I wonder if it would be better to bury the grave...

Certainly, if there is no one to protect the tomb, it means that if you don't think about the tomb, it will be desolate and the temple won't be able to handle it.

Grave staining depends on the size in the case of burial, but I think it will take at least 200,000. In the case of a tomb that also contains carots, etc., it would cost at least 300,000.

Other than that, it is necessary to have a temple perform a memorial service called soul removal, procedures for reburial permission in order to move bones, and costs for permanent memorial services at the destination.

I think it's a good idea to talk to the temple at the family temple who is taking care of you now and have them enter there for a permanent memorial service.

I also do tree burial at my temple, but it's the cheapest, so it starts at 200,000 yen per spirit.

The amount varies depending on the temple, so I think it's a good idea to look it up carefully.

I read it.
I see... I read it, including Kunigenshi's answers and yours. It might be quite difficult from now on for temples that are compatible like that...

In any case, let's have a thorough discussion with your mother and brother.
And if you decide to hide the tomb, talk to the temple.
The temple will remove the soul from the tomb, and it will be necessary to vacate the tomb and return it. It is necessary to ask the stone shop carefully about removal costs and dispose of them properly. Let's talk to Ishiya.

I think that temple also has a joint tomb, but what do you think... will they ask for a large amount of money? I think it's okay to visit it once.
I think there are places where they join the shrine at other temples.
I think it would be desirable to be taken care of by a place where it is easy to pray in the future or to a kind temple, so don't be in a hurry and look for one. I'm sure I'll find a good place, and I think I'll be able to meet a good Buddha relationship.

We have found a place where you can bury your ancestors with peace of mind, and I sincerely pray to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can continue to make offerings to your ancestors with all your heart, and that you can spend a healthy and rich day. We wholeheartedly agree

If there is a grave, I think it would be better to maintain it. From time to time, they go to graves, light flower offerings and candles, and light incense sticks to make offerings. We read short sutras and pray together. Please pray for the spring and fall equinoxes and the anniversary of the deaths of your ancestors. In particular, you don't need to ask a monk. There is no cost if you take care of the grave yourself. It became a memorial service for your ancestors, for you and your mother
I think it will calm your mind too. It's fine to the extent possible, so please clean the graves several times a year and pray.
Regrets happen about the past; anxiety happens about the future. Being able to notice this moment right now, this moment will stop feelings such as regret and anxiety, and you will be able to regain your sense of happiness. This is called back and forth cutting. Try taking a slow breath and taking a deep breath when visiting graves.