Can you change your personality?

Good morning.
People basically don't want to change themselves.
I'm terribly afraid of change.

Do you have a deep desire to change your personality?

“Decision.” There is a saying “decide and break up.”

If you really want to change your personality,
We must stop feeling that we don't want to change.

Are you prepared for that?

Thanks so much for posting.
The first thing I want to say is that personality is not that easy to change.

When I asked people who come to zazen sessions why they came, more than half
“Because I want to change my personality”
It is said.
However, if your personality changes after a few minutes of zazen meditation, it becomes a story about how your life has been up until now, and it also denies all of your past.
Nonetheless, before I started practicing Buddhism, I also wanted to change the parts I didn't like about myself.
However, when I actually went to ascetic training, the number of things I could do increased, but my personality didn't change at all. Then, after practicing for a while, I realized the viewpoint of “acknowledging my unchanging self.”

“Acknowledging your unchanging self” does not mean becoming self-depraved, nor is it about making corrections. It's about “devising ideas” while properly facing your disgusting self.

It is said that you are in a management position, but I don't think it is necessary to “revise” towards the ideal image of a manager. By aiming for ideals, you may be keenly aware of the difference with yourself and become extra depressed.
Rather than that, I think it would be better to approach work using personalities that you have thought were “disgusting” until now.

It was written for example
“I don't seem to have confidence” → “don't push through with force, but show it with theory or action”
“I apologize right away” → “I emphasize politeness”
“I can't express my opinion” → “try to listen carefully”
I think there are things that can be changed with ingenuity, etc.

I think living by using as much as possible of yourself, including the parts you don't like, is really “living.”

If you still want to change, the only thing you can change is your “habit.”
By implementing the habit of wanting to be like this, even one by one per week, I think the impression you see on the outside will change apart from your original personality.
As the impression you see on the outside changes, it also leads to your own confidence.
What is important in making a habit is not to make strict settings and not to work too hard.
It's a good idea to start with something that makes it easier and makes you feel safe by getting into a habit

First, please once again observe your original personality, social perception, etc. without right or wrong, and devise ways.
I wish you a comfortable physical and mental life in the future.

　You can't change your personality, but why not add your personality? I have spent time, effort, and effort to change my personality over and over again. But it was impossible, impossible, impossible. What I thought one day was that addition would be good. I thought so. Add aggressiveness. It adds confidence. Add positivity. If that was the case, I felt comfortable that I wouldn't have to change myself. Then, I began to think that people don't have that many good personalities.
And now I did some subtraction and left something good for myself. But once you've entered a personality, you can't beat it all. There will be a little left. So maybe we can get the balance right.
Please try it out. It's up to you whether you're going to stand up or not.
　

Originally, there is no such thing as personality.
That's because I'm withdrawn or active, I'm just saying it roughly by referring to data on actions and actions, and depending on the other party, I may be able to say it clearly, and the fact that I keep quiet where I should speak is actually also a ❝ choice ❞ based on the person's intention.
Therefore, it does not change personalities or things that did not originally exist and are only expressions for a rough understanding of personality.
It is only good if you change your words, actions, and actions from time to time.
You can change your behavior by observing the background in which you are choosing that action.
In Zen Buddhism, they say don't accept it.
I'm just putting things up above my head “because I am 00” and “because I am 00,” and deciding that's the case.
The only substance of the matter is “did you not act” and “did you act” is probably the only thing.
“Whether they did it well or not” is a later story.
“Were you able to say” or “didn't you say (e)” what was to be said, that's all.
Saying “I couldn't say it” is an escape, a lie, and self-justification.
You just chose not to say it.
Or I tried to say it bluntly, and as a result of getting bogged down, I chose to be good at what I did rather than showing my own stubbornness any more than this.
What do you think, actually, that was the case? Please think back.
If you acknowledge that they were all actions you chose, you should be able to change your actions, actions, and personality.
The only keywords are “do you want to do it” and “don't you do it?” Not being able to do it is an excuse.
People who can do well just keep track of the number of places they play. Different from people who don't do it every time, they're just people who do, practice, and execute every time. Personality is like that.
Please don't be fooled by words and be able to use yourself freely.

No name set

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

They seem to have lost a little bit of confidence due to personality problems, and they are also falling into self-loathing...

First of all, in this world, there is nothing that has been established as an entity, so-called “sky,” and even if you say “sky,” it's not “nothing” where there is nothing. Certainly, I and you exist, and of course I and you both have personalities and temperaments.

Then, we think that this state of affairs is established as a “fortune” that “arises” due to various causal relationships and dependencies, that is, “relationships.”

Question “I can't take the first step out of fear.”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002992579.html

“... Fear and anxiety are things called “emptiness,” not entities. Of course, even if it doesn't exist as an entity, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist at all. Also, it is impossible for such a heart to arise from nothing. It is always caused by some cause or condition, and in other words, it can be thought of as “good fortune.” Therefore, by firmly grasping the cause or condition, if that cause or condition is somehow improved, it will surely be possible to somehow improve the occurrence of such feelings. ・・”

Of course, personality also depends on the current personality due to various causes and conditions, but by thoroughly investigating and understanding the causes and conditions that have become your current personality, you should naturally be able to change your personality for the better by changing those causes and conditions for the better.

However, since personality is also influenced by congenital genetic factors and the structure of neural circuits, etc., I think it may be difficult as long as genes and cranial neural circuits cannot be manipulated.

It is undeniable that even if you want to change your personality, there are aspects where it is impossible, but for example, depending on the situation, I know that it is possible to deal with it ahead of time. If opinions and ways of thinking cannot be conveyed well, I think one way is to express and present them as a document, email, or memo in advance, etc., and make claims in advance to avoid misunderstandings.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho