Contradictions in ways of thinking

“I want to live a way of life without a strong presence...” is very difficult.
How can we do something like that? well then...

In Buddhism, we solve all our struggles.
The “four pains” are the four pains of life, old age, illness, and death. “Eight tribulations” are the “four hardships”: Aibetsuriku (the pain of breaking up with someone dear), grudge and bitterness (suffering of meeting someone you hate), unrequited bitterness (suffering from not being able to obtain what you are looking for), and bitterness gojoku (suffering arising from the five elements that form the mind and body)

Looking at these, I think you can see that your “I want to live a way of life without a strong presence...” is a very difficult problem.
it's difficult

They seem to think “I don't like being praised either,” but I think the idea of not seeking honor or praise is a great way to live. Goso Dogen Zenji of the Soto sect strictly admonished “a heart that tries to seek fame and fortune (myomon ryo).” In Zen Buddhism, there is a term called “moschoseki.” It means a way of life that leaves no footprints. It's a way of life where you don't show off yourself. As a concrete example, Osho Yoshikan praises a monk named Senkei who he was with during his ascetic training at Tamashima Entsu-ji Temple in Chinese poetry. I think Senkei Osho's way of life is a missing trace. Due to the character limit, I will only introduce the read text and the translated text.

Senkei Osho (read down)
Senkei Osho becomes a true Taoist, doesn't say it silently, makes it simple, and doesn't make shapes
I'm at the Thirty Year Kokusenkai, don't go to Zen, don't read the sutras
Make a memorial service to the public without even one verse of the Sōmon sect
At that time, I saw Gayuki, but I met him unseen, I met him, but I didn't meet him
Call it now (then) try to do it, but it won't be possible to get it
Is Senkei Osho a true Taoist
(Translation) Senkei Osho was really close to Buddhism. You don't say a word that you don't have in mind. There was no decoration even in its shape. He practiced ascetic practices in the forest (dojo) of Osho Osho Osho in Osho for thirty years. From beginning to end, he was in a position where he did not meditate or recite sutras. They didn't even explain a word or a half of the teachings of the sect; they simply made vegetable gardens and offered them to ascetic monks. At that time, while they were in the same dojo, they finally didn't understand the greatness of Senkei Osho. Even if I wanted to learn from Senkei Osho and practice again now, it's impossible. Senkei Osho was a true enlightened Taoist. (Reference: “Dafalun” Heisei 3/11 issue)

Setting this way of life as one goal may also help you live your life. However, in order to live as a human being, I don't think relationships with others can be avoided. Defamation and criticism are common in the world, and there are times when people receive unsaid slander even if they live seriously and steadily. In order to work and live in society, I think it is also necessary to improve abilities and skills to withstand various forms of defamation and criticism, even if you don't seek praise.

Things people regret shortly before death.
It's “something I didn't do.”
Don't you really regret choosing that way of life?
It's important to clarify why.
The best way to do that is to try writing it out on paper.
First, let's write down 100 reasons.
Please write it out desperately while getting your brain sweaty.
Then it's not too late to choose.

(-_-me) Where and how you turn is your life. I don't even know those of you who never meet face to face.
As a bonus, no one thinks of you, and even if you do, don't worry, it's a temporary idiot.
Anyway, don't worry, at some point, you will all be forgotten by everyone,
What I want to say is because I am aware of my excessive self-consciousness, I am aware of the dangers of excessive self-consciousness, and I know very well that you can be free by leaving ❝ your delusions ❞, which is an unreal world created by excessive self-consciousness.
I feel that your question is how do you not have to suffer for worrying about others.
You will grow by leaps and bounds by learning from the previous question that you are more likely to be stained (stained) by your own thoughts.
It's probably yourself, not anyone else, who is dirtying you, or making you feel bad.
It's so refreshing to get out of your own futon. (^<^)
A silver bullet for you
① Don't get affected!
What is in front of you is what you see, but it's not about you.
② Don't force your own rules!
The cause of anger is self-imposed. Don't let your opponent apply my rules. Your opponent is frustrated without permission due to the other person's circumstances, so it is necessary for Aladdin to get frustrated even you.
③ Be aware of your own smoke
You think that person must be thinking this way is what you think. your smoke.
Wouldn't it be nice if they didn't like you? AKB was frowned upon, and it was a monster victory that attracted attention.
There is also a level for Being Hated. Whether they get scolded or yelled at, it's still a place of love.
No one appreciates others as much as you.
Please make an effort to create clean air rather than coughing up poison gas and smoke frequently with your own thoughts. = The reaction is calmer and milder.

Mimizuku-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Seems like they're a little bad at socializing...

When it comes to socializing with people, of course, I don't think it's necessary to force yourself to go out with them. If you overdo it, you will accumulate too much stress and dissatisfaction, and you may fall into a vicious cycle of various things, so you really need to be careful. Anyway, when it comes to socializing, I think it's important to maintain a moderate balance and a good sense of distance for Mimizuku-sama.

However, I think it is necessary to recognize that we are beings that cannot live alone.

It is said that they are “lucky” beings that can exist in various relationships and dependencies, and I have dealt with this a bit in the following question.

Question “The high level of pride and the feeling of looking down on people”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002992069.html

“... Understanding 'luck' means, for example, when I think about “can I really live on my own,” I realize that this is completely impossible. Being associated with various things and things, and countless others, in other words, being “lucky,” means that when we understand the state of our “being kept alive,” we begin to feel aware, thankful, and thankful for those who keep us alive, and we are able to humbly refrain from arrogance and foolishness, and treat others with compassion, concessions, kindness, and compassion. ・・”

Also, although it is a “way of life without a strong presence,” as long as we have to live in a world of “good fortune,” it is something that cannot be lost at all. No, essentially, “existence” is something called a “sky” that is not an entity, and I can explain it from a Buddhist point of view that “presence” does not exist as an entity, but this is a bit difficult, so please leave it aside for now, and for the time being, just know a little bit about the fact that existence is only made up of existence due to relationships and dependencies, and it changes at any cost depending on relationships and dependencies I know it will happen.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho