I would like to hear your various thoughts

My daughter reserved a cake the other day
It was when I forgot about it that day and didn't go to get my memories before going to bed.

I've already paid for the cake
It is said that the phone did not come even when it was time to pick it up
It seems like my wife heard that story from my daughter the morning after the reservation date
It is said that the person himself was quite dented.

I said, “I think my ancestors stopped it because something bad would happen if I went,
You didn't get a phone call, but you went there when you got one, right? When I said, “It was better not to go that day”

My wife already told her daughter, “Even if cake wasn't good anymore, I'm glad it was cake this time, but if it was something else important, it would have been difficult, so I thought I was done with cake, so I'd better set an alarm from now on so I don't forget my errands.”
It seems that he said that.

What my wife and I are saying
My wife will try not to forget to go in the future (I wish I could go this time too)
I'm glad I forgot (it was better not to go that day)

I think I'm saying the exact opposite in a sense
In this case, I'd like to hear all kinds of opinions about how you think and what to say.

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Your own resilience to overcome it is also important. Parents should be in a position to watch

I think any situation is something you will be convinced of no matter how you think about it or how you perceive it.

Both you and your wife explained the opposite way of looking at this incident to your daughter, but both of them are following up on your daughter's mistakes. I think that kindness was conveyed to my daughter.

For my daughter, it was a cake she had even reserved. I even made a deposit, but I wasted it. You're probably keenly aware of your own lack of management. Even though the follow-up from your parents is warm, you may feel sorry for yourself for causing your parents to worry and care.

In this case, it's also important to keep them quiet. After that, my daughter herself will be able to overcome this incident on her own by giving her own reasons.

There are failures in this world, and irrevocable things happen. Your own resilience to overcome such situations is also important. Parents should be in a position to watch over them.

What my father said was a way to deal with past regrets, and what my mother said was a way to deal with future anxiety; I think both are not conflicting, and they are good ways to encourage them.

It's simple

Thank you for your question.

About this time
Isn't there no right or wrong answer?

After all, I felt that it depends on how people perceive it.

How do you capture what happened
I felt that the content made me notice that once again.

Gassho

hey hey!

I've been waiting for the cake to be picked up. What would it be like to impose excuses for forgetting on your ancestors? (This would be disappointing if I were an ancestor)

I'm glad it was cake this time, I was done with cake. If you feel like the cake and the person who made the cake, you can't say that.

If this were a cake shop I usually have a close relationship with, I'm sure they would have apologized the next day.

My daughter is pretty dented out of remorse, so isn't it good? My parents didn't make strange excuses and casually said, “That's something I'm sorry for the cake shop.” I thought it would be great if they conveyed real words of mercy...
The rest is up to my daughter.
I want to support them to honestly and courageously go to apologize.

-- -- postscript --
I'm expressing my disappointment that I forgot to go get the cake. My daughter forgot because her ancestors stopped her. That was my father's excuse.

The fact that they were making excuses (excuses) as if my ancestors had said them made an excuse made me feel uncomfortable, and I was dismayed.
If your ancestors really caused you to do that, you must apologize to the cake shop for causing trouble along with your ancestors.

Aren't you interpreting the presence of your ancestors in a convenient way? Since you can't see it, please put your hands together and think again.

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