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It's hard being a member of society

I'm a 21-year-old job hunting student in my 3rd year of college. I'm working hard on job hunting in my own way, but I don't have any hope for “society” or “the future.” As I proceeded with job hunting, I often thought deeply about myself, but I feel very afraid of not being able to find what I really want to do, and thinking about a completely dark future with no goals or goals.
I've seen the phrase “college life is life's spring break” on SNS. As the saying goes, I can't help but feel like these days of being immersed in a light music club, gathering with friends at whatever time I like, and playing are the peak of my life. I've never seen a happy adult. What kind of thoughts and perceptions can I use to ease my anxiety about the future and make it easier?
I'm sorry for the poor sentence. I look forward to hearing from you.

4 Zen Responses

If you walk around savoring the “now” in front of you, one by one, you'll be fine.

It's only natural to be at a crossroads in life called job hunting and feel uneasy about the future you can't see. The fun days at the light music club are shining, so the society where the future cannot be seen seems dark and frightening.

First, why don't you lower the assumption that you have to “do what you really want to do” or “have clear goals.” Actually, not many adults have clear goals. The purpose of life is something that comes into view little by little in future relationships, and one day it suddenly appears right in front of you.

Also, my fulfilling days now are an irreplaceable asset, but I don't think that is the “peak of life.” In Buddhism, there is a teaching of “impermanence” where everything changes. Your situation and state of mind will change day by day from now on.

Instead of worrying excessively about the future you haven't seen yet or getting caught up in the fun of the past, please cherish your own life “here and now.” When you're about to stop anxious, it's okay if you take a deep breath, enjoy the “now” in front of you one by one, and walk away. I hope your path is peaceful.

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I read it.
You're feeling very uneasy about the future ahead, aren't you? I feel like I'm on spring break right now, and it makes me wonder if it's at its peak. I don't know the details of your situation, but I feel that I understand your uneasy feelings very well. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
You're working hard on job hunting, but you don't have any hope for society or the future. I don't know the details of your heart, but since you haven't appeared in society as a member of society yet, it may be quite difficult to imagine, and I think that's just what you think because you don't know what you want to do.
Your future will never be completely dark, and it's not without dreams or hopes.
Please calm down first and slowly face the future ahead.
Your future progresses whether you work or not, and you will meet many people and encounter various events in the midst of various encounters.
And you'll have a lot of experiences.
For now, it's okay to go out into society and encounter various things, and if you don't mind, go on a trip.
There will surely be many things in front of you that you do not anticipate.
Also, please let us know your feelings and thoughts, and we look forward to hearing from the bottom of our hearts.

Let's broaden our horizons of life

Reading your statement, “I can't help but feel like the peak of my life is being immersed in a light music club, gathering with friends at whatever time I like,” and it made me smile wryly that life had been looked down on quite a bit.
Is it true that I've never seen a happy adult?
There are so many adults in the world who say their work is interesting and irresistible; on the contrary, they put their lives on this job.
Expand your perspective on life before you lament that you can't find what you want to do.
To that end, I recommend reading books you've never read before (though this is plain advice), hanging out with people you've never dated before, and traveling to places you've never traveled before.
It's never too late to decide where to work.

Don't you also feel lonely because you don't want to leave your place?

You're job hunting, aren't you? When I imagine myself working as a member of society, I wonder if I can't see a very good future.
The more immersed you are, the more fun it is now, so I think you also feel the loneliness of not wanting to leave this time and your irreplaceable place with your friends. You can't be positive about job hunting in the reality that you have to leave soon, right?

The adults close to you don't seem to be having fun at work, do they? Well, sometimes work doesn't last just because it's fun. That's because adults work with the responsibility to fulfill the role they are given and to produce the expected results. It looks tough, doesn't it?
However, it is adults who have moved society and created an era in this way. That's great, isn't it?

The reason you can enjoy your university life in this way is probably because there is a society where someone supports you. Next, you guys are responsible.

Right now, it can't be helped without a purpose or goal. I think it's fine for the purpose of working for a living. I think everyone will live their lives while fumbling and grasping the way to live.
Why don't you take a look at various people and their lives?