Are you worried too much about neighborhood issues?

I read it.
That made me feel really bad, and I think you're still feeling very scared. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Even in neighboring neighborhoods, there are people who don't have that kind of consideration for the people around them. That's because there are quite a few people who do selfish things and cause trouble to their surroundings.

After all, try consulting with local associations, community associations, etc., and ask your neighbors to take good care of the people around you and talk to them so that they follow the rules.
If they rush in, I think it's okay to call 110 and have police officers respond.

There have been so many problems like that lately.
Let's pay close attention to those people and try to live a safe and peaceful life with everyone in the neighborhood.

If it's a condition that the house is adjacent, you'll be careful about dealing with your neighbors, right?

For neighbors, it probably feels like a “detail.” So, the only argument on your side can be thought of as “they are bothersome complaints one by one.”
Also, I think you have become sensitive to your neighbors after receiving protests where you were threatened several times.

Certainly, they don't want to be invaded into the premises, even if they are children, and when people gather and make noise, such as the barbecue is smelly, I don't think they will calm down, wondering if they are bothered or talked about us.

However, there is probably a reason for the intrusion of children, and barbecues are private pleasures, and it makes you think that you have to take care of your neighbors until you, your neighbor, tell them your schedule (trouble every detail), and I think your actions will irritate your neighbors.

It's hard to say it's a major nuisance, and traders, local governments, and police won't act.

No matter where you live, I think you have to get along well. Rather than getting nervous, let's expand the place where you can feel safe by making the inside of the house cozy, enhancing activities, interaction, work, etc. outside.

Otherwise, you'll be bothered the whole time. Let's have peace of mind and a feeling of being able to relax.

If a family that has lived in an apartment until now acquires a detached house with a garden, it may be natural for them to want to let their children play ball or have a BBQ in the garden.
There are times when balls fly into your yard and smoke and smells can creep into your yard and make you sick of it.
It's something to think about if it continues every day, but if it's about once a week at most, let's take a good look at this place.
It's common for something you do casually to be a nuisance to your partner.
There are times when the positions of yourself and your partner change.
In other words, it's each other.
If you have a tough attitude, your neighbors will also harden their attitude.
Conversely, if you treat them with a generous attitude, there is no doubt that your neighbors will also change their attitude.
Let's think carefully about which one is better.

PostScript
I read the thank-you sentence.
To be honest, I was surprised by the story about people wondering whether to turn on a security camera, but I was relieved to know that you are actually an introspective person with good sense.
Having a miscarriage seems to have been a huge shock for you and your husband, and I sincerely express my condolences.
It's great that you continue to meditate on Vipassana.
The question is whether excessive defense by the voice of the ego is an illusion, but psychologically speaking, it is an automatic thought (thought or image that automatically and instantaneously comes to mind in a specific situation or situation) influenced by a schema (framework) based on your past experiences and memories, and it is an incorrect perception (not all automatic thoughts are errors).
Misperception is a psychological phenomenon that can happen to anyone.
Also, by firmly building up the observing self and broadening that field of view, meditation corrects erroneous cognition and stops the occurrence of continuing emotions and actions.
The Buddha attained enlightenment through meditation.
I definitely recommend continuing to do it from now on (I also do zazen every morning).

In Buddhism, they say selflessness, and they explain that the existence of oneself is nothing more than a conceptual illusion, and that one's own possessions are nothing more than a conceptual illusion.
We can't even move our bodies the way we want (spilling coins out of our hands, hitting our feet against furniture).
Even my own garden isn't actually my own from the Buddha's point of view.
Why did the Buddha (Buddha) teach such teachings?
This is because the obsession (sense of territory) of “mine, my garden” causes trouble, suffering, and stress for myself and others.
The mind of enlightenment that lets go of obsession (sense of territory), such as “there's nothing wrong with a child getting a ball” and “it doesn't matter how much the sound or smell of a barbecue is the mind of the Buddha's wisdom that reduces stress.”
Also, a heart that cares for others and does not hate others becomes the Buddha's heart of mercy.
It would be nice if you could live with a gentle Buddha expression while being aware of wisdom (not bothering) and mercy (forgiving without hating).
appending
It's wonderful that Vipassana is being practiced.
The law (what I thought in my head) is selflessness (something like an illusion).
Even with factual thinking, it can be said that it is a story processed by a director called Ego.
For now, if you repeat similar or close thoughts in the same information, there is a possibility that your emotions and mood (physical condition) will be disturbed, so why not think “if you worry for 10 minutes or worry for 10 hours, it's better to finish in 10 minutes so you won't get tired.”