I have children ages 17, 15, and 13. Ten years have passed since my husband passed away.
now... They fight with children, but they also have conversations and laughter... we are such a family...
I think kids hate me.
There's someone I'm dating, and I can't stop drinking alcohol, and I can't quit smoking...
Whether you're working hard or cleaning or preparing meals, that's a matter of course.
I know the answer to what to do, but I hate myself for not changing.
May you have lived to the fullest.
Someday the day will come when children will understand.
I want to stop smoking for my kids and not let them smoke secondhand smoke even though they don't drink alcohol. They are called fireflies, and they smoke on the veranda, but it's cold in the winter, and they get bitten by mosquitoes in the summer. It became empty. I loved pachinko, but I stopped because of education expenses.
Kids are working now, but they smoke, drink alcohol, and play pachinko. I got the qualification of a monk because it was an eternal memorial service, but in addition to the temple, they run an osteopathic clinic, but the expectation that they would take over by taking the qualification of a doctor or judo therapist did not come true even if it were ephemeral. Both of the children are salaried workers and SEs.
They said cool things for kids, etc., but children have children's lives. While addressing health risks, I couldn't stop it under the pretext of stress. I stopped it under the cause of the children, but now I'm complaining to the kids not to smoke in the living room because of the smoke. I guess they're stepping on this and kicking it (laughs) I don't even think it's the slightest bit of anger or emptiness. I'm thankful that it just got bigger. A child is a child. They have lives.
Once you have done the obvious things of eating, going to school, giving pocket money, taking advice, and teaching to the extent necessary, the rest is up to you. Whether you smoke or drink alcohol, there's no problem at all even if you have a boyfriend since you're single. don't you like it? Isn't that good? It's rare for a child to have parents who are liked and loved by them. It has to be done by both parents and children. Isn't every day arguing and fighting a family's daily life?
Please enjoy that kind of life theater. You don't need to have a good mother. I'm your mom! Please go ahead with such momentum that there are any complaints.
Seen from the outside, you're a great woman alone. great! I'm doing my best. Whether you smoke or drink alcohol, it's fine. You are wonderful just the way you are.
I sincerely pray for the happiness of everyone in the family.
You live for your children and for yourself.
I want to change that!
I want to live now just for my kids! Did they think so and were they consulted?
So until when do people live only for their children, and from around what time, there's no way people can live by thinking they will live for themselves.
Is it bad for a mother who blames herself because she feels guilty about her child right now? Since they are good mothers, they worry because they seriously think about their children.
The person supporting me now is also a child, and I think he is also supporting you now that a woman raised alcohol and cigarettes to relieve stress in order to take a break.
If you overdo it and lose you, what is your life for, the children will soon walk away.
The best thing is to be you at that time, to be able to live alone, not to make your children worry, and to that end, the best thing is to live your own way.
“I know! Children know your mother best because they laugh, cry, get angry, and fight every day.
If things don't work as they are now, I'm sure the kids will soon be separated. But one day the kids will leave. Also, there will always come a time when my mom has to leave.
You have to live your life the way you are! Being the mother of children will never disappear.
My kids don't like it. Is alcohol the reason? tobacco? boyfriend? what the hell?? Do they really hate you in the first place?
What you have treated with love will surely be conveyed to your children. You should be able to understand it even if you don't express it.
From the age of children, it's probably a time when they think about a lot of things and get anxious. There are conflicts that cannot be honestly expressed even if you compare it with the family environment around you, want help from your parents, or want to be spoiled by your parents, and you hit it off with the mother closest to you. Isn't there such a thing?
Maybe it's necessary to take your time and talk with your knees together. Seriously as a single person. Also, alcohol and tobacco should be in moderation. You also have to live a long life for your kids.