Reunion with my wife (10 years less) and lover

Morality, ethics, credibility
These are for “living well”
If you need unrighteous secrecy for a better life, throw away morality

Trying to take either one won't work
Even though he has as much talent as Ohtani Shohei, the dual sword style is within one sport called baseball
There can't be a duality of other genres like “soccer and baseball”

Happiness due to trust and happiness due to unrighteousness are in conflict, and technology with different genres is necessary

You are free to continue, but bear the responsibility of injustice
Don't think you'll be forgiven, and be prepared to cut your stomach if you find out

“A person who lazily becomes someone else's wife and gets close will encounter four things. ── In other words, they conjure disasters, lie down and don't enjoy it, third, they are criticized, and fourth, they fall into hell.”
“There is little pleasure for men and women who are both frightened by the disaster, falling into a bad place (hell), and the king imposes severe punishments. Therefore, people should be someone else's wife and don't get close.”
Shakyamuni strictly admonishes stealing someone else's wife.
It is said that the woman you are currently in a relationship with previously had a relationship with another man, had a child, and got married, but if you're still living with your husband and child, you've betrayed them, and you can't really tell them to continue your current relationship as it is (it's a different story if she's divorced).
However, things are slightly different in your case.
I haven't had sex for ten years since my marriage, and my wife doesn't want to have children.
A long time ago, it was a requirement for divorce, but if two people have agreed, there is no need for someone else to say anything wrong (however, it's a pretty special marital relationship).
It is said that you love your wife, but even so, there were feelings that were not satisfied, so you probably started a relationship with a girlfriend you've known since college.
It seems like proper advice to recommend that you break off your relationship with her right away, but can you endure it in the future?
One option is to divorce your wife and get a bad start, but on the contrary, I don't feel like it will make your wife unhappy.
If a monk says something like this, they may be scolded, but I think it is possible to continue with the current state on the condition that no one is hurt (if that is really possible).
Your wife's happiness is important, but so is your own.

I'll answer from the perspective of the woman over there.
First of all, you fooled my mom.
If you want to marry my mom, you should properly talk to your current wife and get divorced, right? But you're not my dad.
Really, you guys know that you're really intentional and disgruntled, right? I've seen it through.
I'm just doing that because it's convenient.
Because I know you don't love my mom.
I don't love you, so I deceived myself and my mom, and it was a convenient, easy and goofy doggy ride. it's probably the guts of being dumb to evade responsibility. My job isn't going well, and my wife is sexless. It all comes from that personality.
I don't want to take the risk of carrying a family mom with the whole family, so they're beautiful and there's no love. But what do you mean by liking your mom? What is that self-indulgence mentality? They conveniently appeased me, so I'm in love with myself, and I don't like my mom or anything. Are you prepared to be scolded by my family and stabbed? Do you have a sense of guilt that both our family balance and human path were disrupted because of you? Don't you want your family destroyed, and don't you want your wife to find out? hehe.
Let's talk about it there. That person is saying this, right?
・Should I end the relationship right now
・Is it OK to continue like this
・Do you continue to love your wife and mom at the same time? Is it permissible if I can hide it
that's amazing. Where are we going?
Even by law, sexlessness is a reason for divorce, even if it is a ten-billion step concession.
“If one of the couple wishes to have sexual intercourse but the other party continues to refuse without a valid reason, it is a serious reason that makes it difficult to continue the marriage.” If that's the case, you should get divorced. However, at home, there is a violation of the duty of chastity between husband and wife.
What kind of face do you make to us and our grandparents when they break into our home with bare feet? How would your ancestors feel if you betrayed your wife and mom, your relatives, and your own conscience and put their hands together with your ancestors? You don't want to be upset, do you? What are you praying for? Do Buddhas and monks just use it conveniently?
That kind of self-centered, indulgent heart that doesn't think about people's feelings is called unbelief, no religion, love for oneself, and the devil.
Sometimes sushi is already unaware that your heart is in the demon world all this time 🍣
But sushi and love are raw. It's delicious even when chilled, but it can't be preserved, right?
You should feel guilty for betraying both of them right now.
Other than you, they've also been defiled, haven't they? Who made you do that?
who is it?

👨‍👨‍👦‍👦 When a sense of guilt arises, “I like it!”

I think the choice itself is wrong.
I understand that if you properly tell your wife that you want children and she still refuses, you will officially get divorced and remarry someone else.
However, if that woman is married, or if you had a relationship while knowing that you are a married person, it would be rude for me as someone else to say this, but I think she is a person with a slightly bad personality or no common sense.
I don't know if I can marry someone like that and build a happier family than I do now.
I also feel like I'm going to have more problems than I have now.
If you want to properly divorce and remarry, I recommend that you remarry someone who is single and can break off a relationship while you are married.

I read it.
I read your condition and feelings. I don't know the details about you, your wife, or that person, but I can accept your feelings.
A lot of monks have already said various things, so I'd like to briefly talk about them.

After all, the person you should be dealing with is not that person, but your wife.
Let's talk clearly about your thoughts, thoughts, and feelings to your wife one by one. Then, let's have a thorough discussion with our wife about how we should live as a married couple from now on.
And don't go out with that person.
If you continue the relationship as it is, everyone involved will inevitably be unhappy. In an intricately intertwined relationship, we don't know what we really need or what we must value. Both you and that person are so caught up in the immediate future that you don't understand.
So let's put a firm line between them.

I sincerely pray that you and that person will be able to calmly review what is really important and live your life in relationships with really important people. We wholeheartedly agree