Sexless, am I disqualified as a husband

I read it.
I read that you are very worried about not being able to have sexual activity with your wife. I don't know the details about you or your wife, but I really understand your concerns.
If possible, why don't you try facing your wife sincerely and listen carefully to her feelings? Also, let's talk clearly about what you're worried about.
Also, in order to have children, I think it's okay to consult a specialist once as a couple. I think your doctor will also give you appropriate advice and guidance on how to deal with it in the future. Also, I think it's okay for your counselor to talk about your thoughts and your wife to accept them.
This is a very precious relationship between a married couple. Let's share our thoughts while talking to each other.
I sincerely pray that you and your wife will face each other firmly, share your thoughts, receive advice and support from doctors and many people, and face the future of the two of you, so that you can live through a happy, compassionate heart for each other. I would like to sincerely support you again.
And if you don't mind, please let me know how you feel, and we look forward to seeing you. We wholeheartedly agree

I realized that all of the Buddha were in pain.
In other words, our daily suffering and coping with suffering (homework) will not disappear from our lives, and the form of suffering (homework) just changes moment by moment.
First, why don't you write down as many options for coping (homework) you can take in the future as long as you can think of?
This may include having discussions between the couple.
When I'm at a loss in my judgment (choice), I think it's okay to choose with dice because either one is fine with the information currently available.
Also, since there is a high possibility that information (judgment materials) is lacking when making a decision, it is beneficial to take a step forward to obtain new information, and I think there is a possibility that thoughts, emotions, and mood (physical condition) can also be refreshed when new information comes in.
The mind is being replaced by a new mind moment by moment.
The hectic flow of thoughts is exhausting, so be sure to set aside time for your mind to take a break (time to think about something completely different).

I took a look at your concerns.
I just read your concerns, and I don't know about your couple, and I think it would be biased advice. Please be aware of this before reading.

First, they're a married couple who haven't had a physical relationship for 4 years.
If you don't say that to your wife when you get married, it can also feel like bullying against your wife. It is said that they lost their confidence when they were young, but if that is still taking hold, please see a doctor carefully for treatment.
I think this is a case where treatment (including counseling) by a doctor is necessary.
Are you willing to fix it yourself? It's not like anyone can fix it. Please make sure you go to the hospital yourself.

My wife wants to have children, but I think she will be able to endure it well.
In the first place, there is a high possibility that your mother sees the reason you can't have children because your wife's body cannot have children, and if your wife receives such misunderstandings and is secretly blamed, you don't know how much mental pain you are experiencing.

Also, it doesn't take long for a woman to give birth to a child.
Giving birth for the first time and being in your late 30s must be quite physically difficult.
It also seems quite impossible for people in their late forties.
Giving birth is the most important thing, risking one's life.

I'm not a doctor, so I just looked up information, but it seems that the probability of having a child with a single sexual act is 20 to 30%, which is low even if you are aware of the day of ovulation.

Even so, I feel sorry for my wife.
It must have been painful, but if you don't say it straight to you, you're probably the type of person who accumulates dissatisfaction within yourself.
It would be nice if I didn't get sick or depressed, but...

At least I think you should clearly tell your mother that you haven't had a physical relationship for four years since you married your wife for your own reasons. Also to clear up misunderstandings about my wife.

Also, please be sure to go to the hospital.

You casually describe yourself as a “childless couple,” but can you understand that even that one word would deeply hurt your wife?
Please really care not only about yourself, but also about your wife.
I really feel sorry for my wife.

　Taio-san, that must have been really painful, please take care of yourself
I've never thought that a marital relationship wouldn't be established without sex. Sexual activity is just an extension of communication, and suddenly bringing it into sexual activity is now a crime beyond harassment regardless of gender. Even married couples require consent, and with that, you can build it from now on, so you're in a very good position. Sexual intercourse and the opposite sex are the same as snack drinks; there are people who want to drink tea, and there are people who want to drink coffee There are people who don't need anything; they won't necessarily drink the same thing tomorrow; even though they can choose drinks for snacks, they say various things when it comes to sexual intercourse, you should think about this a little more and act. If you look it up with sexual intercourse and black tea, I think you can find it in the video
Sexual intercourse... is not a child..., and if a relationship of mutual respect is not built, when a child or life is born, it is impossible to refuse even if you don't like it or like it
First, take a step back and take care of your partner, that's all for me