A secret for her

Hi

You can't quit smoking, can you? Cigarettes are addictive, and it seems very difficult to quit.
Cigarettes are said to harm not only your own health but also those around you. Also, it has a strong smell and there are many people who don't like it.
Currently, odors have been reduced, such as e-cigarettes, but they are not odorless. Also, there are e-cigarettes without nicotine or tar, etc., but this does not mean that heated steam or liquid ingredients are completely harmless.

I don't smoke, so I'm sensitive to cigarette odors. You can tell right away if you've smoked or not. Substances produced by combustion are difficult to dissolve in water, things adhering to clothing etc. cannot be easily removed, and odors that have entered the body remain forever. Just brushing your teeth won't do anything wrong.

I think she's probably aware of your smoking. But if I had to say it, it would cause trouble, and it would ruin the fun time we had together, so I think they're really waiting for you to stop smoking while noticing it.

Let's stop smoking once and for all. If she really stopped, I think she would notice it right away. Even if you confide that you actually smoked in hiding after you really definitely quit, it won't make her sad if you really quit.

Thank you for your consultation.

Isn't she already aware of cigarettes?
If you just don't pursue it is because you've already given up, or do you still want to believe in you

Maybe it's either one.

Either way,
Tobacco isn't the only problem that's happening right now.

It is
The important thing here is
More than cigarettes themselves,

“Not being able to keep my promise”
It's “suffering that had to be hidden.”

She's not mad at the cigarette itself,
I'm hurt by the pain of being “betrayed by someone I want to believe in.”

What if you were in the opposite position?
If your partner says stop and doesn't stop...
The trust I have with you must hurt.

What should Ponpoko choose
It's not a double choice of “smoke or not smoke,”

I think “what kind of relationship do you want to build” with her.

If you keep smoking,
Acknowledge “myself choosing to keep smoking” and tell her about it.
And I think being kind to her is to make her respect her judgment.

If you want to take good care of her,
Rather than “quitting smoking,” an action to rebuild trust with a girlfriend
You'll need it.

This is not to say which choice is right or wrong.
For Ponpoko-san, will they continue the situation up until now, or will they hope for change
The answer is up to you.

Don't be impatient, don't run away,
Please quietly draw a map of your mind.
What is important
It's not about “which one to choose,”
It's about living with care for those you choose.

That figure should show Ponpoko's sincerity.

You keep smoking a secret and keep dating even though you should have broken up with her already.
This isn't just a lie, it's also a “steal” that's stealing her time.
Originally, she broke up with you, and she may be moving on to a new relationship by now.
If you kept smoking a secret and robbed her of her time for a year but ended up breaking up with you, then you took her 1 year.
Can you take responsibility for that?
I'm just smoking, but I think the effect of taking away time from my girlfriend, whom I should have broken up with, is bigger.
Because of that lie, you are responsible enough to make her happy for the rest of her life, so I think it's scary.
You could be sued for alimony or damages.

You can't stop... once you smoke... that's what it is. Cigarettes are addictive, aren't they?
But it's eating away at your lungs and body.

She's probably aware. For people who don't smoke, the smell of cigarettes is ingrained in them. It's attached to everything you own, your clothes, your hair, your skin. The smell won't go away just by taking your breath away, unfortunately.

I also can't date people who smoke, and I can't get married. This is because headaches occur and breathing becomes difficult. I told my husband, “You can't marry someone who smokes,” and she stopped, and she told me that if I smoked, I would get divorced. To that extent, the biggest problem for me is that I can't live with tobacco.

If she cries that she wants her to stop smoking, she's probably the type that has a physical reaction too. Also, even though it was the person who made the promise, I felt betrayed that I believed it.

Already, I think her feelings have moved away from you, and even if you like her, I think the feelings she had before have faded away.

There are plenty of people in the world who don't smoke. It's no wonder that there might be other good people even if they don't go out of their way to go out with you.

I was also told to read your profile, and I wonder if you have a weakness where you have to run away from cigarettes, hidden things, or something.

I have to make up my mind here! You'll be abandoned by her before you even think that if you live together, you'll be able to stop living together.
Anyway, why don't you find something you can fall in love with her? If you're addicted to it, it's better to have fun.