hasunoha

Against friends who are good at living

My friend is very good at navigating the world well.


For example, I think “let's consider the report in more detail” or “points are likely to be deducted here, so let's write in more detail,” etc., and although it's fun, I'm exhausted by occasional deadlines.
In response to that, my friend cut corners, saying “I won't stay in this subject” or “at least how many points should I get in terms of the ratio of assignments,” etc., and things have been going well until now.

Not
limited to reports, until now, my friends have accurately determined where cutting corners does not affect evaluations and places that are directly linked to evaluations, and have traveled around the world with an order of magnitude more ease and efficiency than me.


Meanwhile, I spend a lot of time trying to get 90 points to 95 points, miss opportunities I could get if I missed out, and worried that everyone didn't care about anything


And the problem is that my efforts will not stay in the future.
They accurately suppress parts directly linked to evaluations, so their grades are also good to some extent.
My efforts are occasionally praised by others, but once I graduate, I don't get that evaluation or any benefit.
If anything, if you cut corners and make time, you're missing out on opportunities you've been able to get your hands on.
I haven't really been able to realize that I have acquired it as an ability.

Will the
day come when my efforts and worries will pay off?
Is it supposed to be a wasted effort that wasn't there in a few years?
Should I change the world so that I can live as efficiently as they do?

If
you're a monk, the Buddha will be watching (I'm sorry if there are any misunderstandings or rudeness since I'm not familiar with it!) You may be told, but it's extremely disrespectful, but does that benefit me in any way? It makes me think.

5 Zen Responses

That “attitude of not cutting corners” is more precious than anything else.

I understand very well how you are troubled by differences from your friends and frustrated by your own clumsiness and your efforts to feel unrewarded.

If you really think your friend's efficient way of life is best for you, one way is to try imitating them in the same way and getting around in a way. However, the reason you can't be divided so easily is probably because you find “fun” in thinking deeply and have the sincerity to face things sincerely. That “attitude of not cutting corners” is more precious than anything else.

People are worried that “my efforts will not stay in the future.” However, it's just that “you now” still don't see the results. For example, even in the world of academia and research, decades of steady exploration and detours can later produce major results in unexpected forms. Immediate profit and loss, and experiences that cannot be measured by efficiency alone are definitely piling up within you.

Also, about the candid question, “What benefits does what Buddha sees bring to me?” “Profit (profit)” in Buddhism is not a small thing such as money, honor, or immediate results. That step of leaving profit and loss accounts and continuing to face things without deceiving yourself will eventually become an unwavering foundation for your life, and it appears as the greatest “benefit” of deep humanity that can never be imitated by others.

There's no need to imitate your friends in a hurry and erase your own important strengths. Please be proud of that honesty.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

Your efforts will be utilized to support and help others

Thank you, Katoh, for sharing your honest feelings with Hasunoha.

I also have a handicap called childhood paralysis, and I have lived for over 50 years to support the phrase “you can't change the past with others, but you can change yourself and the future” in a conflict where you can't do it like others.

Katoh has spent a lot of time and effort trying to get 90 points to 95 points. If you look at it from the modern trend of focusing on “cost spa” and “taipa,” you might think it's “useless.” Meanwhile, in Buddhism, there is a way of thinking of “useless use (like).” At first glance, what seems useless or useless is wisdom that actually gives depth and richness to life.

The pure inquisitive spirit of “I want to know more” included in Katoh's report and a sincere attitude of not neglecting even the smallest details. I thought that went beyond simply the result of “grades,” and it was shaping the “foundation” of the person you are right now. I agree with Katoh's way of life. On one TV, “Muscles Don't Betray You!” I was recommending everyday strength training that anyone can do. The “experience” of facing one thing deeply becomes flesh and blood and will continue to support you for the rest of your life. This is a treasure just for you that you'll never get if you're only looking for efficiency.

The Buddha called Amida Nyorai is a cheering team leader who completely embraces you who cry when your efforts aren't rewarded, and even so, are trying to live hard. From the Buddha's point of view, nothing is wasted in the life you have carefully built up.

