Hello. First, let me be honest. It's not that you don't “hate people,” I think you're in a state of “exhaustion.”
Joined the company for 4 months. An unfamiliar environment, a series of people I've met for the first time, business trips, and every day I continue to be concerned. This uses more energy than you can imagine. Meeting people, in particular, is quite a burden on the brain. Even at work that seems like an extrovert, I'm still nervous all the time on the inside. That would make me cringe.
The reason I think about work on my days off is because my “nerves” haven't been able to rest before my body. Not wanting to meet people is a sign that your heart says, “Don't use any more stimulation.” It's not abnormal.
First of all, as a major premise, what you need now is not “improvement in human strength,” but “recovery.” I'm exaggerating in order to calm down, but I have two suggestions.
The first is “securing complete alone time without feeling guilty.”
You don't have to promise to play. If it's enough to make no-show cancellations, it's better for both yourself and your partner if you don't enter from the beginning. Please divide this by the “charging period.”
The second is to intentionally create “time to stop the brain.”
Take a walk, soak in the bathtub, and exhale slowly. Instead of not thinking about it, it's time to get back to your physical senses. Once you start thinking about work, all you have to do is say to yourself, “Now is the time to rest.”
In Buddhism, it is said that the heart is shaken by “relationships.” There are too many relationships right now. Too much stimulation. So my mind is just tired. It's not that you're weak.
Four months is still a runn-up period. It's quick to conclude that “I may be a social misfit” here. The first thing to do is learn how to rest. Don't deny yourself wanting to be alone. It's not an escape, it's a recovery instinct.
Now is not the time to expand; it is time to prepare. It's not because you're broken that you're restless. I'm just trying too hard. Please take care of yourself.