friend relationship

My mind changes moment by moment and I can't stop. The other person's heart, and my own. Since you can't predict what you're thinking in an instant, it's even harder to understand how the other person's mind will move. That's why “I can't rely on it.” So, is “Run Melos” by Osamu Dazai nothing but fantasy? That's not the case. This is because, like Melos, you can solidify your own will and get through on your own. Again, it is unclear what will happen until results are obtained, but at least as long as the will is maintained, it is possible to remain unwavering.
Something we can “rely on” somehow is called ambition. If you have this, you won't be misled by changes in the people around you, and you won't be bothered. On the contrary, constant change unknowingly strengthens our patience, makes us observe the whole picture of human beings, gives us courage and excitement, and strengthens our ambitions.
It is in the midst of change that we can grow.
You were blessed with the opportunity to learn about this early on. Please don't blame your partner, don't lose confidence, and think about what “you should do as a person” for your current self.
After all, the only thing you can rely on is the will that is born there.
No matter how small, if you live with ambition, you will be able to respond to events and circumstances, sometimes talk back and forth, and sometimes stand in silence. Let's walk the path of improvement step by step. May the Buddha bless you if you are sincere. Gassho
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Hello Haru.

You promised your old friend, “Let's honestly say whatever we think.” And it's painful that I haven't been able to keep that promise. The reason for this is that your friend's tone and feelings are strong. Consultation with...

You have close friends. They're not teachers, seniors, or juniors; even though they're people on the same level as myself, they're extremely strong at hitting... Honestly, I'm freaked out. aren't you saying something strong again? Suddenly, when I forget about that and call out, words quickly stick to my heart. Huh... it's bothersome.

Apparently, the reason is “not because your heart is weak.”
Because that's not the case. That friend doesn't care about me at all. I enjoy it as much as I want.
I don't know where the words of someone who freely acts as a friend come from. damn it.
But originally, we probably aren't people who can understand each other.

I'm sure your opponent doesn't know Haru-san is hurt. My friend isn't Haru-san herself, and even if she says “I'm hurt” in words, she might not be able to reach her.
If you don't seriously express your feelings, you may be surprised even more.

It's not a “promise at all.” Because when you die, you don't know how to keep that promise, do you? Promises can be broken.
Please don't worry and have a serious relationship with that friend.

　I want you to fix my friend's place. This is one of the problems students struggle with, isn't it? this is serious. If I had to start with an adult eagle, he? her? I think it's his personality. It shows my personality just the way it is. It's proof that they think you're a friend they don't care about. But, as is the case with eagles, I don't like being told that.
That friend probably wants you to fix too, right? Strong tone and strong personality don't match. Before you complain about others, take a look back at yourself first. A verbal agreement is convenient for making up. What you promised and what you did is another matter. Aren't they taking care of each other in order not to get on bad terms? But isn't that a good thing? Fighting every time you talk about your true intentions is also very energetic. If you can accept yourself, wouldn't that be fine? It is sometimes said that eagles are also difficult in dialects. I've heard that in Hyogo, there are regions where language is difficult. That may be the cause, so why don't you take it positively because you think your friend is now exposing what you've been hiding until now? Let's take a closer look.
The words I always say when asking questions like this are not to deal with things you think you don't like. Be true friends who recognize each other's individuality.

People feel uncomfortable when they want their partner to be like this, but the actual reality isn't.
A friend I love to you. I think I wanted them to always be good friends and stay the way they used to be.
But I'm sure that friend also experienced a lot of difficult and frustrating things in their family situations and relationships with people around them.
We also wish this world would be calmer and quieter without conflict, but the reality is that motorbikes are still running with amazing sounds right now, and there are disasters, incidents, and accidents in various places on the news.
Every time I do that, I want to feel sick.
What is impermanence and selflessness in Buddhism
・There are no rules in this world
・It doesn't turn out the way I want
・Everything changes all the time
・Nothing is influenced by my own thoughts...
My friend recently changed jobs, and since then it's been hard to get in touch with them at all.
However, I think so without permission, and I think he is in the midst of rapid growth right now. From my experience, somehow, it's ❝ tough ❞ when people are growing up or trying to respond to changes.
I'm sure there will be times when you have to change and respond to the circumstances around you, and there will surely be times when it is getting tougher.
She hasn't changed.
You too have changed.
Everyone has changed, even today. It's changing.
You too are changing, improving, learning, and growing.
As you may have understood, it's a positive change for both of us.
Of course, there are things that don't change.
I feel like you want to be nice with her.
It's good because it hasn't changed (^<^),
But it's also nice that it changes in a good way. ('omega')