How to deal with friends

My current husband has remarried, and they have no children. I have one daughter with my previous husband. We kept in touch when we were little, but now we're not negotiating.
I think they'll already be married and have children.
My friends know about my circumstances, but I'm not talking about no negotiations. I don't think I'll even bother talking about it.
There are invitations such as class reunions, etc., but I don't want to go there these days. I don't feel comfortable because there are only stories about my grandchildren and stories where I don't participate. It's like being a narrow-minded person, and it's around this time that I feel sorry for myself.

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That's because people are people, and I am myself

I read it.
You don't feel like communicating with your friends because you don't feel like contacting them. I don't know the details about you or your friends and acquaintances, but I feel like I understand that you think so.
Certainly, when you attend class reunions, etc., you'll be excited to talk about your children and grandchildren. If that happens, you won't be able to talk about yourself, and I think it will be very difficult to listen. Even if your friends know about you, you won't be able to stop things that usually end up going like that.
If so, even if you go to a class reunion, isn't it okay to leave the place if it becomes a topic of conversation about children or grandchildren like that? Being in a relationship with Imuri for a long time would be tough, and it would be exhausting. I think it's okay to try being rude first.
However, life is limited. If they make a voice, I also think it's okay to try to have an appropriate relationship to the extent possible and to the extent that it's not too burdensome. They're all adults now, aren't they? That's because it's fine for me to be myself and people to be people. It's a different life, so there's probably no need to compare people too much.
I sincerely pray that you can interact with people moderately and live a peaceful and healthy life every day. We wholeheartedly agree

Walk your way

Nice to meet you, Yoshi. I read your question.

Yoshi remarried and had no negotiations with her former husband. When you meet a friend or a classmate you meet at a class reunion, you feel that it's narrow in your heart that you can't discuss it.

The point of the question is ① I don't want people to know that I haven't negotiated with my ex-husband ② there are two things I don't like about not going to the class reunion because I don't have discussions with my classmates, but which one are you concerned about?

If you look at it from the text, I think it's ②, but how about it?

My classmates are supposed to be going through their own lives, so I think the lack of agreement has already been factored in to some extent. If we can both know the current situation by saying “Wow, that's right,” that's fine.

Please go ahead with your own life, Yoshi. Nobody cares about Yoshi. Feeling that people think they are “narrow-minded” is a delusion.

Don't be swayed by delusions and stop spending time on delusions.
Gassho

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