Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Relatives who get married on NEET

My husband is the eldest son and he is preparing to take over the business in the near future. I have a younger brother, and I was working after graduating from college, but I took a leave of absence due to depressive symptoms, came back to my parents' house, and was unemployed while being...

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About listening to what people say

Do I have to keep and listen to everything my parents and superiors say? By honestly listening to the words my parents said in a religious story and putting them into practice, I've heard that life is going well. Please tell me.

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Is being divorced unconditionally disliked?

Nice to meet you. We got divorced a year ago without two years of marriage and no children. The cause was a personality mismatch and my unforgettable love. Currently, my partner in love is my boyfriend, and I think we have built a good relationship. However, when I think about my future with...

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I don't feel well and want to quit my job, but I'm worried about my life

Work is getting harder year by year, and recently not only can I not get rid of fatigue, but my physical condition continues, such as pain all over my body. There are no days off other than public holidays (8th or 9th) every month, and due to a constant shortage of personnel, I can't take paid...

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The meaning of living even though my heart is broken

Even now, every day I start my day regretting not getting a job in my 20s. I passed a difficult exam with a hard job, but I was working another job at that time and for some reason I didn't change jobs. Even though I studied hard in order to change jobs, I passed the exam. Even now, I have no...

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Parents who throw things away without permission

I decided to leave my parents' house on the occasion of my marriage, but since I can't throw things away, I sorted the things I wanted to dispose of when organizing my home beforehand and asked my parents to dispose of them. However, after a while, I had errands, and when I went back to my...

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I want to somehow live positively even when I'm sick

Nice to meet you. I read the Hasunoha article that was published in the Asahi Shimbun, and I had a consultation with them. As described in my profile, I was finally able to get a job from home in 2024, and I can't say that my income is high due to the employment of people with disabilities,...

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I feel guilty for killing bugs such as spiders

It kills spiders and small insects whose names you don't know. I often crush them with a tissue, and after killing them, they say “I'm sorry” and put their hands together a bit, but even though they feel sorry, they still kill bugs every time. They kill them because they're afraid. For...

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I want to die

I want to die. It's hard to live. I feel like everything I'm doing is useless, and there's no point in living. I don't want to do anything, I don't feel motivated. You might be bothered when you die, but I don't think it's more of a nuisance than being alive. I tried to die before, but in the...

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heart emoticon

Excuse me for asking. When getting in touch via SMS, the other party uses heart emoticons and emojis, but do men usually use heart marks on seniors they are on good terms with? I like it, so I'm interested. Thank you for your advice.

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Resistance to dislike

Currently, I am working on a temporary basis. It was a job that required detailed cleanliness, and I decided that it was not a job that suited me, and I offered to retire and was accepted. My legs were heavy on the way to work, and I started feeling nauseous before going to work in the...

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I'm wondering if I should have an abortion. I'm 10 weeks pregnant.

I became pregnant with his (28 years old) child whom I had been in a relationship for 5 months. However, he is quick to say things that deny his personality (I'm scum). I've been trying my best to fix my bad points, but I've been told over and over again about my way of saying and thinking,...

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Maybe I hit and run

About 5 years ago, I was working as a delivery person, and one day, I felt like I heard a trick sound when parking in the back in the parking lot of the apartment, and when I looked at the side mirror, there was a slight scratch on the side mirror, but I may have hit it at that time, but I...

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Zaike's dialect

I think we should respect the Three Treasures at home. We should respect monks, obey them, and criticize them as much as possible. I think so. I became a resident Buddhist and have been studying a lot for a few years. I began to express my own opinions on SNS, “If you're at home, you can...

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How to relate to parents and how to raise a sense of self-affirmation

I'm a working woman in my 20s. From when I was in middle school, I didn't have any confidence in myself, and I began to see only the things I chose and the bad aspects of the place I belonged to, and I began to take a negative view of them. Recently, I've been taking a fresh look at myself,...

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I'm worried to be told a story I was inspired by in my childhood

I went to my grandparents' house the other day and talked with my grandparents and cousins. It was a story about my childhood when I wasn't able to remember myself at that time, and I was told stories about how when I went to graves and temples, I could see spirits (for example, talking about...

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I want to be a stupid person

　This is because people who are silly won't be asked to do anything, because they will make a fool of themselves. This is because they don't get mad at you even if you make a mistake, and they're labeled as bad at asking that guy. But people who are stupid aren't trusted, but they are in...

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I passed over the top of the sacred card

I was collecting trash from employees at work. At that time, it's in a paper bag on the floor I went through with a bag containing trash on top of the sacred card. Instead of straddling each other, the trash bag and arm passed over the sacred card. I don't have a kamidana at work yet, so I...

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I want to like people again.

I haven't had a new love since I broke up with my ex six months ago, with whom I had been in a relationship for many years. Even when I meet a lot of people, I don't think I like them. I only find bad points, and I can't trust them in the first place, and before making decisions like them, I...

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My mental and physical disorder doesn't go away and it's painful

I'm suffering from symptoms such as not being able to get into my head no matter how much I look back at the content of sentences and sounds, and even if I can barely understand them, it takes too long to understand them. I know it's causing trouble to people around me, but I can't improve it by...

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