I made a mistake in my life choices when choosing a job

Before you get a job, your heart is greatly shaken by anxiety about the future. I understand your deep regret over your choices.

However, no one knows yet whether the life choice was a “mistake.” Buddhism explains that everything is connected by “relationships.” The fact that I was drawn to the fact that you were “interested” in a number of jobs is also a precious relationship. Why don't you believe in that relationship first?

It takes about 1 to 3 years to become fully employed. Maybe it's a little premature to regret it even before you start work. If you actually work and decide “you still shouldn't continue,” you in your 20s have the time and power to start over as much as you want from there.

Also, please consider marriage and employment separately. I'm not saying that income is irrelevant, but it does not mean that you will be blessed with a good relationship as long as you join a “company with good treatment.” An encounter with a partner I share my heart with is also due to a mysterious relationship that transcends conditions and calculations.

Rather than getting tired of worrying about a future you haven't seen yet, please first look at the new days starting in April. Turning the path you have chosen into the “correct answer” is your own path from now on. Please feel safe and take the first step.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

In Buddhism, I think my past self and my current self are different people (I only have the illusion that they are the same person because they have inherited memory data).
Let's think that games that others played until yesterday have taken over today.
It's a game where the current situation, including past failures, is “here and now.”
A life where you can only do what you can do anyway.
Let's live comfortably if we just do what we can do now to the extent we can.
Every day is a new game, so even if you fall, it's fine if you get up.
Also, recently, there has probably been an increase in the number of workplaces where side jobs are permitted.
Why don't you think about ways to earn money from side jobs in the future?

First of all, I think the fact that your regrets and anxiety have grown to this point is proof that you are seriously thinking about life.

Right after making the big choice to get a job, it's quite natural to be shaken, “I wonder if this was good.” I should have taken interest, but when reality gets closer, things about income and marriage cross my mind. No wonder my heart can't keep up.

I think the anxiety that income might be low comes from a sense of responsibility that “will we be able to properly build the future” rather than simply showing off. And because they're serious about marriage, they blame themselves, saying, “I think I should have thought more about the conditions.” That seriousness is not a bad thing at all.

However, aren't you currently judging yourself on the premise that “one choice will determine your life”? Getting a job isn't a goal; it's a starting point. You can change your environment by gaining experience and skills in a few years, and there is also a way to increase your income while working. Your choices now won't fix your whole life.

And income isn't the only thing needed for marriage. Honesty, attitude towards work, and ability to face things are also major factors. The fact that you are worrying about the present and that you are seriously thinking about the future itself is also an important quality as a partner.

If you have strong regrets, don't conclude that you made a mistake, and try paraphrasing it with “I'm still in the middle right now.” The decision should have been the one you were most satisfied with at that point. Rather than continuing to blame yourself for the past, it's enough to gradually shift your gaze to “how to grow from here.”

You're not being reckless. They are people who are hesitating but are trying to live seriously.

That attitude will be the foundation for my future life. You don't need to be impatient. It's just that I'm very anxious right now, and that doesn't mean the road has been blocked. Please take care of yourself.

I think it's a good choice. This is because it is just a condition, and life is not determined by it.

Even if the conditions are good, it's difficult if you're asked if you can work hard for a long time. I'm motivated because I'm interested. This leads to skill improvement, and growth. Even if you feel that your income is complex, then you should use your own power to connect it to an evaluation. If you advance further and gain experience and achievements, you can also hope to step up. You can also expect to change jobs on favorable terms.

Marriage is not just about high income. The inner world and comfort are important. Rather than people who feel complicated about their income, it depicts peace of mind and expectations for people who are worthwhile and can work positively, feeling reliable and want to walk together in the future.

This choice isn't my whole life. I also got a job after college, and now I'm living in a different world. I've grown up to this point while making my own choices. While meeting and growing up a lot. That time was there, and now it is. Do your best, wherever you decide, so that you can think so. Nothing has started yet. I'm sure a wonderful environment and friends will be waiting for you.