I can't forgive myself

I read it.

“Regret,” which carries people's mistakes in their hearts, is a self-reward given only to those who have grown up. If you haven't grown, you will continue to do the same things over and over again, driven by the same desires as before.

As people live, “huh? I feel a sense of incongruity with “something different.” It's a “feeling of not being able to live my own way.”

The past doesn't disappear, and “there were times when my past self thought this way. But I'll never be the same again now because of the circumstances that made me regret it.” I think I can make them say that.

My past self and my present self are all my own, but in Buddhism, the “law of cause and effect” of “cause → relationship → cause → effect” is absolute.
There are countless relationships in everyday life, so “the heart represented by momentary demons” creates the cause and effect of regret.
Those of us who live within that continuity of cause and effect are called “causal laws.”

・Bad cause bad effect
・Good causes and good fruits

And it is the determination of the mind that decides it. This is called “self-cause and self-effect.”

Sometimes failures and regrets are necessary in order to improve our lives. This is because, as there is a saying “good medicine is painful to eat,” it is also a commandment to never cause causes (traumatic events) that occurred in the past again.

There isn't a single person in the world who doesn't regret it.
It's a heart that continues to form myself where no one changes.
“I feel better now. It's definitely going to get better.” Remembering them and if you have goals, etc., will gradually change for the better, if you just aim for the goal and move on to practice while holding the commandments in your heart.

from now on. What is life. anytime.

For reference only.

Gassho

I read it.
You've lived honestly and seriously until now, and you're deeply sorry that you went to a sex shop due to an accidental impulse. You've reached your limit because you couldn't forgive yourself for doing such a foolish thing and blamed yourself. I don't know the details about you, but I feel like I understand your feelings very well. I sincerely understand your painful feelings and suffering.
Well, you probably can't forgive yourself for doing such a thing, and you're probably driving yourself away by blaming yourself for being ashamed and hurt by doing such foolish thoughts and actions.
You're not alone in feeling and thinking like that. There are more than a few people who think so.
Please put your hands together with the Buddha, God, and your ancestors to confess that thought from the bottom of your heart, and sincerely repent for what you have done. And let's sincerely apologize to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors.
And from now on, let's keep good thoughts, words, and actions in mind every day, pledge to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will kindly accept all of your thoughts, repentance, apologies, and vows; they will kindly accept and save you; and they will forgive you.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors always look after you kindly. You are a very important and precious person.
So let go of your heart little by little, forgive yourself, and don't blame you. You will continue to be blessed with many relationships with many people, gain a lot of experience, and grow.
I sincerely pray that you will first take care of yourself, be blessed with relationships with many people, gain various events and experiences, and grow healthily, so that you can live a rich and fulfilling life from the bottom of your heart without advancing good thoughts, words, and actions. And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

It's not at all embarrassing for single, healthy men to go to sex with the money they earn.
The late writer Nishimura Kenta was asked by a reporter at the press conference to win the Akutagawa Award, “What were you doing when you heard the news of winning the award,” and answered, “I stayed at home and thought I'd go to the customs soon,” and it became a hot topic of conversation.
The only time you have to go to sex and feel guilty is if you have a specific girlfriend and it results in betraying her.
You regret that you “did the worst thing,” but above all, it is a statement that made a fool of people who work in the sex industry.
Prostitutes and similar occupations have existed since the beginning of history.
There were many prostitutes even during the time when Shakyamuni was alive, and Amba Parley, who earned a lot of money as a courtesan in the commercial city of Vaishali, donated gardens to the religious community, and later became a monk and became a nun is famous.
Shakyamuni strictly admonishes infidelity, but he hasn't uttered a single word of condemnation about prostitution.
I'm not encouraging people to go to the manners.
Of course, I think it would be much better if you had a wonderful girlfriend and have a close relationship both mentally and physically.
However, I feel a great deal of opposition to the narrow way of thinking that manners and customs are dirty and unsuitable for serious and sincere people.
If you're currently in your mid-twenties, you'll be dating several women from now until you get married (of course, there is also a possibility that your first girlfriend will be your lifelong partner).
Similar to relationships with such women, I recommend not denying this sex experience, but above all else, appreciating that partner and treating it as one of your precious memories.

　Good evening. I also saw the previous conversation. Basically, I agree with all three parties.
So, again, what does “learn by doing” mean? I'll add a little bit.
Essentially... learning in life is learning from extreme mistakes. It seems to me that they have learned that “humans, when certain conditions (called relationships) are met, go to manners and customs.” There is a slight generalization of not only “myself,” but also “humans.”
By doing so, I think I'll develop a little bit of compassion for others. Such impatience and loneliness move humans. Humans have such weak points (this is called ordinary people).
The monks know that all people are ordinary men. So no one had a word to blame you, right?
However, that doesn't mean “go bang bang.” I also think it's nothing but an “unstoppable job.”
You can't stop blaming yourself, but I think knowing that you (too) have weaknesses is another step towards being kind.
So, if possible (if there is a possible relationship), I would like them to become people who can search for ways to avoid it (buy/sell) with that person.