Words said to me by the president of the company I used to work for

I made a few mistakes at the store I worked at a while ago. That itself was my mistake, so I can understand being warned, but when they were two, the president of that privately owned company said, “You work part-time at that age and don't have a lover, so you'll die alone in the future.” I can understand blaming people about work, but I thought it might be strange to make a fool of my personal affairs, so I discussed it. I'm retired now, but I'm in trouble.

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It's an insult and slander, isn't it? A story that has nothing to do with mistakes.

That president's attitude is a rude rant, and it's an insult and slander against you, isn't it? This story has nothing to do with your mistakes. You don't need to be told this.

It was frustrating, wasn't it? If it is a workplace with such a manager, employees will not be valued from now on. I think I'm relieved to have quit, but it's infuriating when I think about it even now.

Please cherish the kind words addressed to you and keep your mind at ease. Let's switch our minds.

There are also poor quality people in the world

I don't know what kind of company it is, but it's not a word uttered by people who stand above others.
Since it's a private business, I'm sure they haven't experienced the same hardships as anyone else when they go out into society.
Perhaps the person himself is justifying his statement by saying that he thought it was for you and gave advice.
The quality is far worse than just plain bad talk.
Even if you have the title of president, think you've learned that there are bad people, so stop worrying about it.

Let's forgive

Thank you for your question.

What a terrible word.

Let's get rid of it quickly.

In other words, let's forgive.

Because it's a waste to keep it in your mind forever, isn't it?

For example, if that feeling comes up again
Something I like
Let's remember the things we were happy to say.

Gassho

Everyone has worries “like each other”

We all have pride problems, so we all have the urge to make a fool of others.
Also, when it comes to individual management, the company's disadvantage is the president's disadvantage, so it is a natural feeling for the president to want to get angry about employee mistakes.
Therefore, there is a possibility that the president was speechless due to the double effect of the annoyance of wanting to make a fool of him and the anguish of being made a mistake.
Of course, making a fool of even private life is likely to be power harassment, so the president is bad, but from the viewpoint of Buddhist mercy, if you condone “the president is also a person full of worries, so there are mistakes that make power harassment statements” will also reduce your own stress.
Note that mistakes are often due to the worry of being lazy, so it's “just like each other” because you also had worries.

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