I can't forget the events that broke my memories

I went to a privately owned cafe the other day.
I used to go there a lot about 5 years ago when I was living alone.
They also sell coffee beans, and it was a memorable place where I fell in love with coffee because of the beans I bought at that cafe.

When I opened the map on the internet to go there after a long absence, the reviews section had a very low rating.
There were almost no bad reviews when I went there, and it seemed like the number of low reviews had increased rapidly since about 3 years ago.
In most cases, customer service by shopkeepers lacks consideration.
I wonder if something happened? I was curious
When I went there, I never felt anything like a lack of consideration for the owner
I went straight to the store.

When I ordered coffee and tried to pay, I accidentally dropped the menu at the cash register counter.
It was in a small acrylic plate, and the tip was cracked.
I apologized and tried to check the floor to see if there were any missing parts
Loud “Don't touch me anymore!” I've been told that.
If you hold the coffee you ordered with the feeling that it has sunk
I saw the shopkeeper throwing coffee beans into the mill like they were knocking them on.

The acrylic board itself looked like it was sold at a 100 yen shop, but I couldn't help but be bothered by the inconvenience caused at a memorable location.
Therefore, I apologized again on my way home and offered reimbursement, but it was declined.
I said, “I lived close to here about 5 years ago, and I used to come here a lot. so sorry for bothering you. That's why I want to be reimbursed.”
“Is that so? I don't remember”
I was told it coldly.
I was so shocked that my head went blank.

It's a place that gave me relationships with people even for just a moment during the lonely time I lived alone.
It was a place where I found my favorite coffee even now.
Even though so many days have passed, it makes me sad to remember the store owner's cold attitude.
Something may have happened to the shopkeeper in the past few years.
That's because I made them angry in the first place.
It's hard for me to have so many thoughts going through my head.
At this rate, it seems like they'll even deny their love for coffee.
How can I make myself feel better?

4 Zen Responses

Keep only good memories from the past in your heart.

It was a memorable place that I cherished, and it was really painful. The shock is immeasurable that the place that healed the loneliness of living alone had completely changed from before.

In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “impermanent behavior.” All things, people, things, and minds, change all the time and never stay the same. In a period of 5 years, there were various afflictions and events that the shopkeeper was unaware of from those around him, and it probably changed for better or worse. Judging from the word-of-mouth, the shopkeeper's cold behavior was definitely not caused by you.

You have done your best to sincerely apologize when you dropped something in the past. So there's absolutely no need to blame yourself any more, saying “I made you angry.”

The cup of coffee that warmed you at that time and the feeling of “I like coffee” born from it are an unmistakable truth, and they are a precious relationship. Don't be bound by current sad events, and keep only good memories from the past in your heart, saying, “I have rich coffee time now precisely because I had a warm encounter at that time.”
Please take care of yourself and continue to enjoy your favorite coffee time with peace of mind.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

Please don't keep an eye on you

I read it.
That happened... I'm sure you're very shocked and very sad. I don't know the details about you or the person at the store, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It's probably an important memory for you, so it would be very sad and painful if it ended up like that. I think you're right to think so.
I don't know what happened to that store or the owner, but I'm sure something major transformation has happened. You don't know that unless you are yourself, though.
It's probably not something you can easily divide, but please keep an eye on it warmly.
Maybe in the future, a new turning point will come for both the store and the shopkeeper. No one knows what the future holds, but please pray from the bottom of your heart that good fortune will come to that store. I would also like to pray from the bottom of my heart.
I sincerely pray that you will be happy to visit that store, that you will continue to cherish your memories of that store, that you will be able to live a rich and healthy life from the bottom of your heart every day, and that you will be blessed with many wonderful relationships and live a truly happy life. We wholeheartedly agree

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　Hello. There was a time when I also lived alone, so I read it with a sense of familiarity.
It was a lonely experience, wasn't it? Something must have happened to the owner. I don't know when I was old, but I'm guessing that they may be disgusted by the current “evaluation” system.
If the reviews are bad, everyone who comes will be scared. I wonder if I can add a flirty monster. Of course, that rarely happens, but I can imagine being hurt as delicately and deeply as people who have worked so hard.
Really, when differences in relationships grow, it makes people suffer. I'm just horrified by the magnitude of its power.
What I can say is to pray, “I hope that shopkeeper can continue with a peaceful feeling,” and “there is nothing wrong with coffee.”
I also had a small cafeteria that supported “those days.” The convenience store is already open now... but my memories are a thing of the past. It's still inside me.
“Denying the desire to like coffee” is unreasonable. Maybe you know it, but now you're being pulled by shock and lost sight of it.
You might think (even unconsciously) that I only want to have good memories surrounding coffee... but what kind of thing is that? Colourful memories can also cultivate a deep life.

Something will take the opportunity to change. The comfort and taste I felt back then are good memories

That was an unfortunate event. It seems like even my memories have been damaged, and it makes me feel lonely and sad.

Customers often look at word of mouth, and it also leads to evaluations, including the service and comfort they are looking for in a store.

I don't know the truth, but it is possible that the store side was also damaged due to customer behavior (taking pictures, posting on the internet, excessive requests for service, etc.). Maybe the store, people, and customers have changed because of something.

But the comfort and taste I felt back then is a good memory. Rather than looking for it in the present and getting hurt, let's cherish it as a memory.

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