I'm a pregnant woman who is currently 4 months pregnant. There was misfortune in the neighboring neighborhood, and I decided to attend the cremation and funeral.
I have had 2 miscarriages due to infertility, and things have been going smoothly so far.
I feel a little uneasy about attending the funeral, saying if something bad happens to my stomach... I wanted to hear the opinions of all the monks, so I had a consultation. Thank you for your support.
Hello, Hachire-san. The fact that you have had 2 miscarriages is really painful. I think it's a deep sadness that's hard for me to think about. Among them, I think I am very happy to have a child in my stomach. On the other hand, I think it will make you think that various events will affect your own children. Therefore, going to funerals is also prohibited, isn't it? As far as I've heard, I have a perception that a funeral is a place to encounter Buddhism. Incidents involving death have been frowned upon since ancient times. However, if a person is born, death is inevitable. It's something no one can escape. Is there anything bad going to happen in connection with such natural principles? For example, does anything bad happen when you go to a park full of nature as a pregnant woman? To that extent, I think funerals are normal and natural for me. Rather, why don't you attend the funeral, face life, and think about how you will encounter the child in your stomach? In my denomination, I understand that sutras that are honored during funerals are not for those who have died, but rather questions those of us who are alive how we will live in the future. For Hachire-san, I sincerely remember that funeral will be an encounter with life.
Since it's a funeral, there's no need to worry about bad luck or what happens to the spirit.
Cremating people and grilling Pacific saury with salt is the same thing.
So, there is no problem if it doesn't burden the body from a medical standpoint.
It's a cold season. It's a facility I don't usually go to, so I'm worried about how the heating is, and I'm worried about whether there is a place to sit, etc.
I think it's better to tell people around you that you're pregnant.
Please take care of yourself.
It's not a family funeral, is it?
though
It's this cold season
It's in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic
It also puts a strain on the mind and body
If parents-in-law attend
I don't mind if you're rude.
There are past experiences, and I think there are many things that make you feel uneasy.
I said, “If you feel uneasy, you can refrain from attending the funeral.” I think so.
See my previous answers for the reason.
“The best memorial service you can do right now is to cherish your mother's fetus”
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