Can you be happy if you can take revenge

I'm so unhappy.

I received various unreasonable things at work, and I was made to wear wet clothes and encouraged to retire. Even when I became mentally ill, I put up with it for a career I had built up through years of hard work, but when I refused to recommend retirement, I was transferred.
My career up until now was highly specialized, but now it's a simple task of entering a system.

The department after the transfer has extremely good relationships, and the boss is someone who understands his subordinates. There is no overtime.
However, when I think about my career, my heart aches again, I can't sleep, and I lose my appetite.
Above all, the more I work peacefully in my current department, the more things I've done in my department up until now seem unreasonable, and I feel unforgivable.

I also thought about getting it leaked by the trial, collective bargaining, criminal appeal, and Weekly Bunshun.
We have also collected various proofs.

However, he said to me, “I forgot my past and came to a department with good relationships, so I should rest my mind here. There are also people who say, “No career is more important than health.”

Certainly, my current department is less stressed, and my body is healthy.
However, it seems like blood continues to flow from the bottom of my heart, and I'm very unhappy.

I want people who have hurt me to accept social sanctions and apologize to me for wet clothes and unfair retirement recommendations.

4 Zen Responses

You won't necessarily be happy

Successful revenge doesn't necessarily mean you'll be happy.
If your entire workplace, including your current department, is hit, your peace will also be destroyed.
However, since I'm a different person from you, I don't care what happens to your workplace, so please feel free to take revenge.
However, before taking bold revenge, I think the first step is to make a complaint directly to your boss or HR manager.
If you get an apology for that, then there's no need to leak it to the outside world.
If you don't get an apology, you can tell HR that it will be leaked to a weekly magazine, etc.
According to Buddhism, anger and hatred cause stress, so I think forgetting and flushing it down is the happiest thing, but if you still want revenge, I think it's a good way to not cause as much trouble as possible to unrelated third parties.

Please take care of you

I read it.
I read your feelings. I feel like I can understand that you feel that way. I don't know the details about you or your respective workplaces, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I used to be seconded to another company in response to harassment similar to the one you were subjected to when I was an office worker. I wanted those who did it just like you to accept social sanctions and apologize. So I think it's natural for you to think so.

I personally think it's okay to sue or make a leak.

But first of all, please take care of yourself and heal both mentally and physically; you've worked hard until now, and you've probably experienced painful and terrible things, so please take good care of yourself first and recover little by little.

Why don't you carefully consider what is desirable to do after that? You're probably mentally stable at your current job, so I think it's a great state to think carefully about the future.

Also, I think it's okay to discuss legal responses such as various labor consultations.
https://www.no-harassment.mhlw.go.jp/
https://www.houterasu.or.jp/

I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with wonderful relationships for the future and that you will be healed both mentally and physically and live a rich and healthy life. And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

As a monk, I will answer, “You cannot be happy through revenge.”

Thank you for your consultation. I can't measure the sense of regret of being unreasonably robbed of the career I had built up, and my blood flowed from the heart.

First, if wet clothes or unfair retirement recommendations are true, there is a possibility that it is a violation of the law. There is absolutely no need to cry and fall asleep, and it is your right right to consult with a specialized agency such as the Labor Standards Inspection Office and ask for proper “protest” or “improvement.”

However, in response to the question “can you be happy if you can take revenge?”, as a monk, I will answer “I cannot be happy.” Buddhism explains that anger or resentment (anger) is a raging fire that first violently burns through one's own heart before punishing others. The “sense of revenge” of wanting to sanction your partner will reconnect you deeply with the person who hurt you, and you will continue to dedicate precious time of your life to hate.

Now, luckily, you are in a warm environment where you can rest your mind and body. Clarifying facts and trying to resolve them by proper means are similar and different from holding a grudge against the other person and hoping for ruin. Please protect your heart and walk away from the flames of hate. We hope that little by little you will regain your peace of mind and body in a peaceful environment.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

Everyone has a natural right to make claims against unfair treatment

That's frustrating and unforgivable, isn't it? It's different for someone who is oppressed to put up with it so that it doesn't make waves. To the extent that you want revenge, your patience is limited, and your dignity is still being hurt, isn't it? Why do you all have to lose what you've had in your hands? Everyone has a natural right to make claims against such unfair treatment. You're just describing it as revenge, aren't you?

The career I had built up was taken away in this way, so I feel that's unfortunate. If you're not involved, you may be able to say that you've forgotten the past, but it's not the past for you, it's still painful now, and it comes back to life every time you go to a changed environment (go to work).

I want you to apologize. You want your rights back, right?

・General Labor Consultation Center (Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare)
・Harassment Concern Counseling Office (Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare)
・Law Terrace (Japan Judicial Support Center)
・National Federation of Social Insurance Labor Consultants Associations (workplace trouble, consultation dial)

Why don't you talk to me?

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