashing.
If your boyfriend doesn't choose you, he's a brainwashing guy who won't take care of you in the future, so give up on PC right away.
In the first place, the roots of human activity are the same.
The content of the activities to be happy and spread happiness is the same.
Let's compare religion to eating without thinking too hard about it.
Assuming that my religion is the tonkotsu ramen sect and the all-you-can-add mustard group,
Let's say your boyfriend is in the Soyu Soy Sauce Ramen sect and free toppings.
Assuming you are a member of the udon sect dipping sauce mushroom group,
Let's say your parents are in the soba sect's spicy daikon without wasabi.
They are all the same food and the same noodles.
Wouldn't it be nice if you could enjoy the differences?
However, if you say it's heavy to keep eating for the rest of your life, tell your boyfriend about this, and why is your back fat so thick and heavy since morning for me who is in the same group! Which is more important, me or Zuckoo! Why are you and your parents so bad that they don't even give me the right to choose what I want to eat? It's about making a statement of intent before marriage. (^▽^)
Don't rely on things that break down.
Be based on things that are unbreakable.

Eminem

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I want to get married, but my partner's belief in an emerging religion is a requirement, and I'm worried... this is quite a difficult issue...

In particular, as long as the emerging religion does not cause actual harm due to destructive cults, etc., I know that it is OK to have an in-law relationship, but I know that no effective benefits (riyaku) can be obtained even if they enter the faith and participate in various events and events while there are many doubts or doubts. That too can't be helped, and I think it's one thing to put up with it because I want to prioritize my marriage with him anyway.

Of course, it is also conceivable that marital relationships will deteriorate due to things in that emerging religion in the future, or that distrust of each other will occur, and nothing will come to naught. Therefore, I think it is good that rules such as this far good and bad up to this point are set based on information that each other knows as much as possible about that emerging religion before marriage (I know there are times when you can understand various things even through internet searches).

Anyway, as an attitude towards religion, I believe it is important to carefully, critically and rationally examine it without easily standing on infallible theories.

Also, I know that blind, delusional, and fanatical beliefs in particular can be really dangerous rather than useful in some way, so we need to be careful.

Question “My husband is a member of an emerging religion.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/353

Question “Please tell me what you thought 'this teaching doesn't fit the present day'”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/179

Question “How to find a mentor”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/136

“... among the teachings of Tibetan Buddhism, there is a saying, “You should not accept the teacher's teachings with respect alone; you should also accept the master's teachings in such a way that a goldsmith carefully examines whether the money they handle is real or fake, and by burning, cutting, and polishing that money,” it is possible to repeatedly examine the teacher's teachings critically and rationally, and practice those teachings after being firmly convinced It's going to be important. ・・”

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　Hello. My name is Yoshida Toshihide from the Soto sect. It's far from a perfect answer, but I hope it's helpful, so I'll just say a few words.

Dare I say it like a relative's knowledgeable uncle.

“When marriage becomes concrete, various worries and problems come up. Even though the purpose of the parents' house and the purpose of the marriage family are the same, the conventions are different in different regions. If the family temple is different, the manners are different. What's more, the purpose of the marriage partner is different.
At the wedding, the bride wears a plain, white kimono. It's an expression of the bride's determination to follow new family rules, and it's an expression of determination that can be dyed in any color.
Having said that, if the purpose is different, and the conventions are different, there will be a lot of anxiety. What's more, on the day you're told to believe, it's okay if you hesitate about getting married itself. But hey, there are barriers in life that you have to overcome. It's probably the cause that people you've fallen in love with have believed in. Take the plunge. You may be uneasy and uneasy before you jump in, but if you jump in, you'll be able to do something about it. Noticing differences, acknowledging differences, and respecting each other is the path for married couples.
I don't mean to force them to get into the letter. Right now, freedom of religion is guaranteed by the Constitution, and it's not something that binds all of people's hearts.

When I was talking with our family temple and the chief priest before, it became a topic of conversation about “family religion, individual religion.” The chief priest said, “A parishioner's wife went to a Christian church and was baptized. However, they attended their ancestors' annual memorial service together and burned incense, and at the time of their mother-in-law's funeral, they assisted Danna, the mourner.
When that wife died, I first had a funeral at a Christian church and then cremated her. After the cremation, my husband came to the temple to explain the situation and said that he would like to hold another funeral at the family temple so that my ancestors would enter the tomb on good terms. The funeral was held in accordance with the request, and the bones were buried in the grave. There may be criticism of this approach, but I also think this kind of thing is necessary in order to respect each other's positions and keep things in a circle.” That was it.

If the purpose of your boyfriend's house is an antisocial religion, they'll stop you even if you tie him up with a rope, but if that's not the case, I wonder if it's just a form or something. Listen carefully to stories from your boyfriend, do a lot of research, and have a good discussion with your boyfriend's parents.”