Why am I the only one being preached

I work as a part-time worker at a restaurant.
I quit my temporary job in November last year, and I wanted to be able to study cooking, so I decided to get hired at an izakaya I had been calling out to.
That izakaya sells bento boxes and side dishes during the day, and they also do lunch, and I joined as a staff member making side dishes, but since I had experience working at a restaurant, I started by helping with the izakaya business at night.
There is only 1 employee, and in addition to the president and his employees, there are about 15 part-time workers.
I helped with the izakaya business at night for about 3 months, and recently I was allowed to make side dishes, and I was told to make 2 original side dishes a day.
When it came to helping with the izakaya business, I was the only one who helped with cooking.
It's fun to think about and make side dishes every day, but the president can't even taste them. The prepared dishes are packed in packs and immediately arranged on the sales floor.
There is no tasting, the cost and color of appearance are taken, and it is judged visually whether the ingredients used are suitable for side dishes, and it is pointed out.
Even though I hadn't eaten anything I made, I was surprised that they didn't taste it, but I thought that was fine, so I continued making side dishes.
In order to make side dishes, even among those who work at night, one person goes to work early, and after closing the store, the person who works during the day opens the store alone and goes to work. The process is to make side dishes → help with night business.

It's good to get a lot of suggestions when it comes to making side dishes, but even at night sales, I'm the only one who says “I can't care” and “find a job for myself.” It seems like there are things that other part-time workers haven't been able to do, but the reason I'm the only one who gets scolded all the time is probably because it's easy for me to say small words.
To be honest, it's just a part-time job, and even though I make side dishes during the day, I don't understand why they are preached every day.
At the same hourly rate as other part-time workers, in addition to preparing side dishes, I am the only one who always eats sermons, just because there is something I'm a little concerned about with customer service.

Should I be thankful to be placed in an environment where I can study cooking?
I always get angry during sermons. I think everyone is disappointed. There are places where the president is also missing.
It also makes me think don't say it even though it's not done.
Should I put up with it and keep going? If I had put up with it, I was likely to get sick, so I talked to him.

4 Zen Responses

irresponsible

You don't have to keep working until you break your body, do you? What I'm worried about is the president's ambition. What does it mean if you don't even taste it? I don't have a sense of responsibility, and I don't feel like I want to grow.

You may be grateful to be able to work for us, but as you continue, you will reach your limits somewhere.

The original purpose

Thank you very much for consulting with us.

This time, I'm not talking about Buddhism, but rather focusing on “studying cooking,” which Miken is working hard on.

I think it's great that I chose my current job because I wanted to learn how to cook. Now, let's think about whether “studying cooking” has been achieved in the current environment.

First, what you're learning
① There is an opportunity to make 2 original side dishes every day
② There is a place for practice, such as preparation and cooking assistance
③ Learn how to use ingredients, cost calculation, and the importance of appearance

What you haven't learned
① I can't get a taste evaluation (no feedback)
② The president's point is unreasonable, and my motivation drops
③ I am the only one being excessively reprimanded, and the mental burden is huge

When you think of it as “studying cooking,” you've certainly gained practical experience.
However, since there is almost no “taste evaluation” or “technical guidance” that should be learned originally, it may be close to self-study.
Maybe it's necessary to think once again about whether this is a plus for Miken.

And why does the president scold Miken-san harshly? However,
I think it's natural to feel like I'm the only one... when nothing is said even if other people aren't able to do it.

I'll just tell you why I thought of it.
① I can do my job, so I'm expecting it (→ that's why I'm making it strict)
② As Miken-san feels, they are simply thought of as someone who is easy to say small words to (→ they are used as an outlet for stress)
③ Miken's emotions unknowingly come to light, and the president is sensing them

If it's 1, it's necessary to communicate with the president, but it could lead to growth.
If it's 2-3, being in this environment may just wear you out mentally.

There seems to be a tendency for Miken to easily feel that “it's painful to be denied my own ideas.” That's not a bad thing at all. It also means “I have the ability to have my own ideas and assert my opinions.”
However, if your partner is unreasonable, the situation doesn't change even if they repel it, and your stress may only increase, so are you able to “study cooking”?
What would you like to learn by reorganizing your original purpose? Can we really learn in our current environment?
Why don't you clarify it?

Even in order to properly recognize your abilities, don't be complacent

You're doing your best, aren't you? You have a wide range of talents, from customer service to cooking to developing new menus. From the management side, as long as you can rely on it, it's an entity you can't let go of. That's why I want them to take good care of them. That also makes the store more reliable, doesn't it?

I think it would be better to express your own opinions as well. Otherwise, it will be conveniently used by store managers. I was listening to your story, and I thought he was “someone who can say it.” It means excellence, but if there are no opinions or objections, the other party (store manager) wants to be superior and becomes stronger.

So let's go one step further and show your motivation, and tell them that you're “not satisfied” with an unreasonable reprimand, saying, “Could you give me some advice?”
That's because sometimes there are objections, and the store manager's evaluation also changes (he's a kid who gives proper opinions). Try not to be complicit, even in order to properly acknowledge your abilities.

If you still can't stand unreasonable power harassment, think about changing jobs. I think you can do your job wherever you go.

Absorb useful advice

It's up to you whether or not to continue with your current job.
However, if you were to run the store by yourself, would the store run well even if you ignore the instructions from the president and don't make improvements?
Even if you think about it from such a point of view, if there is an indication that is even slightly useful in the president's sermon or you notice your own mistakes, it is better to keep that in mind honestly and keep it as your own knowledge, which will be useful to you in the future.
Everyone has the afflictions of greed, anger, laziness, and pride, and if someone scolds you, you'll get angry, depressed, and regret it, even if it's your fault.
I want to talk about feelings and moods (brain endocrine substances) derived from worry, and whether the content pointed out is useful knowledge is another story.
Even if it's a scolding that interferes with your own greed, anger, laziness, or pride, if the content is useful to you, let's input it now.
The president also has worries of greed, anger, laziness, and pride, so the president can also make mistakes due to his worries.
People who are troubled are “like each other.”

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