I don't like my stupid honest self

Hello.

I can't stand it because I don't like my stupid honest self. I'm a college student who graduated from an overseas university.

I'm currently job hunting, and when I was asked when I would return to Japan in the final interview at a major company, they said they wanted to do it one year later than when I first applied. The reason is that I like the study abroad destination and I still wanted to do, and anxiety about what I left unfinished at the study abroad destination
To be foolish and honest, I was rejected.

If true, even 1% conveyed my intention to go home and answered that I should think about the future after accepting it, and I'm so frustrated that I don't like myself. All of the travel expenses and sacrifices made to the interview site went to waste. I feel sorry for my parents and myself, and I'm filled with miserable feelings.

I hate to kill myself for making stupid choices when I think that I can finish job hunting that I've struggled with until now, and that if I go overseas and join a large company at an overseas university, I can sacrifice until now and be able to live a stable life in Japan.

The only way left is to get a job at an overseas company, but the future cannot be seen, and it is also fraught with the severity of a visa. As a result, I miss a stable life in Japan.

Anyway, I want to heal my foolish and honest self. I want to be someone who can fight smartly in order to achieve my goals.

What should I do?

3 Zen Responses

it's a great opportunity

I read it.
You're really sorry that you answered honestly during the job interview and got rejected.
I don't know the details about you, but I understand your frustration.
What you said may certainly have been unacceptable to the corporate side. I think it was a statement that I didn't think the company would be able to work well since I spoke for your convenience. Maybe that was unavoidable.
Nonetheless, it's your life, and it's your future, so let's calm down for now and think carefully about your own future.
At this time, let's think carefully about how you want to live and what you want to do in the future.
What you said this time is definitely not for nothing, and I think it will be a good opportunity for you to take a firm look at how you want to live in the future.
I sincerely pray that you will face the future firmly and that you will have a fulfilling life that you are satisfied with.
And I wholeheartedly support you.

Being an idiot and honest self is also one of the attractions. Experience things that can only be done now.

Being silly honest means you were able to properly express your feelings.

When you become an adult, it's hard to say what you want to say in response to your surroundings, suppress your feelings, and even lose sight of yourself. Society also has cramped and troublesome pressures.

That's why, even if it's stupid and honest, the intention you conveyed in the interview is the real intention in your heart.
If I had to follow a false path at that time, I would have had another regret.

Either way, you can't imagine a perfect life.
If that's the case, my foolish and honest self is also an appeal. Wouldn't it be better to experience things that can only be done now and choose your future life with your own hands?

I think that you are wonderful.

“Idiot honesty” is not a flaw but a talent of honesty

1. The problem isn't “honesty,” it's just the direction of answering

Who is the interviewer
I just wanted to check “when I can work” and “whether I can commit to the company.”

So you
・The feeling that I don't want to return to Japan
・Inexperienced study abroad destinations
I answered it as it was.

Honesty is a virtue, but it didn't mesh with the intention of the question.
In other words, it's not a denial of ability; it's just a difference in direction.

2. Honesty isn't a flaw, it's a matter of technology choosing how to use it

Your honesty is your strength.
However, what we need from now on
✔ Not just “what to say”
✔ The ability to choose “how far to say”

Convenience (convenience) in Buddhism = wisdom in how to communicate.
It's not something you're born with; it's a skill you can learn through practice.

3. What makes me hate myself is “fear that the future is closed”

Travel expenses were wasted
The effort is gone
I'm sorry to my parents

What is behind these feelings
“Isn't this going to decide my life?” There is a fear of that.

But in reality, nothing is closed to the future.
・Re-challenging Japanese companies
・Mid-career quota for global companies
・The way to get a job overseas
・Carrier redesign

Your options remain rather broad.

4. Clever fighting is about making adjustments, not abandoning honesty

The next time the same scene comes, it's enough to say this.
“I can't say that I don't have any regrets about studying abroad.
However, I'm seriously considering working for your company, and I can adjust my return time.”

Separate fact (lack of skill) from intention (motivation to join the company) ─
This is cleverness.
You can definitely do it.

5. Lastly

You're not stupid or incompetent.
I only stumbled because I was honest.

And honesty is a talent that, when refined, strongly supports life.

Please don't hate yourself.
Your career is just getting started. Let's fix it together.

Gassho

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