Continuing from last time

I had a consultation about a week ago.
After that, the results and settlement were made.

I told him that I wanted his underwear etc. to be returned, and as expected, I wrote a letter today with the intention of taking action, and posted it in the mailbox saying “If you can't return it by the end of today, I'm even thinking in the direction of contacting the workplace to pick it up.” As a result, when the devil came and they were doing shikato, they said, “Huh, what? Hey, don't you write to me without permission, you're not my girlfriend, you haven't said a single word that you have a girlfriend, that's where I misunderstood without permission, so I have to say it to you one by one? Why do we have to be restrained? Shouldn't we date? Unlike you, I'm busy... '
They said, “Come pick it up right away,” and when I said “I don't want to meet you, put it on the doorknob,” they said, “You said it's okay, so come pick it up.” I usually kept quiet and listened, but today I was told back and forth, “I'm talking about years ago, that's already, damn, don't call me again, block it.”
They call me over and over again as if to confirm that a person is blocking it, and it's terrible.
I blocked it in haste, and it's a disgusting way to end, but the person I liked was around this point. I don't understand people's pain. People who just play backwards... I wonder why I've always liked this kind of person... I've now realized once again that they were treated as convenient women.

4 Zen Responses

Let them clean up after the house. You should force him to do things that are troublesome

You blocked it, didn't you?
I threw this guy away from you! You can think of it. Let's forget it as soon as possible.

In order to break off your relationship with him, isn't it okay to leave your underwear as it is? It's unavoidable even if he has one, so in the end, he will dispose of it. You should let him clean up the aftermath. It's troublesome for him. You should force him to take care of that.

People who cherish and love you are always kind and compassionate. Let's meet someone like that.

Let's get rid of all bad relationships

I read it.
You can clearly see that person is a really terrible selfish person for you. It must have been very painful for you, and I sincerely understand your painful feelings.
By nature, that person was a selfish person. So it's nothing but a bad relationship for you. You don't need to get involved with that person at all, do you?
So I'm glad you didn't block it.
Let's get rid of all such bad relationships and misdeeds.
Those who say such bad words or misdeeds will always be rewarded, so be sure to cut them out.
I sincerely pray that you will throw away all such bad relationships from the bottom of your heart, be blessed with encounters and relationships with people you really care for, understand each other from the bottom of your heart, and live a happy life from the bottom of your heart. And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

Now that you've realized what it really is, it's time to move on

From the sentences you've written, I can tell you a lot about how exhausting your heart is and how much you've been tormented by the other person's attitude. Even though I just asked for my underwear to be returned, I was scolded in reverse, and I was showered with excuses and shifting responsibility... It can be said that each and every one of those exchanges clearly shows a “relationship where you have been handled conveniently.”

1. Being able to gain awareness itself is “graduation”

Being asked myself, “Why have I always liked this kind of person?” is a big step in my mind. In Buddhism, it is called “good fortune,” and it is explained that both encounters and breakups appear and leave when the cause and relationship are in place. The appearance you liked was only a partial temporary figure, and what has now been revealed was “that person's true nature.” The moment I learned about it, that relationship was already running out.

2. Don't blame yourself

It's painful to feel that “she was treated as a convenient woman,” but it's also proof that you were dealing with it sincerely and seriously. The desire to believe in others is not a weakness, but a precious power. You don't have to think “I was stupid” by being betrayed. The heart you believed in is your treasure, and it's just that your partner's immaturity couldn't accept that heart.

3. One step towards letting go

Sing “thank you” and “goodbye” with your heart
There were times when I liked it, so if you chant “thank you for learning” with your heart and then add “goodbye,” it will be easier to sort out your feelings.

Organize things that have shapes
If you have something on hand that reminds you of the other person, letting go of it little by little will lead to the liberation of your mind.

4. For the next relationship

In Buddhism, the teaching of “sky (sky)” says “when you leave an obsession, a new relationship is born.” Through the suffering you are experiencing right now, you are learning “what it means to take care of yourself.” That awareness will lead to a new good relationship.

To the knot

You may feel that it ended in a bad way, but what is more important than “how it ended” is “getting noticed.” Your kindness has never gone away. Please don't blame yourself and direct that kindness towards yourself from now on.

Gassho

I send my sincere words of sympathy.

　I read the consultation. Then, I'll give you a green onion.
It was really well acted upon. This is a break with your past self, so it's natural for you to feel lost and suffer. I really learned that relationships (situations and relationships from time to time) are greatly influenced by relationships with humans.
When there's no room in your mind, it's easy for buying words to be born in sales words. People become aggressive when they can't say sorry. I've already let go of my relationship with him, so I don't think I'll be swayed by him, but I think “humans can become like that,” at least I learned and realized.
And maybe... “I have to say what I need to say. You have to move when you can.” That too.
How are you feeling right now? You may have some minor regrets for a while, but at least, aren't you now able to stay fresh and fair in front of your friends?
It's difficult to live a life without lies at all, but you've taken a step towards that. Thank you for your hard work. I wish you a happy life.

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