An old lover has passed away, and I can't sort out my feelings.

“Love is a feeling of trying to take the other person as one's self in the name of liking, and it should not be treated as something precious. It's a kind of desire that should be kept secret.”
Bottom line: Tonight, one person quietly puts their hands together and doesn't want more.
This is something that should be kept secret. It must be painful, but neither your appearance, nor your stage, nor is he your property.
Once we've broken up, let's have a hard time and “kill” them. It's in the middle of tonight.
You should know yourself, realize the limits of human romance, and love the person you love now.
To love is to “pour love.”
The unmistakable truth is that your ex boyfriend has passed away. And since they had already broken up, there is no place to pour out love anymore. If you tell him about it as it is now, even though he has a nice face, you may feel defeated, jealous, and unresolved, inwardly, that the person you had in mind is not yourself, but someone who has died. That's ❝ disrespectful ❞ for him. The present era is a song of love, a song of love, a song of love.
Ostensibly, it's a glittering harmony played by men and women, so it should be affirmed, but let's dare to look at things calmly from a different perspective.
You broke up 6 years ago, and now you're in a relationship with another person of the opposite sex, but you're feeling sorry and having an affair.
You should determine the reality of what you are doing, even if it is because your partner has passed away.
I don't need ❝ organization ❞ of my feelings.
You just know when you should pull out your hand. That's all it takes.
It's also love to let go of your hands and set them free.
Since we broke up, we take responsibility and blame ourselves for the fact that we “broke up.”
Even if he has feelings for his partner, there must be someone he loved at the end of the day.
No matter how much you love him, it's love in this world that you can't fully love, so I think that by continuing to pour love, respect, and care for him now like a liquid, you'll wake up to who you really should love.
I dared to say something cold. It's Fudo Myoo's sword that will break your love. I'm sorry.
-Thank you-
I'm sorry if I said such a harsh thing.
We are also aware that it is difficult to break the feeling of affection, so I dared to say it. This was hard too, though. We sincerely pray for your souls.

Sabusa-san, the person she had been secretly thinking about for a long time in the back of her heart, has passed away!
It seems like there was no small amount of shock.

But let's take a good look at him now.
Memories are stored as memories in the heart drawer!

A long time ago, I once held a funeral where my husband died suddenly as a newlywed.
The wife's grief was huge, and there was quite a bit of confusion when putting it in the furnace at the crematorium and during the collection of bones. At the top of the white bone in the urn is a wedding ring...
But after a few years, she remarried and is now living a happy life.

Isn't his current boyfriend the best partner for Mr. Sabusa right now?
Let's look ahead properly.

In Buddhism, there is a term called “meeting place,” and there will come a time when we will meet people who have finished this life again. To that end, please take good care of your “now.” Don't be bound by the past!

You really loved your old lover who passed away, didn't you?
Your passing away may have brought that feeling to light.

I won't lie to my heart.

I think it was a big presence in your heart.
You may also have a lot of memories.

It was probably also a major factor in shaping who I am now.

Let's change our thoughts about that person up until now to gratitude and shed them with tears.
Thanks for meeting me.
Thanks for the memories.
Thanks for everything that didn't go well, including everything.
... like this...

Let's send out the image of him in you with gratitude and tears.

It's a real graduation from him that you haven't been able to do until now.
And I think that's good for his soul.

Sabusa-sama
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

It is said that her previous lover has passed away. I think he passed away very early, and that probably shocked his family, friends, and acquaintances.
Also, Sapusa-san, who had a short but special relationship, was so shocked that she couldn't sort out her feelings.

A few days have passed, and I think it's about time the wake and funeral services have been completed again. Were you able to go to pray safely? Were you able to say goodbye in this world?

I was a little concerned about the phrase “I want to see you again, I'll see you someday.” However, “I'm happy to meet my new lover” was also written, so I accept it as a positive feeling of “I want myself to be happy, and my old lover to be happy too.”

However, his old man has passed away. We can't tell each other that we're happy anymore. I think that is the core of the pain.

I think I don't have to calm down for a short period of time after losing a loved one, or that I don't have to let it go through.
A parent, brother, best friend or lover. It has a history of months, or even years, or decades. I don't think it's necessary to forcibly overcome the sorrow born from that history in a short period of time.

Please cherish the “mourning period.” Straightforward grieving is one way to overcome it. Please take your time and walk that path.

Sabusa-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

It's been about a month since your question was asked, but I wonder if you were able to calm your mind a little bit and hold a memorial service for the person who died...

The pain of separation from Aibetsu... a good relationship during your lifetime with someone who has passed away, and if that relationship is truly precious and irreplaceable, it is even more difficult to break up...

Until now, I have dealt with the following questions about the separation from Aibetsu.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/愛別離苦

Recently, I've been dealing with the following questions.

Question “How to keep feelings”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1003585431.html

“... I know that time will inevitably take some time, but I would be grateful if you could raise interest in the methodology for destroying suffering explained by Shakyamuni while being organized and slowly... accepting the reality of death, facing that suffering head-on, while being able to face that suffering head-on. ・・”

Truly, encounters, farewells, relationships, life and death relationships, and being able to answer questions like this... what is made up of this relationship is called “good fortune” in Buddhism, but in addition to understanding that it is an auspicious world, I also understand that in an auspicious world, nothing is permanent and eternal, and it is a “sky” that is not made up as an entity, and even because of that, cherish relationships and good relationships that are even more precious and thankful, That's why I hope you can continue to spend time in the world of relationships while valuing your relationship with your current lover. I think this will also lead to memorial services for those who have died.

I wish you happiness.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho