Trouble with love

One day, someone you fall in love with shows up all of a sudden. I think the reason why there aren't people you fall in love with right now is because someone you're really attracted to hasn't appeared, or you haven't noticed. People's romantic feelings actually grow unevenly. There is a huge individual difference in how old they are when they fall in love and have a lover.
As you look closely at your surroundings without fear, people you really like, admire, and respect will appear right in front of you.
I sincerely hope that you will have a really wonderful encounter!

To Towa-san

It's the same whether you're a lover or a friend, but in a relationship, communication cannot be established without conversation. Do you have any hobbies? First, let's have a hobby. If you have a hobby, there are hobby gathering sites outside or on the internet, so why not talk about it from there? If they share the same interests, they shouldn't have trouble talking. I think you'll be able to have relationships with men from there. I don't do hobbies to get a boyfriend, I do hobbies to make you attractive. If you do that, men will naturally come over. Gassho

Nice to meet you, Towa-san.
My name is Ryotaka.
Speaking of people around the age of 20, I think the topic of lovers often comes up in conversations with friends of the same sex.
I understand your concerns.

> How can I truly become good friends with men?

“Become good friends from the bottom of your heart” is compatible with your partner, and there are parts where it is difficult to jump one step further.
So, first, let's actively talk to men close to you (even if you don't like them) by saying hello with a smile. I don't think there are any men in the world who don't like being greeted by women with a smile.

> Also, how can I find someone I like and get a boyfriend?

It's all of a sudden when someone you like shows up.
Also, there are times when you gradually fall in love with people you shouldn't have liked before with a small trigger. All of these things are related, so there's no choice but to wait.

However, if you treat men with a smile on a regular basis, various men may approach you. It might be a good idea to try dating a man you've been approached by.
While we are in a relationship, we often see the other person's good points and our love deepens.

It's a bit difficult, but in Buddhism, there is a way of thinking “the sky” of “color is the sky.”
Things change all the time. Various conditions (relationships) overlap between objects and emotions.
Those conditions change day by day and won't last forever.

Relationships and people's feelings are the same.

Even if you don't like the men around you now, you may fall in love with them from now on, and men you seem to fall in love with from now on may appear.

What is important is to be grateful for encounters with people, words spoken, and such everyday “relationships,” and make positive use of them even a little bit.
If you do that, I'm sure a wonderful man will appear, and the men around you won't leave you alone.

I pray for your future wonderful encounters (relationships), and I will respond as an answer. We clap hands.