Unsure about marriage

Well, I understand what you're saying very well, but...
Why don't you take a one-inch bird's-eye view?

There's nothing good about it, even if your partner doesn't like it.
there must have been some kind of event, so...

Right now, maybe they're both a kind of marriage blue...

First of all, please cuddle up to him.
Don't put up with it; place emphasis on creating a fun family.

Boomin-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Anxiety and hesitation about getting married... I have asked the following questions until now.

Question “I'm engaged, but I'm uneasy”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/374

Question “I'm so envious of my friends around me.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/290

Yes... what is important, what should be prioritized... there are places where it is unavoidable for various different people to have slight differences with each other... of course, the connection between each other's hearts is important, but I also want to cherish the form in which it manifests itself...

Looking back, there were certainly various conditions from my humble wife even at the time of my humble marriage...

Engagement rings, weddings, honeymoons, new homes, etc... there were aspects where I thought it would be nice if we had feelings for each other and understood each other anyway... but as women, after all, we also have longings, dreams, and hopes for marriage, so of course, we made as much effort as possible, and of course there were fights, but I look back on how hard they managed. Even so, there were various complaints (huh?) I think so... there is also a possibility that you will see this answer, so I would like to express my remorse for things that haven't come to pass here yet.

Well, for your partner, even if it's a second time, it's probably going to be once in a lifetime for Boomin-sama, so I definitely want you to take that into consideration...

It would be nice if we could discuss it as much as possible and proceed smoothly with each other's good points, but... well... I know that there may be an opportunity later when it comes to greetings to parents as the biggest concern, and maybe it's okay to first convey the feeling that we should greet them first... in a letter or in person.

Anyway, first of all, I want to cherish each other's emotional connection and love, and then we want to have a serious and peaceful time together.

After that... I'm treating Hiroshi Yoshino's congratulatory song as a humble answer to the question below, so I would be happy if you could take a look.

I wish you happiness.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/374

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Good morning, Mr. Boomin.

I understood Mr. Boomin's thoughts and his opponent's stance in writing.

However, I can't see the relationship between my partner and my parents.

I think values about marriage are divided depending on whether you look at it as a contract between individuals or as a connection between family and family.

If you want children, I hope that someone somewhere will introduce you to Grandpa or Grandma for the sake of your child.
Also, is it OK not to worry about nursing care etc. when parents get older?

I feel like I'm in the countryside, but I think it's necessary to have a system where Boomin-sama can get in touch with the other person's parents somewhere.

If the relationship where they like each other continues on the path of marriage, not only patience and compromise, but also things that Boomin cherishes during marriage are gradually conveyed to the other party,
I think of a good relationship.

I think it would be better to listen to various opinions, so I will answer them in a super dry manner from a different point of view.
I'm worried about the future, so please don't get bogged down by this or that.
First, it would be better not to get married until he awakens to humanity that captures the feelings of your parents.
Also, even though he's in a situation where you're getting married for the first time, he's a little too demanding.
Put it bluntly, you're stingy. (lol)
That = being self-oriented.
In other words, you and he both see nothing but yourself.
I also feel that you are very demanding. But that's my first marriage, so of course. But there's something more important than what you're asking for. A stable financial and spiritual relationship for the future.
Since he has been divorced once, I also feel that he is wary of women.
If you negotiate through a committed relationship with Ayumu that really makes you think that this woman would be willing to give everything, you should be able to get something.
You still don't have enough of that, so he probably won't work hard either.
Even so, if you say NO, it goes so far as to say that he has that kind of personality.
Even if you're such a cold man, if you want to get married, you'd better be prepared for optional things after that. Either way, I don't take it for granted that I married him and get something. In life, you only get what you get yourself.
You have a stronger desire to get married, and if you want to marry him, you're probably stronger. If there is an obligatory part, it must be said that it is a cold marriage.
“We will drop all demands. Instead, we should demand that “no matter what happens, we improve each other mentally.” Eventually, they will get involved with each other's parents through memorial services, etc.
Whether the ring is a diamond or not, a broken relationship will be broken.
As of now, they are already demanding of each other, so it is inevitable that your relationship will falter in the future. That's why even at such times, if there's no such thing as not being able to wobble, being able to correct the trajectory, and having a place of calm where you can return, it's his way of experiencing divorce. Even now, they're not trying to get involved with their parents, so it's certain that they'll be bogged down.
Conclusion: Pro Bozu says that there are still not enough ways to live a life where you can fall in love with him or make him want to propose.

　Your boyfriend is tough, isn't he? Is work difficult? I wonder if my head is so full at work that I can't even think about getting married. I wonder if my separated wife's alimony is huge. There are various delusions at work.
Eagles give extreme answers that are different from other monks. Please stop this marriage. You don't have a good life waiting for you. If you refuse company housing, isn't there a chance that it will worsen his company's position and affect his career advancement? Even if two people whose gears don't match at the beginning get together, there is no guarantee that things will go well in the future. There are times when my boss at the company has a wedding, so I definitely should do it. It's not about the two of you.
It's fine if it's cheap, so please have a wedding for them, husband. Living in a company house is cheaper than living in other condominiums, and people have relationships with people related to the company, so if you build it well, you can talk to each other about common problems, wife. If you don't like that, I recommend breaking up thinking that horses didn't suit each other.
It's up to you to decide whether to use it as a reference or not.