As a step you can take starting today, first take a deep breath and look up at the sky. Once away from the speed of the world that demands efficiency, while basking in the light of Otendo-sama, I said, “I lived my life honestly in my own way today too!” Please take care of yourself.

Also, just like Katoh, look at the lives of people who have gone through their days “carefully” and “sincerely” without being noticed by anyone. You'll be able to meet them through books, etc. Please also keep in mind that the foundation of those people has created the current region, Japan, and the world. Your “politeness” will surely lead to supporting and helping someone at some point. All the Hasunoha monks also wholeheartedly support your sincere steps.

May your future open up

I read it.
Your efforts will never go to waste. Please don't worry first.
If you only make immediate gains and losses in the world, you'll overlook things that are really important.
Losing and gaining, twists and turns, and trial and error are very important.
By making such an effort from now on, you will surely be able to walk the path you want on your own.
People who only pursue immediate ease and profit may later lose sight of their own path.
I sincerely pray that you will be able to live a truly peaceful and rich life so that you can face the future firmly and work hard for yourself, and that your future will open up even more.
And I wholeheartedly support you.

Be flexible when you have a partner

If it's a study or hobby for yourself, you can spend time trying to get 90 points to 95 points if you want to do that.
On the other hand, if you have someone at work, such as a boss or customer, for example, you will have to change your approach.
For example, my boss said, “If I buy ○○, how much does it usually cost? A rough amount of money is fine.”
If you are told that, you are required to report the amount as soon as possible because it is really an approximate estimate.
If you don't know for sure whether it's 950 yen or 900 yen, if you answer “it's about up to 1000 yen,” your boss can decide “Oh, preparing 1000 yen is enough,” or “it's difficult because I only have a budget of 800 yen.”
At that time, there is no need to explore whether it's 950 yen or 980 yen.
As such, when there is a partner, it is necessary to respond flexibly according to the other party's needs.
Even if it's the way you study for yourself, you can change it from time to time.
I'm busy this week, so cut corners, etc., and do it appropriately each time, even when the other person is my own.
Everything is impermanent.
Both body and mind float, disappear, and change moment by moment.
So every moment is a new self, a new world.

You should find a way to live that is good for you

You're like me, aren't you?
Like you, I was bad at the point, and I worked hard to clean up in the morning even at the ascetic dojo. I was skipping by doing things well and to the point around me.
What is particularly difficult is funzam (poop work), where pigeons live high in the main hall of a temple and clean up that poop every morning. Everyone is gone when it's time for that hunzam. I learned about it later, but it seems that everyone was good at hiding from the senior monk and taking a nap at that time. I was doing what I was seriously told, and I was sleepy and out of charge, and the power and functions after that didn't exert their power like they were just after charging.
However, your ability to be honest is a tremendous power.
Why do we say that?
If you work on one thing properly and start doing it until you are satisfied, it will penetrate ❝ through ❞. You will be able to understand it clearly, understand it, learn it, and make it your own. Processing will also be possible.
Someday, it will break through walls and tunnels and become a tremendous force.
Each person has a way of “growing and improving” like type A type B type O type AB type. In your case, you have that politeness, ability to pursue, ability to demand, and spirit of improvement, so that will be a major advantage in the future.
why?
Human actions are just doing what is always, at that time, in the right place.
Since it is enough for each field to fulfill its role, the sensor you feel should also be taken as one of your brain powers.
You should utilize and divert that sense of caution and defense to improve yourself.
That is the spirit of good guidance. It's Bodhi Heart. It's a spirit that saves oneself, solves problems, solves difficult situations, protects loved ones, and saves people they don't like, sly people who stray from people's path, and outrageous people.
Hotoke isn't watching.
My true heart is now seeing things that are not true.
You're probably seeing a vision of fear in order to protect yourself.
Isn't trying hard to think that this is good for the future is not constructive, not efficient, or leading to results? I'm starting to think that.
If you don't want to lose in the chair game, stick to that.
The invention of LEDs, for example, may have saved thousands of people.
You should become a Buddha LED that is needed by everyone, saving both viewers and enemies as a way of life. However, I hope they don't get cracked.