Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to cope when someone makes a fool of you

I go to a vocational school where I study with the goal of becoming a national civil servant or local public servant. I was able to pass the recruitment test for the Japan Maritime Self-Defense Force General Sergeant candidate on the 3rd of this month. I was really happy from the bottom of my...

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Neighborhood issues, dog voices, and my own projection

I'm indebted to you. Please let me discuss relationships with the neighborhood. The dogs next door are loud. There are 2 indoor dogs, and 1 is insanely loud, In the garden, when I find this figure from inside, it's really barking the whole time. It looks like they didn't even let me go for...

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I made a mistake I couldn't tell people

Let me refrain from describing the details of this mistake here. And people around you will know about this mistake unless you confess it yourself I don't think so, but what should I do if it becomes known at some point When I think about it, I can't calm down mentally. If you don't like...

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It was an attempt

I was able to remove the entire doorknob, so I'm alive now. It's so embarrassing. I'll omit what happened leading up to that point. However, I think the person who caused the suicide is eating well and living. That's because they seem to have human rights. My impression of this life is...

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It makes me angry

Are super rich people allowed to do anything? This is former Chairman Ghosn. The people who were mercilessly restructured during the Nissan era are probably not angry. With huge wealth obtained by cutting off those people, they escaped from the country. They will probably just live gracefully...

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My boyfriend supports polygamy

I found out that my boyfriend, who is thinking about getting married this year, supports polygamy. It is said that those who have children with young women are for the future of Japan; they can efficiently leave offspring, so if they have enough income, they want to be polygamous, and wanting to...

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About the commandments and funerals

As I study Buddhism little by little, I can somehow see the original form of Buddhism. Buddha is a word that indicates a living and enlightened person, and it is not a word that indicates Buddha alone. Being a monk is something that people who feel distressed by society discover Buddhism and...

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I couldn't apologize and said it back.

What should you do when you think you've done something bad to someone you can't meet anymore or that you've done something bad to someone else? I checked with the bank before going to work. When I was moving, I didn't notice that the trash that was under my bag had fallen, and when I walked...

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How can I be seen as having a bright personality

Hello. I'm a third-year college student. My problem is that friends around me have recently been called menhera for mental illness, which is often talked about in the world. Certainly, I may look like I have long dark hair or a slightly dark personality, but in reality, I'm not self-harming,...

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How long should I wait for an affair partner?

I'm single, and I've been having an affair with my boss at work since three months ago. A month ago, my boss said he really wanted to get married to me, and it seems that he told his wife that he wanted to get divorced (it seems that the wife tells her that there are other people she likes.) My...

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I can't put up with bad things

I get angry when the game doesn't go well and the game is over I'm angry that even though I'm asking a question about this, the answers apply to everyone and they don't look at me I'm angry that things don't go according to my expectations You can't do it unless you write and say things...

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How to strengthen your mind

I want to cure the stress that immediately shows up in my physical condition. I haven't been very mentally strong since ancient times, and when I feel stressed, it's painful for physical disorders, mainly gastrointestinal, to occur. I'm working at my new workplace starting next month, and even...

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It's Hard to Watch Kids

It's hard to see kids and people with kids. I'll soon be 30 years old... I don't feel like making children, and I'm not good at it. I also don't have the ability to nurture. Somehow, I've heard that as we get older, we have an instinct that makes us want to raise and protect children,...

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I'm worried about my family's illness.

Nice to meet you. We look forward to working with you. My family had a stroke and have been in the hospital for over 3 years. Meals are ingested from the stomach, so called bedridden. I'm at a loss as to whether or not to apply for a disability pension for that family member. The person...

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Please help

　Good evening. I'm indebted to you. I'm currently living in Tokyo. I lived in Aomori until about six months ago. It's a bit complicated, but my parents who lived in Aomori around 2018 were transferred to Tokyo due to work circumstances. I was in high school at the time, and I decided to stay...

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I can't accept that others also have shades

Nice to meet you. Thank you for your support. Currently, I'm constantly changing jobs for clerical jobs, and I'm uneasy about where to go. The main reason for changing jobs is human relationships. If there are people in your place of work who don't suit your way of thinking, I couldn't...

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A dream I gave up

Recently, my dream of being a manga artist was frustrated. I was able to work just a little bit, but I felt that I lacked the feeling of “enjoying it from the bottom of my heart,” which is necessary for creative activities. I intuited that I should do a steady job rather than continue my creative...

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Dealing with a guy who lost his wife

It's been 3 years since we met on a matching app. It's been about 5 years since he lost his wife. Tell him that from the beginning of our relationship, a portrait and a happy photo taken with his child and 3 people, and his bones were completely placed in the living room of his house, and even...

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Should I announce to people around me that my son has autism

I'm the mother of a son in the first grade of elementary school. My son is on the autism spectrum. The characteristic is that it is relatively light, and people around you can't tell that you are a disabled child. I'm worried about whether I should announce to people around me that I have...

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Not being able to make the decision to leave the job

Thanks for watching. I joined the company as a high school graduate and was a store manager for 2 stores at the age of 22. However, I couldn't go to work due to power harassment and workload, and I couldn't stop my tears, I couldn't even contact them about my absenteeism, so much so that my...

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