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I don't fit in with the workplace

I am consulting for the first time.
It's been 3 months since I changed jobs from the same industry to the same job, but it's not easy to get used to the workplace.

It's not very bright, and some office workers say they are sneaking around and talking nonsense right in front of them, and arguing with each other.
There are people who speak ill of someone every day or even go talk to that person.
You can see that the easier it is to understand, the more blatantly disliked it is.

I myself am afraid of people because of various things, and there is also the fact that I am single
It looks strange from the surroundings.

Even though my work is similar to before, I'm filled with a sense of impatience without being useful at all.
They have ages and personalities, so it's not that easy to fall for them.

Please tell me how I should position myself in a completed relationship.

4 Zen Responses

The main body of the information does not change even if the shape of the shadow changes

It's probably lonely. However, silence means working for something called comfortable silence, even if it is quiet.
Let's create a core in our heart by firmly accomplishing what we should do in the course of the day.
It means you won't have to worry about people's eyes or pick up gossip.
In the first place, if you have that kind of free time, you should do a little bit about “what the company wants from you” in the form of work at your new workplace. You're reading too much air. Contributing for the company, not for the office manager or boss monkeys, will walk the main path.
Rather than worrying about following the shadows of “what people think” in terms of appearance, character, etc., we should value the main body of achieving results with reality, action, and content.
Rather than acting for the sake of “I want people to think this way,” I think it's better to act quietly and bluntly without imitating yourself too much so that you are recognized as such without lying to yourself.
The essence of human rumors is just information.
People who like to talk about rumors often only fear that their position will be threatened.
It only shows that people who make rumors are friendly and not hostile, and don't force them to go out with each other. It's about not getting caught up in the depths. No matter how hard they try, it's better to think that people like that don't speak well about people.
It's about acting in good faith, and moving your body rather than your thoughts rather than your words.
In order not to worry about people's eyes or gossip, the most important thing is to leave your own results, that's all. If you do it properly, you will be properly appreciated.
People who place importance on rumors find gossip more useful than work.
What you need to do is work, earn money, be fulfilled, and live yourself.

What can you do right now?

Good morning, Motoko-san.
It is correct as Master Tange's answer.
What are you going to work for?
You're going out to make money!!
Your “customer” is the president and boss of the company.
The office office and boss monkeys are not customers!

I'm posting stories about my school days for office workers with poor hearts like you. Please use it as a reference if you like.
“Buddha's Way” http://ameblo.jp/hotokenomichi

I learned one more thing today, thank goodness

Nice to meet you, Mr. Motoko, my name is Akazawa.

Changing jobs from the same industry to the same industry... I think it's great. This is because it is easier for humans to work in a world they know than to work in a world they don't know.

The reason is that “I can work with my senses.” There's no more enjoyable workplace than being knowledgeable about that world and being able to work with your senses.
I think the reason I enjoy my current job as a monk is because I have slightly more knowledge than others and I have had a long experience.

That's me, but until just the other day, I was a monk who didn't have my own temple.
So in order to keep eating, I live and work at someone else's temple.
Of course, it's at the bottom. My boss at work is the son who is the heir to that temple. Even though I was undefeated in my career as a monk, I was always cleaning toilets, mopping floors, and wiping my responsibilities even though I was able to do sermons that my heir son couldn't do.

I held back my feelings for a long time, made notes on what was said, and when I went back to my room, I kept a reflection notebook. Write down your own points of reflection and be careful not to make the same mistake.

Work is a series of learning, isn't it? Not only work but also relationships in the position you're placed in make you grow.
I had a high level of pride, and I didn't really understand the importance of this kind of thing, but I started by waking up earlier than anyone else, opening the temple gate myself, and saying hello cheerfully.

Then something seemed to relax my mind, and when we exchanged greetings, I began to understand “this person is in a bad mood today.”
Also, I was able to forgive people even if they had an unreasonable attitude, saying “it can't be helped,” and I was also able to learn how to worry about others.

Everything, good and bad, makes me grow. Bad things can greatly encourage growth, don't they?
That's why I'm grateful to all the people who gave me the opportunity to learn.

I learned one more thing today, and I'm thankful for that. Let's go with this.

I hope it will be a good place to work.

Develop proper ability and insensitivity

Mototoko-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

We've received questions about not being familiar with the workplace before.

Question “I don't get used to it at work, and I'm worried about not being able to work”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002972533.html

“... If there are things or ideas you don't actively understand, etc., as is the case at meetings, I think it would be good to exchange questions and opinions little by little with team members in the common room, cafeteria, etc., without worrying too much about regular, irregular, short-term positions, or positions. ・・”

I think that lack of communication has become a major issue when it comes to human relationship issues.

Most of the time, fear and anxiety are caused by not really understanding or not knowing. Even in human relationships, there is Sun Tzu's art of war that “if you know him and know yourself, you can hardly fight a hundred battles,” but anyway, I think it is essential to be able to handle any situation by knowing your own temperament and your opponent's temperament in detail.

In order to get used to the workplace, I think it would be a good idea to start by getting to know the atmosphere, relationships, human qualities, etc. in detail, including good and bad ones. To that end, I believe that everyday communication from casual things will become essential.

The rest is to develop proper ability and insensitivity.

Question “I'm worried about changing jobs or putting up with it”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1003293425.html

“... When it comes to relationships, it's all about getting to know the other person very well. I believe that by getting to know the other person, it may be possible to devise ways so that they can respond well. Also, I don't think I have to be good friends with everyone. A group of different people, that's impossible. Appropriate ability and insensitivity are also questioned in a sense there. It is also necessary to divide what is impossible into impossible. ・・”

However, if it is absolutely impossible, your body or mind will be broken and you will have no parents or children, so of course, don't overdo it.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho