University entrance exam

I applied to the Nagoya University Faculty of Letters, and although I was able to pass 70% of the common test, I didn't reach 80% of the border. This is an E judgment.
The university of my second choice has an A judgment, so I know in my head that I should change to my second choice because I can't choose a ronin or private school, but I can't give up on my first choice.
If there's even the slightest possibility, maybe. I'm expecting that.
Parents and school teachers who have supported me up to this point are also opposed, saying that it is difficult to pass in reverse, and rushing into an E judged university would be a shame to miss a university with an A judgment.
The other day, when we had an interview in the staff room, my homeroom teacher urged me to change and I cried in the staff room.
Maybe my feelings were stronger than I thought.
I wanted to switch, I wanted to give up, but I couldn't give up, and I'm still solving my first choice, Akamoto.
It's not like I have anything I want to do at that university; I just have a strong admiration.
I think my parents and teachers want stability, and I've been told it's almost impossible. “Do what you want.” There are also opinions such as, but to be honest, I don't even know what I want to do, and people around me probably think it's a reckless challenge, and I'm told that I want my parents to support me by entering college early and earning money quickly.
I was always indecisive and swept away, so I'm puzzled by myself being opposed to those around me.
Sorry for the difficult sentence.
I also wanted someone who was a third party to persuade me, so I consulted.

4 Zen Responses

I'm rooting for you

I read it.
It really conveys how you feel. I feel like you can't give up. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
First of all, please calm down. Please breathe slowly. Breathe in slowly and then exhale slowly without being in a hurry.
Please keep your mind at ease by repeating it.

Then let go of your feelings for a moment, and stop thinking about college for a moment.

It may be cold outside right now, but I think the warm morning sun is shining on you. I think many blessings have been given to you.

Please soak up the sunshine slowly and rest your mind. You are a very important person. You are being watched over by many people and are living a healthy life.

I sincerely pray that you will continue to be blessed with wonderful encounters and relationships, and that you will be able to experience various encounters and events in the future and live a peaceful and rich life.

And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. Close to the Heart m (__) m

What kind of work you want to do is important

Thank you for your question.
I think it's great that you've been studying hard.
By the way, getting into college isn't my goal in life, is it?
After that, what job would you like to do after graduation?
Let's think about that and choose a career path.
Are you sure you can't get the job you want without that university or department, and you won't be able to acquire the necessary knowledge and skills?
Why don't you think about it once more?
As a result, if it doesn't work out of that university or department, I think I should do my best even if it's a ronin.

Let's accept it as a relationship

Even though I've been studying hard until now, I haven't been able to demonstrate my abilities in real life.
I understand your feelings of not being able to accept the results and not being able to give up on the university of your first choice.
However, while neither the ronin nor the choice to go on to a private university, it seems that you have long understood what is the correct answer.
There are cases where even if you have the desire to go to university and have the ability, that doesn't come true.
And there isn't as much of a difference between your first choice college and your second choice college as you might think.
Here, don't you think positively that you had a relationship with the latter rather than the former?
I'm sure the day will come when you will appreciate this partnership in the future.

It's really painful to make the choice to give up. While redrawing it over and over

You've worked hard up to this point. Entrance exams come with results, so there are some parts that are cruel...

A feeling you can't give up. Well, that's right. I've worked hard up to this point, aiming for only the university of my first choice. Your feelings won't immediately change to your second choice, will you?

What we have done has not gone to waste. It also has power. I know. Even if I know it, that's because it's my first choice. I couldn't think of any other options.

It's sad and painful for people around you who have supported you so much to move forward with your second aspiration if you can't do it anymore.
Realistic voices from parents saying, “I want you to get into college early and earn money quickly and support them,” also feel futile, wondering what my future is, and that my only way to live is to earn money and support my parents.

Choosing to give up is really painful.
The true meaning of what adults say, “life is not decided at university” is also important, and the fact that it is an attitude of learning that is not bound by the name of the university can only be understood by the person themselves as they walk through life and realize it.

Life is something we overcome by redrawing it over and over again. It's up to me to decide that.

Rather than persuade you, I want to support any of your choices.

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