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I want to fix my jealous personality

I'm plagued by jealousy all the time, and it's tough, jealousy of babies (siblings), jealousy of people who do what they want to do, (jealousy of people who have made their dreams come true), jealousy of people who are perfect at everything, jealousy of colleagues at work, and anyway, my sense of jealousy is amazing... I think I'm jealous, and I have a low sense of self-affirmation from my psychiatrist doctor, people I trust, and daycare staff... I have a strong obsession.. It was said that feelings of jealousy are stronger than people, and I thought that was true after all.. I haven't started now, but I'm not good at expressing emotions.. I'm particularly reluctant to show feelings of jealousy

4 Zen Responses

Stop comparing and notice your own little happy moments

Hi

You have a strong sense of jealousy. Also, when I looked at past questions, there were times when I looked at other people's misfortunes.
I imagine in your mind that you have a strong “feeling of wanting to compare yourself with others,” such as feeling envious when others have an advantage, and feeling comfortable if you have an advantage.

There is a word for “paranoia (paranoia)” in Buddhism. In modern language, “delusion” refers to deciding what is untrue by assuming that it is true, but in Buddhism, it refers to thinking about things by dividing them into two. It refers to deciding standards within oneself and comparing good/bad, beautiful/ugly, etc. And since “infuriation” means denial, “delusion” means stop comparing things by dividing them into two.

I think the root of jealousy and searching for other people's misfortunes is a feeling of being compared to others. Because I compare myself to others, I feel frustrated and want to know about people's misfortunes.
No matter how much I envy baseball player Otani, I can't become Otani. Also, Otani can't be me either. Comparing and being envious is meaningless in itself.
I think stopping comparing and noticing your own little happy moments is the first step away from feeling jealous.

A natural feeling. Let's turn jealousy into positive energy.

It's also a natural feeling. There are times when people get jealous of people who have things they don't have, saying I'm envious ~ that's good, I'm frustrated.
It's natural if you just think about it.

That's why I want to do my best too. Let's do what we can. I also have my own merits. It can also be used as an encouragement!

Let's turn jealousy into positive energy.

I don't change who I am when I get angry at others

As a characteristic of jealous people, there is probably an aspect where anger, hatred, and disgust tend to occur in successful others.
However, I don't change (improve) even if I get angry at others.
Don't worry about others and think that if you do what you can now to the extent you can in response to your own problems, you'll have a successful life.
Anger, including jealousy, can lead to failure in life (trouble with others or the government, mistakes due to carelessness, and being disliked by others).
Think that even gods and angels look bad like demons and demons when they're jealous.

I really think “what I want you to do like this” is ahead

I think I want this to happen because I'm thirsty right now. They want that to be satisfied, or there are things they want to be acknowledged for.
Please drop the word jealousy once and for all.
I think there is something I would like you to genuinely focus on.
There must be something you want to hear, something you want to accept, something you want to understand, and something you want to understand. It's just that we end up with that mentality because we're not satisfied.
It might be a good idea to face that again and ask questions again, and honestly try spitting out sad and frustrating things within yourself.
I think there are places where they don't have confidence in themselves or think they shouldn't be who they are now, but that is also a misunderstanding. why? People can never exchange with others, they can't. You can't do it, so each person should shine in their field of expertise. You don't have to shine. People with handicaps are also working hard, working hard, doing one thing, one place at a time. I'm just living in my own field, so I should do what I can in the most peaceful way in my history. You don't have to force yourself to do your best.
Curie is a tomato, lotus root is a lotus root, lotus root is lotus root, lotus flower is lotus leaf, lotus leaf is lotus leaf, you are you, baby, brother, parent and child, everyone is different with their own DNA. They are simply living in such independence, individuality, freedom, separability, uniqueness, and absoluteness (no pairs, no pairs, complete uniqueness) of each.
Let's keep this in mind.
I'm not that person, and that person isn't me.
I can't compare myself to people.
I'm living my life now, the world I see, the world I hear, now, here.
Even if you're concerned about people, that's something you can't change.
My mind just reacted without permission, and it's something I can't change.
So, I am where I am now, just living for myself.
But it's better to be honest about your feelings and not lie.
Eventually, my true feelings will be uttered, put into words, and put into my heart what was really painful.
Let's face the sadness of that thing and get them to accept it.

If you do that, your jealousy will surely go away.