I'm worried about the future

I read it.
You decided to move while you weren't feeling very well, and you're really worried right now. I don't know the details of your condition or everyone, but I understand your uneasy feelings.
Well, I think I can understand very well that thinking about the future makes me feel extra anxious.
Please tell your husband and the family around you what you think, and let's share your thoughts with everyone without holding them only within yourself.
While sharing with everyone, we may be able to help each other by discussing how we will live in the future, and I think we can get even more help in raising children.

What's more, you probably received support from your family and many people while you were not in the hospital and were being treated. Let's talk about your thoughts to even more people, and let's support each other.

Let's ask many people, not just you and your husband, to help you with the move. In addition to your family, get support from friends and counselors from local children's home centers and social welfare councils in various ways.

You, your husband, and your children are all living in relationships with many people, so let's support each other with peace of mind.

Please take good care of yourself and rest your mind and body.

I pray to Kibbutsu, God, and your ancestors so that you, your husband, and children will continue to be blessed with relationships with many people, and that you can live every day with peace of mind, that your children will be loved and nurtured by you and everyone and grow healthy, and that you will be able to sincerely share your happiness and survive with all of you.
And I wholeheartedly support you, your husband, and your children. We wholeheartedly agree

Thank you for continuing with the previous consultation.
The first thing I want to tell you is that the current hesitation is not because Mama is weak.

“As a mother,” “as a wife,” and “as a single person.”
My heart is shaking precisely because I try to cherish everything.

And you've worked really hard up to this point.
My constitution changed after delivery, and I think it was a “tough day just being alive.”
Mama, who has continued to think about her family even so, is really amazing.

The reason my anxiety is getting stronger this time is because it's “before a big decision.”
Letting go of a house and moving is a big change for everyone.
What's more, when a child's environment changes, it's natural to get lost.

But just remember one thing.

The cause of the trouble is not a “moving issue,”

It means that the tremors are born only from “a strong desire to protect children.”

People who treat children sloppily don't have this much trouble.
Mama is a very kind mother.

The reason the couple decided is also very realistic and reasonable.

・Mama's physical condition
・Support for my parents' house
・Prospects for future life
・The period when children are still in the lower grades and it is easy to adapt

This is not judged by “correct/wrong,”
It is an important choice to “choose an environment where you can live with peace of mind.”

The important thing is not to search for the right answers,
Choose the one that will be less burdensome for you in the future.

・There is someone nearby you can rely on
・You don't have to overdo it on days when you don't feel well
・Children can see a stable mother
・The foundation for the home is ready

This will definitely help the family in a few years.

Please don't forget it.

When Mama protects her own body,
It's exactly the same as “protecting a child's future.”

Nothing is more painful for a child than a mother falling down.
Therefore, choosing an environment where Mama feels safe is a “choice with love.”

finally.

It's okay to get lost. It's okay to be bearish.
Everyone feels uneasy before major changes.
But Mama has been walking for her family the whole time.
Every step in that step is kindness.

Please take care of your mind and body the most.
Breathe slowly and take one step at a time.

I don't think it's unreasonable for you to get sick when you start a new job, and you feel depressed.
Don't be impatient here; take your time to recuperate.
Your husband seems to be a kind person who understands you very well.
Please believe that what the two of you discussed and decided is the correct answer.
It seems that they are worried that your child will take away the environment they have just gotten used to, but the best environment for your child is your smile as a mother.
Please prioritize living in a place where you can smile.
I also looked at the details of past consultations.
It is said that he has been suffering from a number of mental and physical illnesses due to stress since he was a child.
It means that they are treated by specialists and are also attending counseling, so there is nothing wrong with me, but it seems that there are many cases where people feel relaxed as they age.
As a monk of the Soto sect, I recommend making zazen a habit, but this is for your reference.

Women's bodies are susceptible to female hormones, and they change with pregnancy, childbirth, and menopause. Therefore, rather than returning to the way it was before, it is easier and less burdensome to adjust your lifestyle to “who I am now.” That was the case for me too.

When you think about who you are now, don't you feel sorry for not being me like this, and you apologize in your heart to your family? Even though my mom friends around me are doing well... it makes me burst into tears.

If my family got involved because of me, the stories about my current hospitalization and moving will also fill me with a feeling of sorry.

But now I'm in a state where I'm looking for balance. I'll take care of myself for doing my best. The balance that suits me is easier to find than my stuck self, when my family is watching from around me. The fact that it's better to be close to my parents' house is probably a choice that makes it easier to live because you can rely on your parents, and it's easier to have room for your feelings in a familiar environment.

Just one thing I'm worried about.
If you're a child in the lower grades, you mean you're in elementary school. No matter how small, children also feel alienated when they decide changes in their own lives without themselves.
If you're worried about the environment changing, it's more important to listen to your child's feelings and opinions rather than reporting parents' decisions.

Children are also quick to adapt. From the stage of worry, children can imagine and prepare for the period of thinking together. Your child's friendships will also be cherished amidst breakups and new expectations. Don't take that time away from “thinking about your worries.” This will also help your child grow and develop.
My child also grew up to be a kind child.

We will walk and overcome family changes together. This kind of sharing is so important.
Let's have a positive image of the new environment.

　Please take care of yourself, Mama. First of all, your body is important. Please take care of yourself.
Unfortunately, humans cannot take back the past. I can't see the future. There is no choice but to warm up the past, look to the future, and live in the present.
There are certainly concerns about children. Somehow they're different, so I was a kid a hundred times more anxious when viewed from the public's point of view. I don't have any friends, and I like comics and anime. But since I didn't have any friends, I don't think I went out at night. My love for anime grew, and when I came back from my training, anime had changed from cosplay to Cool Japan, and I was so surprised to see everyone talking about anime lovers in a dignified manner, and I began having discussions with people with such hobbies. For some reason, I was able to talk to the younger generation, especially women. It's unbelievable compared to when I was young.
After all, worried people are probably only watching the public reaction at that time. I think it's the worst thing to do if you don't know what's going to happen in the world but denies a person's individuality because of values they don't know. Wouldn't it be nice if children grew up not to be that kind of person?
I have a feeling that children will eventually get along well with children. I think what parents should always do is ask their kids what happened at school. Even if you don't want to answer, I don't think you have to force them to answer, so just listen. All you have to do is listen. So listen attentively to the kid's story. That's all for me.