Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

What should I do from now on with my husband whose disgust won't go away

My husband is a good-natured person whose sincerity is his greatest virtue. They overcame many years of infertility treatment, and they loved their only daughter so much that it didn't hurt even if they saw her. We enjoyed every event with our family, and it was just a normal happy...

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I want to study Buddhism.

I'm an amateur, but I'd like to learn Buddhism. If you have any helpful books or websites, etc., could you please tell me? Incidentally, my family is the Jodo Shinshu sect. It seems like there are a lot of Buddhist ideas in everyday life. Thank you for your support.

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Why shouldn't we have an affair

Hello. I don't understand “why we shouldn't have an affair.” I posted it in the hope that the monks would teach me. I understand how much infidelity is a crime within the family of the parties involved. For me, how sad would it be if my husband or parents had an affair (even though they're...

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A monk who became a monk is married.

I love Buddhism and I'm studying it. I have a simple question, so please let me know. I'm learning that Buddhism is the teaching of becoming a Buddha by becoming a monk and practicing. It's a long way off for me in my normal life. However, modern monks get married, drink alcohol, and live...

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I want to become a monk.

I want to become a monk. I only know an overview of the various denominations. First, I want to know if there is a chance to become a monk. I know there is a Bukkyo University. Thank you for your kind advice, Mr. Gobo.

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Effects of suicide and countermeasures

It's probably not OK to listen too much, but thank you. Please tell me what you must do to avoid bothering others when committing suicide. Also, should I express my gratitude so far? I have a feeling that people who leave words give an impression. It's not a positive question, but thank you.

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don't you ever want to die

I want to die of my habit. That's it. I often say it regardless of whether it's because I'm sick or because I'm not, My friends tell me strange things. Doesn't everyone want to die?? I think about it every day. Is wanting to die such a negative feeling? Can't I just say I want to die? Is...

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The soul of a daughter who committed suicide

I'm indebted to you. The other day, I asked you a question about my daughter. I was told that it is possible to attain Buddhism properly even by suicide, and it made me feel just a little lighter. Thank you very much. My daughter jumped into the train and passed away, I haven't been to that...

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About greed

There is an image that monks try to give up their greed when they train. For example, vegetarian cuisine is like that. So I suddenly thought that during training, I think there are times when I feel like “I want to let go of my greed.” But if you think about it carefully, it's a...

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It's too smart and it's too hard

　Hello nice to meet you As the title suggests, but it's too smart and it's tough I think it's because I read about 3000 philosophical books and religious books by myself, and my IQ is high I'm a junior high school graduate, and my lover is a student at the University of Tokyo, and my lover...

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About ascetic monks

While everyone was deeply concerned, I thought it would be out of place for me to ask this question, but it really bothered me, so I'd like you to let me know. I have a few questions about the monk. ・About how many days does it take to become a monk from an ordinary person ・Is it true that...

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A secret for her

When I first smoked, my girlfriend said, “I don't like people who smoke, so I want you to quit.” Despite what was said, I gradually continued smoking from there, and even though I confided in my girlfriend twice, she made me cry both times. I've been silently smoking for close to a year and a...

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I want to start my life over and get back together

It's been six months since I broke up with him. I've always wanted to talk to him, but I've tried not to contact him, but since he liked me on SNS a while ago, I sent a light message about a month and a half ago, but it's still unread. I wrote the details in the previous question, but he was...

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Feelings for a boyfriend who treats you

Thank you for reading. What about jobs I've talked about before I can now think in the direction of quitting. Thank you to those who answered. The main subject is about my boyfriend While I'm taking a day off from work, I do general housework when I'm energetic and can afford it, and when I...

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Do you have ancestors in graves?

Hello. I always read it while having fun and being healed. The other day, since it's the equinox, I went to visit graves where my grandfather's and grandmother's bones are located for the first time in a long time. I love my grandparents, and even now, about 7 years after they passed away,...

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Can't God or Buddha help me?

Why do innocent people have to be severely abused, stabbed by unknown passers-by, and die in disasters? I think we are in a position to be saved only when we are in a difficult situation where we cannot do anything with our own efforts. Therefore, I cannot trust God or Buddha.

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Recite sutras at funerals, etc., and receive offerings

I'm sorry for your busy schedule. Among the oldest sutras which are said to be closest to the Buddha's original teachings, The Buddha was refused to receive alms when he committed any act, I hear it says Also, Buddha explained that there is no point in chanting something like nembutsu to...

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I want to meet you

My father passed away a month ago. My father was clumsy but kind, and I love him. It's so lonely, sad, and unbearable when I think that they aren't there anymore. I open my urn and touch my bones every day. I touch it with the feeling that I want to be convinced that my father is gone, and...

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hopelessness. I don't know what to do.

I had a consultation here 2 days ago. I received an answer, and I was just thinking of doing my best in a positive way again. Progress has now been made. In an email from my ex-husband, “My parents said they had no intention of replying.” It was written on it. I still get emails from my...

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I'm being cornered at work

I'm isolated at work. It's a 6-person team workplace, and only I'm in my 30s, and all 5 other people are in their 50s. Three of them are bosses, and 2 are seniors with over 20 years of company experience. They are all conservative, don't like challenges, changes, or new ways of doing things,...

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