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I just envy my friends

What I go to is a high school where I stretched out a bit and worked hard to get into, so even if I study hard, it's quite difficult to reach the average score on the test.

Of course, I know that my efforts are important. However, it's not supposed to be a place where rich kids gather, but more than half of the children in the class have piano experience, and the parents of the children who get good scores are quite highly educated, so it's hard to be recognized if you don't have enough effort.

My family isn't rich, my parents aren't highly educated, they aren't smart, and they have a strong affinity for me. That's why the house is always noisy no matter what I say. That's why I think I can't do it. It makes me think that those children are able to do it thanks to their good management and home environment.

Actually, I think there are aspects like that, but I want to approach things more positively. What should I do?

4 Zen Responses

It is good if it can be sifted like fruit

Mandarin oranges, which are produced in large quantities, are collected in a place called a fruit sorting site and sorted based on the size and appearance of the grains.
Even if they are of the same variety, they are classified as medium size, small size, or special A grade, etc., and there are also brand names where only those of a certain level or higher can be named even if they are the same breed.
You don't have to force yourself to go from size S to size M.
You should do what you can to the extent you can, within the scope of your given ground and financial resources at a fruit sorting place called a school.
That's because it's a life where you can only do what you can, anyway!
You can leave it up to society, saying “Please categorize me and give me a brand name that suits me, I'll show you what I can do, so thank you for your support” at fruit sorting sites at school, society, etc.
There are always individual differences from birth.
If a rich person who has a bad background but can go to a cram school, and a poor person who has a good background but can't go to cram school, got a job at the same company with the same results as a result and had the same annual income, it's not about which one was superior, but the overall score of what they got from their parents was the same.
Concentration, physical strength, and health to be able to make continuous efforts are among talents, and there are probably people who are geniuses but can't keep concentrating.
There are individual differences in appearance, physique, and motor skills, and development also changes depending on eating habits.
All you need to do is throw out the overall score, the current point, to the fruit sorting site (society) and ship it with “I'll leave the classification (scoring) up to you, thank you for your support.”
Let's ask them to sift it as if it were a mandarin orange or strawberry.

It's going to grow from now on

I read it.
When you entered high school, the kids around you were able to study and play the piano, and you just compared it to yourself, and you felt envious of people. And they despise themselves and their families, don't they? I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Certainly, there may be excellent people around you who can study and do various things. Maybe it's only natural that you feel envious when you look at those kids. I think it's natural for you to feel that way.
Nonetheless, I think that having such people close to you is a great stimulus, goal, and encouragement for you as well. You and the people around you are changing as you study every day. It's great to have goals close to you that you're aiming for.
Why don't you try your best in your own way while rejoicing at the opportunity to learn in such an environment? Your life and the lives of those around you are yet to come, and it's a very long time. “Hurry up will ruin the situation,” so please don't be in a hurry, face the future carefully, experience various things, and learn.
I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with truly wonderful encounters in the future, that you will learn in your own way and grow healthily; that you will have many wonderful experiences and live through a truly rich and fulfilling day from the bottom of your heart; and that you will live through a truly happy life while deepening relationships with many people. And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

You should do your best to do what you want. Become a force to support the future

You can feel with your skin not only the number of grades, but also the difference in the environment you grew up in. I'm envious, and it makes me think I'm being sly after all.

Not only at school, but as you go out into society from now on, you will meet people who have acquired things you don't have, and people who have been blessed since you were born. There may be times when you try hard and you are no match.

Look at that and don't lower yourself.
It's part of that person. That's because it's part of me. You don't have to compete from the beginning. In exams and tests, numbers come up, but these are results for who you are right now, so you should set your own goals without comparing yourself to others.

High school life. You're doing your best every day. First of all, I'm happy that you're in high school. Also, I'm happy that I'm working hard to study, even though I'm sometimes depressed by the exam results.
What do you want to be in the future? I think it would be nice if they walked with that kind of vision. If I were a parent, I would be happy just to be able to live with my child like that, and I want to support them.

You should do your best to do what you want to do right now. If you can study at your own pace and work hard so that you can graduate properly, that's fine. If you have goals for the future, you can work hard again for them. Studying now will help you support your future. That's what I'm learning for. With that in mind, you should try hard again.

Living the present to the fullest, trying to live

Hello. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

This can be said not limited to school life, but even after becoming a member of society, when living in a group, you may just compare yourself to others. Also, pain is often born from that comparison.

So here's my advice. It means “live the present to the fullest without comparing yourself with others or with your past self.” (Easier said than done.)

Where should we place our standards of value? If you try to find your own value based on comparisons with others, that way of life depends on others, and it is a way of life where you feel happy and disappointed through others. Also, as a comparison with my past self, in everyday life, there is nothing wrong with aiming to grow today's self over yesterday's self, and tomorrow's self over today's self. But that's only when you're living a mediocre life with nothing. What if you get into a traffic accident one day and your body doesn't move as you'd like, or you get sick and are restricted in various aspects? Doesn't it just make you sad by comparing yourself to the past when you were doing well?

So, I think living in the present to the fullest, or trying to live in the present to the fullest, even if you don't do well, will make you happy. Then, it would be important for you to acknowledge and affirm yourself for living that way of life.

These are my answers. Please live a meaningful high school life.