I don't know if I should get divorced like this

If you just tell your wife a lie about the present and honestly face your true intentions, there will be no future victims.
Look at the mentality of “not being able to do that.” If you can't do that, you have to keep your self safe first. Males who don't love their children anymore can't become men, fathers, or husbands, and narcissistic Oleore syndrome just continues no matter who they get along with. Let's put the brakes on ourselves by treating ourselves as a danger.
It's not about getting divorced or remarried, and if I don't have any more ambition to stop the self-rampage that hurts people with my shitty egos, I'll get bored quickly even if I end up being with that cheating partner. Self-love reincarnation where another attractive woman comes out and has an estrus over there.
Isn't the only reason human males can't become men is that they can't be gentlemen, husbands, or fathers because they let their male sex go wild? While they got married while involving all of their relatives, they played with women many times and got involved in recidivism, etc. Self-love affirmation. The projects I should be asking questions about are also awful, am I out of touch? Let's doubt that. Otherwise, the brakes will go crazy and your future life will be in shambles. Even if they seem to know that they are self-centered, that is a lie and preservation. I know it's a lie by Furia Peel. From the standpoint of your child, after all, dads don't improve their own humanity, so no matter who you marry, you and your partner are all unhappy.
The guy I don't like is going to repeat my anti-social/anti-humane ego behavior in the future, but am I a good person? Can you be happy? By asking yourself this question, the heart moves towards improvement without wanting something from others.
Control those harmful ego actions that are triggered within you. Bad behavior that has hurt my opponent until now. It also hurt the dignity of the women they are cheating on, and it was recognized that it was a dangerous criminal mentality that hurt the family, parents, and even current wives and children of the affair partner that they want to be together with, and they apologize and improve now. Everyone will be bothered if you don't change the ego and self-love that underlies your actions.
Who wanted to get married because of her husband's affair?
Who would celebrate a wedding for a husband whose beloved child is cheating on him?
It was probably whatever I wanted with self-centered sexual desire, self-preservation, and self-love just for myself. Let's have an eye for ourselves to look at our own alter ego as the acts and effects that harmed and destroyed people that occurred at that time, their footprints, tears, and the earth is flowing. This is called kindness and knowing oneself.

I read it.
You're having an affair and are discussing a divorce, aren't you? I don't know the details about you or your family, or your partner or family. Under such circumstances, you're worried about what to do, aren't you? I think I can understand how lost and troubled you are. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It may be natural for you to prioritize your own desires in such a way, but I also feel that it is escalating.
I imagine that even if they were to get divorced, the same thing would be repeated over and over again, involving various people, and deeply hurting many people. If you act according to your own sexual desires like in the Sengoku period, when the weak eat the strong, it will cause various troubles. I think the end will be disastrous in modern society.
I think it's okay to calm down again and think carefully, get diagnosed by a specialist, objectively check your own condition, and have a counselor listen carefully to your story. Also, I think it's okay to have individual consultations here at Hasunoha.
Let's face it well with your wife and talk about it. Also, please take care of your children. I think it's important to pay child support properly even after divorce. And please make a firm judgment between you and your wife.
It's about talking calmly and firmly with the other person. Right now, you and that person are probably prioritizing your moods and desires, so let's calm down once again and talk carefully. And please make a firm decision.
Each and every one of us has a very important and irreplaceable life. There are times when you hurt yourself and others in your life, but why don't you try to keep it to a minimum from now on as much as possible?
I sincerely pray that everyone will cherish each other, be compassionate and help each other, and live an irreplaceable life truly happily, with a truly rich life. And I wholeheartedly support everyone. We wholeheartedly agree

Wouldn't it be better to get divorced on the terms your wife wants? That's because there are people who aren't suited to marriage.

I think it would be nice if you could enjoy romance in a convenient way. They're people with a lot of love, aren't they? When you go on dates, you have to keep being attractive, and you also need money to have fun. I think that energizes your work.

I think your wife has followed you so well. I'm grateful that my wife arranged such a place where I can return home.
If you want to play with women that much, it's a good husband to divorce your wife on good terms rather than tying up your wife to take care of her. You don't have to be resented any more.
Otherwise, it wouldn't be strange if you were stabbed!

The only responsibility for raising children is solid. There are also people whose child support is overdue, so don't just be a father like that.

After that, feel free to fall in love.

I read Ronald's Trouble.
First, the answer must already be within you.
I feel like they understand everything about what I've been doing and what kind of results it is leading to.

So, I would like to talk to Ronald a little bit about the idea of “the law of cause and effect.”
Simply put, “if you do good deeds, good fruits will occur,” and “if you do bad deeds, bad fruits will occur.”
This is something that always comes around, and it's also called “causal retaliation.”

In Ronald's story, it is said that the affair has been repeated many times until now, and as a result, alimony has been paid, the relationship with his wife has cracked, and divorce discussions have been reached.
This is the “effect” born from the “cause” of Ronald's actions.
And right now, you're trying to create a new “cause.”

What you should think about here is “what consequences will occur next?” That's it.

Even if you end up with your current affair partner, there's a high possibility that you'll repeat the same mistakes again, right? That's because it's become a habit.
As long as we are aware that “we are driven by sexual desire” and “we cannot stop playing with women,” there is a possibility that fundamental behavior will not change even if the environment is changed.

Furthermore, my partner is also a married person, and since they are people I met through dating, there is a high possibility that they have similar thoughts or habits to Ronaldo, and I am worried that they might have an affair. There is a possibility that the actions Ronaldo took with his current wife will come back to you too.
In other words, it's “causal retribution.”

Your actions will determine your future. According to the teachings of Buddhism, “fruits of suffering” await you whenever you follow this path. The only way to get out of it is to create a “good cause”, but...

Doesn't Ronald understand this too?
What I'm most concerned about is why Ronaldo chose “The Fruit of Suffering” so much.
There must always be a “cause” to take action.
Could you talk to us once again about the cause?

I'm worried about Ronaldo.

It is better to resolve the affair and take care of your wife and children.
For yourself or for your wife and kids.
We recommend nurturing the love and trust you lost by going out shopping or leisure with your family every weekend from scratch.