are you cutting the edge yourself

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, so if you have even one weakness, if you fail, you won't be able to hire anyone in any company's recruitment test.
If it is a company with a shortage of manpower, they close their eyes to some shortcomings and select the required number of people from among the applicants by the required deadline.
Therefore, I think there is also a way for you to decide how many times you need to get married (usually 1) by the required deadline.
How to determine necessity is also an issue, though.
However, there are various disadvantages, and there are also disadvantages that are absolutely useless.
As expected, a partner who is addicted to DV, moral harassment, gambling, or alcohol is not suitable as a marriage partner.
Well, there are times when intuition is surprisingly correct, so if you intuitively think “he's a weird person,” he may really be a strange person, but just because he's a weird person doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad person.
In the end, attractive men are also targeted by other women, so there is an element where the first one wins, so there is a possibility that men with many shortcomings will stand out the longer they are hired, so I think it is important to “be aware of recruitment deadlines.”
As monks, we all have the afflictions of greed, anger, laziness, and pride, and since we haven't attained (enlightenment) yet, I think that there are no perfect people, and I think it's better to take care of others without hating them.
A compassionate perspective that says, “Even with someone like this, there are cute places if you look closely,” leads to stress reduction.

Joining a marriage agency is also a step forward. This is because even if a romantic relationship hasn't been established, they have been on dates over and over again. Let's go without being impatient. It's a life partner. You should make a firm assessment.

I think it's good to value intuition. To that end, not only do you expect leads from men, but you can also suggest dates you want to enjoy. There are many cases where people registered at counseling centers aren't used to dating, and they've probably thought a lot about date plans, but that's it? That time too. At that time, while appreciating that the other party thought that (if it's an izakaya, the menu is rich and they may have taken care to make it easier for me to choose), I thought, “Can I invite you to a nice cafe next time?” I think it would be a good idea to take a look at his reaction.

If the response is weak, (cafes aren't cozy, aren't they? I know they're not interested in places I want to go), so I think it's better to decide that if that happens, they might not be a good fit for this person.

If you think of it as a relationship or marriage from now on, people who take in your opinions can properly respect each other. That's because a better relationship is an equal relationship.
So, let's take a proactive approach too.

I read it.
You're really worried that you haven't been able to expand your conversation with the people you've met and your relationship hasn't deepened. I don't know the details about you, but I can tell you that you are very worried. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It certainly makes me regret thinking about this or that after things didn't go well. It's not just you, it's something that makes everyone think that and worry about it.
But if you hang around with regret, you won't move on. So let's change our minds and move on to new encounters. Please try to expand the various stories a little more this time and try to have a fun conversation.
There are life encounters, and there are breakups.
Let's meet various people and get to know them while talking a lot.
Also, if you don't mind, why don't you join the “Temple and Shrine Con”?
You can meet all kinds of people through shrines and temples.
https://jisyacon.com/
Various events are also held at shrines and temples, so let's take part and experience while deepening relationships with various people.
I sincerely pray to Buddha, God, and your ancestors that you will be blessed with wonderful encounters in the future and that you will be able to sincerely trust and deepen relationships with your loved ones, and that you can live a happy life by sincerely trusting and deepening relationships with your loved ones. We wholeheartedly agree

Thank you for your consultation.
We will respond wholeheartedly.

First of all, I feel a deep sense of sincerity in your attitude of facing marriage hunting and moving forward despite your worries.

I also understand very well the feeling that things don't go as expected and that “I think I have the cause.”

In Buddhism, any event is viewed as a relationship (enlightenment) for “awareness.” This encounter, and the fact that it didn't go well, is “How do I want to get involved with people?” Maybe it was a valuable opportunity to take a fresh look.

Intuition is an important sensibility, but if you rely only on it, you may make judgments before looking at the other person's essence.
Values that you cherish yourself may be hidden in the background of feeling that you are a “strange person.” One form of Buddhism is to look back carefully without denying that feeling. Regret is also an important lesson. The fact that I felt “maybe I could have talked more” is proof that you have the kindness to “want to have a deep connection with people.” Please direct that kindness towards yourself first.
It's not about “getting out of a feeling,” but “walking with that feeling.” Buddhism values such a way of being in the mind. The feelings you have right now are definitely not wrong.

Finally, if you like the “questions” and “prayers” I am sending you, please ask yourself the following questions gently.
・ “What kind of people do I want to spend time with?”
・ “When I connect with people, what do I want to value the most?”
The answer to this question may not come right away.
But your “relationship” is certainly moving towards that answer.
I believe that your kindness and seriousness will one day quietly reach someone's heart, and will surely become a warm relationship and come to fruition.
Please don't blame yourself too much and continue to walk quietly and sincerely with the “wish” that is here and now.

Gassho