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Is there divine punishment?

I have something to worry about. It's about my husband's father-in-law.
My parents-in-law are divorced, and my husband followed my mother-in-law when I was a kid. I have a younger brother with a severe disability, and my husband seems to have taken the place of his father. Even though he's still a kid, he has to take care of his younger brother, so it seems that he has put up with it in his own way, but the person himself takes that for granted.
I grew up in a very ordinary family, and when I heard that story, I thought it must have gone through more hardships than I could have imagined. Aren't you putting up with your husband who talks about it so bluntly that it has become commonplace? It makes me think.
My father-in-law was almost never at home even when we were living together, and it seems like he didn't pay child support even after the divorce. We got married, had children, built a house, and my husband is responsible for our future lives. My father-in-law shouts his head each time and treats me as my husband's father. We are related by blood, so of course, but after I met my father-in-law, I was really confused. Why didn't I let my husband be more like a child, made him just struggle, just put up with it, why did he become a father. It's also infuriating.
So what I'm worried about is, if my father-in-law dies like this, isn't there anything like divine punishment somewhere? Is it right for my husband to cut it off if he lives that kind of life? Or is the world rather like that, and I think too much?

4 Zen Responses

Your father-in-law will regret the time you lost that you couldn't get your hands on

My husband was a young carer, wasn't he? Since they are siblings, the feeling that they want to be supported by the family is important, but if that had an impact on the growth of the child (husband) being cared for, it may not have led to necessary support.

The parents' divorce may have been a burden on the child, but the desire to help the mother may have helped her to work hard as a caregiver.
There is probably a reason for the divorce, but every time my father-in-law sticks his head out, wondering if it's his father's face these days, I have mixed feelings.

Isn't it because you want to protect your husband back then and your husband now? I told you not to bother my husband any more.

God's punishment...
What happens to your father-in-law, and when he's been punished, do you feel refreshed?

I wonder what my husband thinks about his father.

Certainly, being an irresponsible father-in-law makes me feel disgusted. At the very least, I want my son, who is so straight and good, and my mother-in-law, who raised him, to bow down.

Why don't you think your husband's parents are his mother-in-law? Please be nice to your mother-in-law and show her filial piety.

Your father-in-law will regret the time you lost because of the fact that you are cooperating with your husband and wife to build a family with your mother-in-law, and that you feel happy while raising children. That's because even if I wanted this, it won't come true anymore.

do you want damn punishment even if you kill a mosquito with a mosquito coil

Basically, you can think that bad behavior will lead to bad results.
However, since various conditions are intricately intertwined, such as various actions (actions) from far in the past and the environment from time to time, etc., it is not simple.
It can be said that alcohol and tobacco are not good for your health, but it cannot always be said that you will get sick (you will be punished by God that is easy to understand).
Also, we commit various crimes on a daily basis.
Killing mosquitoes with mosquito coils is also a terrible act for mosquitoes that are killed.
If I am bound to be punished by God for my crimes, I am sure that I will also be punished by God.
It's very scary, and it's not a time to hope for divine punishment for another person (father-in-law).
In Buddhism, the anguish of anger is also evil.
Anger and hatred, where you wish for your father-in-law's misfortune, is also a crime, so there is a possibility that God will punish you too.
Is that really OK?
In the Jodo sect, it is explained that any villain can pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise if they call (say) Nanmu Amida Buddha and Nembutsu.
Father-in-law may also be subject to damnation.
However, the Buddha (the one who has realized the truth) is the teaching of the Buddha (the one who realized the truth) that he wants even such a father-in-law to be happy, and that everyone should be saved.
It's hard to arrive at Buddha's mercy, but at least, I think it's important to understand with your head that anger and hate are also afflictions.

In terms of Buddhism, there is no divine punishment in the form of someone passing judgment.

It's natural for you to feel “fuzzy” or “infuriated” when you think about your anger at your father-in-law and the hardships your husband has carried on your back. It's also the opposite of the deep kindness that comes from caring for your husband.

In Buddhism, particularly the Jodo Shinshu sect, we humans are called “bonbu (bonbu).” It means a foolish being covered in worries and only able to look at things at one's own convenience. Unfortunately, my father-in-law may also be one of those poor ordinary men who lives with that worry and hurts his surroundings as a result.

Regarding the “divine punishment” in your question, there is no damnation in the form of someone passing judgment. However, as a matter of cause and effect, the person himself bears the reward for that act. However, when you pray for “divine punishment” for your father-in-law, your heart is also burned by the flames of anger and exhausted. That is far too unfortunate.

“Get married, have children, and build a house,” the happy life right in front of you is a precious truth that your husband and you have built up. Gently put your father-in-law out of your frame of mind and pour your heart into protecting and nurturing that warm family. It's also the way to keep your own mind at peace.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I'm already getting rewarded

I read it.
I read how you look at your father-in-law. If your husband went through a lot of trouble from an early age and took care of your younger brother, I think it's reasonable for you to think of your father-in-law that way.
Your father-in-law is probably still being looked at like that by you and the people around you, and even if he acted as a father in person, the people around him would be well aware of it. The Buddha, gods, and ancestors are well aware of my father-in-law's work up until now. Sooner or later, my father-in-law will definitely reflect on himself. And I think they'll be rewarded. They're probably receiving more than a small amount of rewards even now.
What your husband thinks is up to you, so I think you should calm down and look at it objectively and not respond. I sincerely pray to Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can live every day healthily with your husband from now on, so that you and your husband can live a hearty and happy life while being on good terms and sharing happiness with everyone. We wholeheartedly agree