Job hunting is hard

I'm currently working as a freelancer, and I started job hunting with the goal of becoming a full-time employee, but it's not going well.

The first place I took was rejected at the time of the written exam, and the one that was challenging until the final interview was also rejected.
There was a second exam for my first choice today, but my writing and interview didn't go well at all.
When it came to the interview, I was so nervous that I answered something ridiculous, and the interviewer laughed at me with my nose. The other interviewers were also stunned and laughed. It's embarrassing just to think about it; I can see the results...

On days when I have time for job hunting, I go to Halloween, and the staff go with me a lot to prepare for interviews and tell me that it's absolutely fine, but this is a mess.
It's often said that they had no connection with the company that went down, but in my case, I don't think they were accepted because they were simply dumb. The content I talk about on my resume and in the interview is worked out in consultation with the staff, so that's the only factor that falls short...
It seems that staff members say “they are excellent, so employment is likely to be decided right away” (for the time being, TOEIC is 800 points or higher, and they also have skills such as Excel). I was so sorry that I couldn't stop crying.

Even though only 3 companies have accepted it yet, as you can see, not only are they mentally weak, but I really don't get excited about my friends who have been working as members of society since a few years ago or college students who are new graduates and are now accepting dozens of companies.
It's natural for job hunting to take 3 companies and drop 3 companies, and I'm aware that I'm a person who cries one by one and is sweet to myself, but after all, I feel depressed when confronted with reality in the form of being rejected. With this mentality, I'm sure you won't be able to do anything even if you get a job offer and go out into society.

I am constantly reminded that I am a social misfit. What should I do to make it work? I just think that there are no companies that need me, that I don't want to hire slaves like me, and that even if other companies take it from now on, I'll fail anyway.
What should I do to become mentally stronger and become a strong person after being hit? What should I do to make job hunting and life go well...

4 Zen Responses

It is precisely because I can see my own weaknesses that I can think about new countermeasures again.

That's depressing, isn't it? I think they were also very nervous. Since they met Hello Work staff over and over and over and over again, they probably felt relieved.

There are also people who are good at the actual performance, but after all, during a one-time test meeting for the first time, they may not be able to exert enough strength as expected, and they may be pulled by negative tension.

When I get nervous too, there are times when I don't understand what I'm saying. Overcoming is repeated preparation and getting used to this kind of place. The point is, it's an experience. It's also a road that everyone goes through.

I think there is also a way to get used to it from being a part-time worker and becoming a full-time employee. There are also companies that aim to be companies that have a full-time employee promotion system.
With this one, I was able to think about new countermeasures again only because I was able to see my own weaknesses. Don't get discouraged, move on. It's also important to change that kind of feeling. It's a fight. I'm sure you'll find a job that suits you.

I understand how you feel

I've experienced it too, so I really understand how you feel.
It's hard in your heart, even if you behave in public.
I remember feeling like my whole personality was being denied, and I was terribly depressed.
I don't think you're mentally weak at all just because you fell for three companies and cried.
However, it is too early to give up on this from the point of view of someone who has lived many times more lives than you.
There is always a company waiting for you to join.
Once you've finished shedding tears, switch your mind and attack the next company with all your might.
I'm rooting for you from Hasunoha.

Research and respect for opponents (test takers)

As for the motivation for applying, I think it would be strong if I could talk about reasons that convey that they want to join that company rather than using phrases that are common to any company.
Your own dreams and interests match the company's philosophy, etc., and that alone is fine.
Also, “because I have a branch near my parents' house” is fine.
It is good if there is a sense of satisfaction that makes the interviewer think, “If that is the reason, they will continue without quitting right away.”
Let's draw a picture of the benefits of hiring you for the company (an excuse that makes it easier for the interviewer to explain to other employees why they hired you).
It's a good idea to show that the company's philosophy and your individual dreams have something in common, that they are likely to work for that company for a long time, or that they are human resources that the company is looking for.
On the flip side, it's also about imagining why you want to work for that company, even if exaggerated.
Even if you think “any place is fine if you hire me,” go ahead and draw some kind of story about “I want to work for this company” and “OK, if there's such a reason, I'd like to hire you.”
To that end, it's important to research that company and respect it.
You can even match the color of the tie to that company's logo.

You're doing your best, and sharpness, such as healing, is also important

Nishido-sama

Nice to meet you.
Thank you for your question.
I heard that 3 companies were also challenged for interviews, and thank you so much for your hard work.
If you don't get results, you'll think “I'm no good.” That feeling is natural, and it's proof that I've worked hard so far.
Haven't I also been denied my existence and personality? I have a past where I thought about it.

Just don't forget it. The fact that I have obtained 800 TOEIC points and honed my Excel skills is an ability that I would never acquire without effort and persistence. There is no such thing as being “smart.” Rather, while they have great strengths, they may just not be able to fully convey them.

What is useful for this is consultation with a nationally qualified career consultant. A career consultant is an expert who takes inventory of Nishido's experiences and skills together and organizes his strengths into “words.”
Also, the “job card” used at that time is just a blueprint for job hunting!
It summarizes what you've learned, your work experiences, and your hopes for the future in one sheet so you can talk confidently during the interview.

Job hunting can be difficult when you take it alone. That's why having an expert accompany you can help you take the next step. There is also a system that links career consultants with your region of residence from the Ministry of Health, Labor, and Welfare page.
If you look for it, there might also be a Zoom interview.

Also, as to how to become mentally stronger, of course, it may be easier to live if you are mentally strong. You might be comparing yourself to someone who is mentally strong, especially now.
However, I was like, “Aren't you too hard on yourself?” I thought, but what do you think of Nishido-san? I'd like to hear more.

When I had time, I did an egogram diagnosis, and advice was written, and I thought you could objectively view yourself.

“I did my best today too. Thanks for my body too. Why don't you speak kindly to yourself as if you were being kind to others, saying “See you tomorrow too”?

I'm hoping that job hunting will go well
Please come back to Hasunoha anytime

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