Disgust with marital life

The other day, I attended a meeting saying it was very mentally tough. I came home late at night after the meeting. Then, when I was exhausted, my wife called me to my room to talk to me. My wife knows how much mental damage this meeting was, but the silly fight from a few days ago didn't end, and I don't think my wife was calm either. The content of the story pointed out my attitude towards my wife over the past few months. I understood my wife's dissatisfaction very well, so while acknowledging my mistakes, I properly discussed them and responded. However, as we talked, my condition got worse. My wife sensed that and said it was okay to talk about it again next time, but since they were extremely busy, they thought it would be unbearable for them to take time again, so they continued the conversation. After a while, I almost fell down due to dizziness, so I finally gave up. I think this incident probably stabbed me in the heart. I'm disgusted with my life with my wife.
If you think about it, there was discord even before I met someone I liked at work. What was particularly burdensome was searching for a place to move to. I started working from home due to the COVID-19 pandemic, so my home became too small. So I decided to buy a house, but my wife's requests were strict, and while busy with work, I looked over 100 properties. When I spilled that pain, my wife said, “I'm a man, so be firm.”
My wife when I met her was still working and she was sparkling. However, my wife suffered from a serious illness two years ago, and although she was completely cured, she became weak since then. And now I'm about to retire by myself.
Before I moved, I lived at my wife's house, and I didn't pay rent or anything. I am who I am now because of my wife's support at that time. So I have an obligation to support my wife. However, on the other hand, my wife is about to retire, and on the other hand, I have just established my own company, and I have to make efforts and challenges on the edge of a cliff, and women who work hard with dedication over their salary even though they are handing over a salary than my wife who drinks tea alone seems cute no matter what. I wonder if a lot of things are bad, but it's my emotional limit. I'd like you to tell me what to do in the future. If your sexual roots are crooked, I would appreciate your harsh words.

3 Zen Responses

Honest feelings are also important. You only live once, make choices you won't regret.

While work is hard and exhausting, if time is taken or blamed (you can be here too), you'll get sick of it.
Of course, there are opinions from my wife, but I'm disgusted by being a married couple, wondering why they have to even think like this and stay together in a situation where they are being driven into.

The occasional kindness makes my heart feel at ease, makes me want to surrender, and even makes me want to lean back.

Even two people who have walked together will lose their feelings if the scenery they see is different or if they don't look in the same direction. What supports you now is someone else, and thanks to that, you're doing your best, aren't you? Thank goodness, and they are blessed with good human resources, and they are an important presence.

I think it's time to think about whether to continue a marital relationship such as domestic separation or whether to set a break as it is, in discord.

As mentioned in the previous question, I also value your honest feelings. You only live once, so make choices you won't regret.

Let's take care of you first

I read it.
I read that you are currently being forced into a very difficult situation, both at work and in private, and you are worried about what to do. I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but I really understand your painful feelings.
Right now, I think you are so driven both mentally and physically that you are exhausted. I imagine that she is burdened with a lot of things at work, and that she is mentally beyond her limits due to various things being said about her relationship with her.
In such a situation, I think there are only things that are extra difficult to do, and I imagine that both mind and body will have already exceeded the limit and nothing will be possible.
So first of all, I think it's best to prioritize yourself and take care of yourself. There may be various things and things you need to do, but first, please relax and rest your own mind and body, and please take care of and heal your mind and body.
There may be things your wife wants to say to you, but please refrain from pursuing you or saying harsh words for a while.
Also, please take care of each other and take a leisurely rest.
Even if you think you need to do it right now, it doesn't mean you definitely have to do it.
It's fine even after you've calmed down. There's no need to panic.
I sincerely pray that you will first take care of yourself, rest, and recover, that your wife will take a good rest and recover, and that you will spend every day in good health while respecting and caring for each other.
And I wholeheartedly support you and your wife. We wholeheartedly agree

As a business owner

I read your question.

If you're an office worker,
Take a day off
Take good care of yourself
please.

I think I just talked about it.

However, when it comes to business owners,
I don't think so.
The manager is everything that happens in a company
The ultimate responsibility is
I think he's a business owner.

Idiot is master Hinomaru's job
I've been doing it for many years.
I was slapped on the shoulder before retirement
The world is going down somewhere.
While being settled as the chief priest of Oji Temple,
I plan to live a leisurely and self-sufficient life
It was,
I started self-employment and quit the company,
Temples have popped out, so are denominations
I changed it.
It really was a start from scratch.
The first 10 years were booming
It went well.

However, due to the COVID-19 pandemic,
The deficit fell all at once.
We have fallen into a difficult situation.
If you're an office worker, quitting
You can do it.
However, for business owners,
There is also a personal guarantee of debt,
There's no escape.

For the first time at that time,
I noticed it.
Being a manager is not an occupation,
It's a way of life.
So at 4 or 6 o'clock
He's a boy,
I'm a business owner.

I had a good relationship,
For our customers,
For staff,
What should I do about the company
Can it be maintained?
No one is going to be restructured
I'll get through it!
I made up my mind,
There is a surplus this fiscal year.
Areas of expertise,
I am familiar with the law in terms of occupation.
However,
Management, especially accounting, was an amateur.
Learn again from bookkeeping and accounting,
Cash schedule, cash flow
creating,
Formulation of management plans, etc.
I started all over again.

I'm tired, Shindoi,
The more I say it, the harder it gets.

First
As a manager, make up your mind.
I'll get through with anything and everything.
If it's not possible,
Fold up the company
Go back to being an office worker.

It's about making up your mind.

Of wives and staff women
It looks like that,
The essence is your own preparedness
I think so.

Please excuse the dry answers.

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