Can a deceased parent possess a child

Hello.

You seem to be consulting with a “psychic mediator” and also consulting with a “temple.” I don't know where your own denomination or religion is, but I'll just use my thoughts as a reference.

I think there is a completely different way of thinking between a “psychic mediator” and a “temple” that worships Buddhism.

“Psychic mediators” think that this observation and control can be performed on the premise of “spirits.”
Control is a way of thinking about manipulating things the way you want them to.

Buddhism does not presuppose the existence of something immortal called a “spirit” or something supernatural.
The idea is to control that something and reflect on the way you are and how you feel about yourself, to take reality the way you want it (worry).

In other words, the fundamental problem is that you think equally about things in completely different directions.

The fact that “sad things happened around me in quick succession” must be bothersome.
In particular, I think it's painful to lose two of my relatives.

However, does it continue with the worldview that “deceased parents may possess children”? Will we live on the premise of values such as “spirits”?

Or are you just going back to a clean slate and start listening to the teachings of Buddhism from scratch?

Rather than asking about the amount of “money” for “purification,” I think the first step is to choose whether it is “spirit” or Buddhism as a major premise.

So, if you assume “spirits,” monks who aim for Buddhism don't know how much that amount is. I think it would be better to gather second opinions and information from “psychic mediators.”

First, choose your values.

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Thank you very much for your kind replies and feelings. I'm happy with your thoughtfulness. I will make it an offering.
I don't think the problem will be solved right away once, but if there's anything you'd like to talk about again, please let us know.

Thank you very much.

> Can deceased parents possess their children in search of help?

It's possible. When you pass away and you are reincarnated to a place where you can come into contact with the best person on Gakido, you live with only your heart, it's more painful than humans, you don't know what to do, and you remember when you were a human just before, so you try to rely on your relatives (children).
In the early Buddhist sutras “Gakiji Sutra,” etc., people who know that their relatives have become spirits and rely on them do good acts such as giving alms instead and say, “This is for you (so that suffering is easier with this merit. I hope you will be reincarnated in a good place (celestial world) [⇒ Mahayana says to attain Buddhism]).” [One's] merits [to others] are called conversion (devotion).
I don't know if this psychic mediator knows “The Gakki Sutra,” but what he's doing seems to be in line with that content.
Reference: Fujimoto Akira, “Gakki Sutra - Stories of the Dead” (Sanga, Kokusho Publishing Association) [may be difficult to obtain now. Go to the library!]

> Is the time and money required for purification so different depending on the location?

It's not impossible. This is because even for normal funerals and memorial services, time and money (offerings) vary in various ways depending on the temple. I think the standard was shown first as a guideline for that psychic mediator. Even with offerings, there are monks who show the “approximate market price” and “standard amount for our temple” first.

Am I rather a second opinion? It's more heartening that you weren't quite convinced by the temple you went to with that intention.
If it is a payment that buys and sells goods or requests construction, the results are also material and easy to see. However, mental problems (being possessed and having a heavy or unstable body or mind also tend to be a mental problem) are difficult for the person to understand, so in the end, you will be burdened a lot by whether or not you can trust the person who says it.
If you ask me, “there is no way for parents to possess children” is that monk's assertion, and it seems that it is not possible to determine whether it is true or not.

Buddhism recommends that every time you do something good, whether your mother possesses it or not, you should turn to merit by saying, “This merit will all turn to sentient beings after your mother has died.” Psychic mediators take the stance of “If you can't do it yourself, I'll do it for you,” and I think it's a good idea to try your best on your own first.
　

Hello.

In Buddhism, cause and effect are explained. It means that there is a cause for every event that is currently occurring. This causal effect is not a strange causal relationship such as “it cleared up on the day of the excursion because my daily activities were good,” but a realistic causal relationship where “the destination was covered by high atmospheric pressure on the day of the excursion, so it became clear.”

It was about a month between the death of your grandmother and the death of your mother. The cause of the mother's death is as described in the profile, and there is probably no causal relationship with the grandmother's death. I don't know what illness or injury your lover is, but wasn't the event that caused the surgery even before your mother died?
When people are unhappy, they tend to want to place responsibility on something invisible during their psychology, but in terms of Buddhism, there is no teaching that something invisible works directly. Everything is made up of a perfect combination of cause and effect that can be scientifically proven.

Also, do you think your mother would do something that would make you unhappy, even if there was such a thing as “possessing”? Also, I think both my grandmother and mother had a proper funeral. A funeral is a ceremony where the deceased becomes a disciple of the Buddha. Right now, they should be doing the right training in the right place. There's probably no such thing as being obsessed with people.

It's not something that can be scientifically proven
The point is whether or not you believe in something.

I am
I believe that those who have died will attain Buddhism
I can't believe it would be possessed by someone.

let alone
What is “a parent possesses a child and causes disaster”
I can only say that I'm blaspheming my parents.

even if I die and can't attain Buddhism
We don't do anything to make children anxious.