Can't you be recognized if you haven't had a hard time

They have given birth to a child and are raising children.

I think it's a huge thing. Why are people who have overcome childbirth said they are “not having a hard time.”

I'm sorry. Hello Yumi. My name is Akazawa from Ichimyoji. This is my humble opinion, but I'll answer it.

There is a saying behind the scenes that relatives and people around you are not struggling with anything... but let's leave that alone. Don't go out with someone who has a different soul type, even if it's a relative.

And please focus Yumi's precious time and life on your child and yourself.

I became a monk, and I had the experience of staying in the mountains for 100 days in the middle of winter and going wild.
The only thing they eat is rice porridge, and what they wear is a kimono. It's a harsh life of wearing water and chanting sutras.

But “so what?” That is the majority opinion.
“I think it's certainly splendid, but...” has never been acknowledged. But I think that's fine.

Isn't there a time when you feel more comfortable being indifferent to yourself?
It's impossible to get along with everyone on an equal footing, so I think it's a good idea to create a range of relationships.

Yumi

Nice to meet you, Shakuri Kaoru from the Otani school of Shinshu.

Who does Yumi want to be recognized by?

Maybe it's my husband.
Maybe for kids?
Maybe to your parents?
Is it a friend?
Maybe to a relative?
Maybe to a colleague?
Maybe to my boss?

Who would you like to be recognized by?

Conversely, is it “tough” if you don't get approval from anyone?

Unfortunately, hardships are only subjective.
If you think of it as a hardship, it's a struggle; if you don't think it's a struggle, it's not a struggle.
(Child-rearing is often mentioned, isn't it?)

Please don't be misled by other people's evaluations and take care of those who are most important to you.
I think people around me are watching that kind of appearance properly.

Hello, Yumi.

Thank you, Yumi, for all your hard work up until now.
They got married and had a child last year too!
I think this is a huge blessing. Also, it's amazing.
I congratulate you.

Well... why did they say that? I don't understand.
Did that person happen to be frustrated? Did you just want to say something like “buy the hard work”? were you jealous? were you free?

Also, why was that so deafening? hmm...
I was so happy that it was deafening. They were usually busy, so they didn't even have time to listen. Actually, there's something that stuck in my heart, so it seems like I was curious.

Since giving birth last year, they've been busy, and it seems like they haven't heard or been told. I wonder if Yumi is busy every day and is pressed for time. In those days. At that time, I suddenly became concerned about what was being said.
I'm sure that's because Yumi had a little bit of time to spare, I don't know. It would be nice to spend a moment of happiness as a newlywed.

no matter what.
I think it's tough not to be recognized by people if you don't look like you're struggling.

To Yumi
Thank you for your hard work.
I want greedy words and things like that as a person.
It is said that people get pleasure from being recognized by others.
But don't forget that people watching like that are definitely watching.

And now is important.
“Since I gave birth last year and had a child, every day has been busy and difficult, so I haven't been told or heard that kind of thing. ” Isn't that probably accepted evidence?

I think there are people who feel the same way again.
Please be sure to understand that feeling, and become someone who can say “thank you” to others.
Gassho