The sermon I received during the memorial service is stuck

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Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
I belong to a sect called the Takada school of the Jodo Shinshu sect, and I went to the Honganji school to study as a monk, so please listen as a reference.

I don't know where people with no prospects are returning home, but a wave of smaller numbers and simplification of funerals is spreading from urban areas.

Today, I participated in a study session where monks from all over the country gather, and I felt that the funeral atmosphere was very different depending on the region.
Multiple monks recite sutras, and it is common for over 100 people to attend.
It is an area where there are 1 to 2 monks, and family members hold funerals.
There were various regions where it was not uncommon for a few people to only perform cremation without inviting monks.

I have experienced funerals of all sizes. My own impression is that large funerals are bigger, small funerals are smaller, there are good points, and there are also points you need to be careful about.

I don't think it's “unhappy or arrogant because it's a small scale,” as if people with no outlook felt uncomfortable.
Even if it's just one person, if there's someone who puts their hands together with all their heart, wouldn't that be fine? No, I believe the Buddha will welcome you warmly even if you don't have that one person.

Perhaps that monk is impatient about changes in society, even though large-scale funerals have been common until now, small-scale funerals have been popping up recently.
I feel sorry that there are monks who cannot fathom the feelings of ordinary people.

I'm also not from the Honganji school, but the Shinshu Yamamoto faction, but it was a question I was concerned about, so I'd like to write it down.

I feel that the number of small funerals is increasing, even near my temple, which is not an urban area.

There are places where I don't really understand the true meaning of the temple from the text alone, but I will supplement and answer in my own way.

Funerals have an important meaning.
1. In a social sense, the meaning of saying goodbye to people around you,
2. It means a ceremony for relatives and other people related to an individual to accept that person's death.

I don't feel like small funerals, which have been talked about a lot recently, are chosen based on the idea “if it's cheap, let's finish it cheaply.”

As for 1., since the death of the deceased was not announced, many people with ties to the deceased came to the house later to ask for condolences, and I heard an unfunny story that it was rather difficult.

The death of a person is a major event for many people other than relatives.
In a sense, a funeral is also a place where people involved with the deceased can share the meaning of death.
The choice of a small funeral may be stealing this kind of place from many people.

As for 2., it's not the size of the funeral, but it may be a problem with the quality of the funeral felt by people involved in the funeral.
If it means that you haven't had a sufficient ceremony, feelings may remain in the bottom of your heart that you weren't able to say enough goodbye to the deceased.

There may also be a simple misunderstanding on the part of the temple.

A relative passed away, and I went to grieve and worked as a monk.
In the sense that they were thankful for that, it seems that a relative told the handyman, the temple.

“That's the work of a handyman's temple.” It seems that the temple said, but if you go to such a place as a monk, I think it's natural to give sutras, but I think the fact that they recited sutras in front of a Buddhist altar gave them misunderstandings due to insufficient words when conveying them.

What kind of thoughts does that temple have about funerals, and how do relatives accept funerals, why don't you do it without hesitation.

It seems to me that it was born out of an unexpectedly boring misunderstanding.

There was a memorial service for only one person the other day.
The person who passed away has siblings, but only one person performed the memorial service on the 49th.
The child (in his 40s) of the deceased person did not call any relatives, and he is the only one.
That person is a troublesome person, so they didn't call him because he was bothersome.
In my case, even though my older brother passed away, I wanted to rush to my brother's memorial service, but my child didn't invite me to do the memorial service. As expected, that is a bit lonely, isn't it?
I'm sure the chief priest didn't say it in a deep sense, including the meaning of “the deceased was not just someone specific, so I want them to feel a broad connection.”
(^<^) Isn't it possible to catch information from any angle?
For example, suppose a monk talks at a memorial service that “only husbands should do housework.”
Listen to it.
My first husband has a job, but he's really nervous. (-_-me)
It would be helpful if the two wives did it. (^<^)
Three kids, OK, I'll help with the housework when I get married. (°-°)
4 Other women may let their gas out, saying yes, I want my husband to say that.
5 Other people may have accepted that oh yeah, supporting each other is important...
It has various effects and various medicinal ingredients.
Simply put, when monks talk, they have some kind of intention, and they don't try to expose you or say bad things about you.
As a temple, I hope that the families of the parishioners will become close through memorial services at the temple and visiting graves. However, modern family circumstances are going backwards.
The questioner said that due to circumstances, a relative's funeral was held, which is why it didn't mean that, and I think it's better not to worry too much about it. (^<^)
I apologize for changing that direction.
I'm sorry for making you feel uncomfortable.

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This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Resentment against the content of this sermon... I think it really is the greatest thing.

However, as for the significance of funerals in the case of Jodo Shinshu, there is a strong aspect of apologizing to the Buddha with the bereaved families and attendees who were closely related to the person who died, so it is also up to speculate that the desire to share and deepen the thankful relationship (Buddha relationship/law relationship) with the teachings of Amida Nyorai and Shinran Shonin with as many people as possible has appeared in this sermon even though there is a lack of explanation .

Nonetheless, in light of recent world conditions and circumstances, etc., I know that there were places where people with an unset outlook would be satisfied if they talked about its significance with a little more consideration.

Previously, there were questions about family funerals, and conversely, about not being able to say goodbye for the last time.

Question “About family funerals”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002953906.html

“... Regarding the form of the funeral, of course, we are refraining from various issues related to realistic funerals, such as cost, time, complexity, etc., but as much as possible, we would like to arrange it in a way that not only the deceased and bereaved families, but also the relatives and attendees can be satisfied and satisfied. ・・”

Also, I hope you can also refer to the following questions and comments about opinions on the funeral of my humble life.

Question “funeral”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1004470067.html

Question “About funerals”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002959881.html

A supplement to my humble personal opinion on funerals and funerals
http://blog.goo.ne.jp/hidetoshi-k/e/644562be202e5ab9e6208d8f6b7d6b96

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho