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I'm addicted to women's customs.

It's an embarrassing story, but the title says it. I went to a different place, but it wasn't good, and I did a lot of research, and since it became the current book nominee, I chose that person. I don't know if I like it or if I recommend it. I know it's work, but the compliments from him are also very happy and make me feel good, and my self-affirmation increases. At the same time, after meeting him, I sometimes burst into tears and became self-loathing. I know it's better to quit, but since it's a world where you don't know when he'll quit, I also have a feeling I want to keep it there while we meet. If possible, it's private, and maybe there's a feeling somewhere that I want to be friends with benefits, or get married. Thank you for your advice.

4 Zen Responses

Through relationships, firmly realize that you love and be loved by others

Being able to say happy words and being gently touched is very comfortable and reassuring, isn't it? Even though it's work, I think this time is a heartfelt skinship directed only at you. I think using it is also a way to release one's mind and body.

However, it is a transactional relationship that seems to be buying time, and it is a romantic relationship in a dream. There's probably nothing more you can hope for. I can enjoy that time only because I know it. And as long as the money lasts, it won't run out. You should look for a clear and visible way to socialize.

Let's protect the fact that he also has a private life. That's because he's the guy I love. Being a good user is also what he wants, isn't it?

Through my relationship with him, I fully realized that I love and be loved by others. Then you can love people. Let's draw a picture of the partner we'll meet someday.

Thank you for your question.
Once upon a time, when my friend was around 18, when she graduated from high school and went to a soapland, a female staff member said, “You're still young, so don't come to a place like this. Do your best to make a girlfriend and be a girlfriend.” It seems that they were scolded.
When I heard that story from my friend, I thought they were kind female staff.
I want to say the same words to you on behalf of the person who nominated the book of recommendations.
“Let's get a boyfriend. A boyfriend money can't buy.”

If you want to relieve stress...

 Minto-san, there are many difficult things, such as changes in the climate due to recent price increases and heat. Please take care of yourself first.
I'm worried that I've become addicted to customs. Recently, it has been happening as a social issue where women get stuck with hosts or become addicted to underground male idols. As a result, they make accounts receivable, get into debt, quit their jobs and work in high-income customs, and the destination they end up with is street prostitution. Doesn't looking at this make your future come to mind?
After all, I can't say don't go into the manners. There is a saying that this is also a type of occupation, so I can't easily deny that, but I think it's better to decide the rules yourself. Basically, I think it's a good idea to go there looking for healing to relieve the stress of everyday work and work. There's nothing wrong with falling for a specific individual. As long as we live in a society called humans, if we meet, we also break up. The separation from Aibetsu is one of the pains of life that the Buddha acknowledged. “The pain of having to break up with something you love.” This is not only about your lover, you have fallen in love with, not only with people, but also with things such as pets, stuffed animals, toys, etc., and at some point you will have to break up with them. It means that there is such suffering.
If you start to get attached to it, think that you have to get out of it. Obsession is the most troublesome form of desire. Being asked about my worries like this just now is a good opportunity to look back on my life once again. After looking back on your own life, please review the customs you go through and make effective use of them in the future.
That's all for me.

Please take care of yourself

I read it.
I read your thoughts. I don't know the details about you, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

There are things in life where people get addicted to it like that. So it's definitely not embarrassing, and it's not strange. Humans have that kind of thing. I think it was a very happy and thankful encounter for you.

One caveat is that what that person is doing is just a paid service that makes you feel comfortable as a customer. Naturally, that person earns income there and uses it for a living, so it's a job.
So I don't think that's always the case in that person's private life.

You may like that person very much and be favored, but I think the reality is that it is quite difficult to have a private relationship with that person, become friends with benefits, or get married. For that person, you are one of the customers who pay for the service.
Don't forget that is the first assumption.

And if you really want to go out with that person, be sure to check it out. At that time, on the contrary, it may be a very difficult answer for you, or I think it may be used for money. What's more, a relationship with friends with benefits is going to be very painful for you too.

Either way, please take care of yourself. Your future is important, and so is your future.

I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with truly wonderful encounters and relationships in the future, be in a relationship with someone who can cherish each other, and live a happy life from the bottom of your heart while caring for each other. And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. Close to the Heart m (__) m