I couldn't apologize and said it back.

What should you do when you think you've done something bad to someone you can't meet anymore or that you've done something bad to someone else?

I checked with the bank before going to work.
When I was moving, I didn't notice that the trash that was under my bag had fallen, and when I walked away, it seemed like the trash had fallen, and the person lined up behind me called out.

I was wearing earphones and didn't notice it, and there were times when I was in a hurry before going to work, and I coldly said that it wasn't mine and that it was trash I had left behind.

Then you don't have to say that to the person behind you! I was scolded for being pun boo, what was that.
I said back that I should have kept quiet, but I don't remember being told that by you.

Another person who was watching the commotion while moving to another location listened to that angry person, and they felt like a complete villain.

I apologized to the person who first called out to me when it came up in a different place, but the one who got angry was too scared and couldn't do it.
If I calm down now, I think I should have listened properly to the first grandmother's story and thought about how to say it, but the guilt of not being able to do it will go away. What should I do?

4 Zen Responses

A foolish act dropped somewhere is returned as a good act somewhere

What is an interaction with someone you've never met
There will be lots of numbers in life.

Whether intentionally or not, everyone can make their partner angry or make them feel uncomfortable.
In such a case, do something nice to someone and give it back.
I don't even know the name of the person who made them angry anyway.

When you become an adult, when you receive a favor, you are more pleased if you give it back to your family and friends rather than directly to the person yourself.
So, let's return good deeds to society that the other party seems to belong to anyway, such as “ourselves,” “region,” “○○ prefecture,” or “Japan.”
In the meantime, you should be able to be much kinder to people you don't know than you are now.

That heart that doesn't go through is precious.

I read it. I would like to say to those who left trash there before Momo's actions, please refrain from such actions, but unfortunately I don't think this voice will reach those people...
You're doing something very important when you have regrets and remorse for what has passed, and I think it's wonderful.
I think there are many people like Momo who don't even look back, and most people think they aren't bad at all.
I respect the way they look back on and reflect on their own words, actions, and actions, even though they have fallen in love with it.
Nonetheless, it's past and they're people you probably won't meet again, so you may not have a chance to apologize.
If that's the case, speaking of where Momo's feelings should be directed, it doesn't matter if it's someone close to you; of course, it doesn't matter if it's someone you know from now on, the store clerk, or whatever, so why don't you direct them to people like that.
I'm not saying that it wasn't canceled, but it would be very wasteful to get rid of Momo's wonderful feeling of remorse, and I want them to use it for the world.
Please tell the person who called out to you in your heart that you have seen Momo's attitude and made you feel uncomfortable, that you should be careful not to do the same thing anymore, and treat people with compassion.
The fact that Momo didn't have such offense is fully conveyed by looking at the text of the consultation, and I don't understand the feeling that she said it back. I didn't think about it either! I've done countless such things in the past. Recently, when I thought it was my fault, everything would go smoothly, and I just regret it (laughs)
There are also people who are still warm-hearted, like my grandmother who called out to me.
I think Momo was one of them, and that's why she regretted it.
I think I'll be able to become an even more wonderful person as a result of this incident. I'm rooting for you!
Gassho

Take care of your feet

I read it.
I read that you were wondering what to do about something you said back like that. I feel like I understand that you say and act like that. I understand how you feel.
If you calm down and think about it, I think you should have listened properly and apologized politely. Yes, I think you and maybe the people around you didn't have time to listen to it.
Sometimes we get so emotional that we say terrible things and have terrible attitudes.
I think that's because we don't have room in our minds. I think it was because I was in a hurry before going to work, but I think that feeling of being in a hurry took away my peace of mind, and I think it also took away the peace of mind to listen to people's conversations. We are such foolish people.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors are always watching over us who are foolish like that.
It can be quite difficult to make room for your mind, because I have myself to rush things in such a hurry.
Even so, let's try to make some room for ourselves.
There is a term called “foot care.” It's about calming down, illuminating your feet, and taking a fresh look at yourself. I think it's very important.
Let's sincerely apologize to those who have been hurt by saying it that way.
And let's make use of it in your future.
I sincerely pray to Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can live with peace of mind and peace of mind for the future, and that you can live with a rich heart while being compassionate and respectful of each other. We wholeheartedly agree

Hello, Momo.

It certainly may have been a bit too ridiculous. The mouth is also said to be the source of disaster, so please be careful.

Momo doesn't have to feel guilty forever, nor does it mean that anyone will criticize her.
I apologized later, and once I calmed down, I was able to make the right decision.

If I had to give you a few words of advice, you need to control your impulses.

People cannot make rational decisions for 6 seconds after feeling angry. So how to be able to wait 6 seconds becomes important.
For instance,
Count down and count, “1, 2, 3...
”
Other than that,
It's like “souvenir mitsu takomitsu,” reciting your own magic words

But that doesn't mean it's okay to say anything since 6 seconds have passed, as if a battle gong sounded.
It's just a way to regain reason and calm down.

Please try to control your impulses so that you reflect right away and don't regret it later.
Namu Myōhō Renge Kyō

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