About my daughter's death

I offer my condolences.
Gassho
Namu Amida Buddha

I think it's going to be very painful to lose your daughter. It's natural to have days where I just cry. It seems like you're worried that you'll get depressed, but don't worry. That's because it's natural to be sad and cry. Please cry to your heart's content when you feel like crying.
If you burst into tears while driving, quickly park your car on the shoulder of the road or in the parking lot and cry. Once you've settled down, you can start driving again.
If you feel like crying at work or at home, please cry where there are no people. That's because crying is a matter of course as a parent and as a person. It would be nice to start again once you've settled down.
I'm sure your daughter is rooting for you.
It's sad that he passed away. However, the fact that you were born into this world, that you met, and that you had a great time is miraculous.
Please rejoice at that miracle. Also, please believe in the miracle that one day you will meet your daughter in heaven (pure land).
Please live for your daughter with the help of your family, relatives, friends, etc.
When you're watching what your daughter liked, think of her watching it too.
Please offer something that your daughter loved in front of the spirit.
Also, if you need help, please get counseling etc. from the bereaved family.
May your daughter be at peace. And I pray that you guys will be protected.

I read it.
Your precious daughter has passed away and you are deeply saddened and sorry, aren't you? I don't know the details about you or your daughter, but it really conveys that you are so sad right now. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
There haven't been many things since you passed away, so now you've finally taken a break. I think those were also very difficult things.
And now when I'm calming down and looking around, I think back and forth about my daughter and I'm in tears. I feel that you will be like that very much, and I think it will be quite difficult to accept your daughter's death once again. It's definitely not just about you; it's just so hard for almost everyone to accept, and there are sorrows and regrets.
I pray with all my heart that my daughter will be at peace from the bottom of my heart. Shishin Gassho Nanmu Amida Buddha Namu Amidabutsu
Your sorrow will never run out, but please sincerely pray that your daughter will be at peace. We wholeheartedly agree
Also, please tell all of your feelings for your daughter to the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and daughters as you think of them.
The Buddha, gods, ancestors, and daughters will kindly accept all of your thoughts, and they will be close to your heart and comfort you.
Your daughter will always be watching over you kindly from now on.
Your daughter's relationship with you and everyone in your family will continue forever.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, God, your ancestors, and your daughter that you will always take good care of your daughter, and that your daughter will kindly watch over you and everyone, and that you can be on good terms with everyone and be considerate of each other and live peacefully every day. We wholeheartedly agree
Also, I sincerely pray that the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and daughters will kindly welcome you when you complete the ten-life you have been given one day. Shishin Gassho Nanmu Amida Buddha

The immeasurable grief of losing your daughter and the pain of blaming yourself are painfully conveyed from the text. Please don't blame yourself for being a “disqualified mother.” The feeling of regret and remorse that springs up endlessly is only felt if you, as a mother, love your daughter deeply from the bottom of your heart.

Amida Nyorai is a Buddha who warmly envelops all of our unfathomable sorrow and suffering as it is. The young lady is now embraced by the gentle light of the Buddha and is in the peaceful world of the Pure Land. They have never hesitated and have always been watching over those of you who have been left behind since the Pure Land.

There is absolutely no need to force yourself to go out or rush back to work when the scenery of spring is painful and painful enough to have anxiety about depression. Right now is just a good time to shed tears to your heart's content. Instead of trying to overcome your sorrow by force, try surrendering yourself to the great mercy of the Buddha. My precious relationship with my young lady will continue to be connected through the sound of Nembutsu. Please cherish your own time of sorrow more than anything else right now.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

Usagi-sama

First of all, I would like to express my condolences and pray for the peace of mind that the young lady passed away. Gassho prayer

The death of a loved one brings strong grief. You could say it's inevitable.
From that sadness, emotions such as denial, confusion, anger, depression, and abandonment that cannot be accepted by death are mixed up and come and go.
It happens to everyone, but when you're sad, it's natural that you can't objectively look at emotions.
Well, in order to be in the midst of that, to feel saved and to recover even though they have grief, they are “people.” People save people.
Of course, the Buddha's teachings are also important.
But even in the midst of grief, it is “people” who feel the warmth, kindness, and warmth of the heart.
So, rely on someone. Please connect with someone.
It could be someone you trust, a therapist who can do grief care, or even a monk. This Hasunoha answer even a monk is fine.
By expressing your feelings to someone who will simply accept you in a gentle way, you will gradually regain your peace of mind.
It might take some time. But if you feel connected by kindness and love, that connection of compassion is uninterrupted and gradually becomes stronger. Eventually, it will lead to your independence from grief.
You will also feel a stronger emotional connection with your young lady.
Eventually, that current sadness and anxiety will unravel.
I think so. Please refer to it. Gassho ceremony

It must be very painful...
If you want it to be a dream, I don't think you'll be able to accept it. It's so sad and painful not being able to look at their faces, call them names, and hug them anymore.

It makes me regret it no matter how much I wanted to help them and stay by my side and protect them. That's right, she's an adorable and precious daughter. I don't want to break up. I want to go back to that day if I don't go away first.

If you have errands, you have no choice but to force yourself to move, but even so, your body doesn't move lethargically, does it? I can't do anything, I don't want to do anything, I can't move anything... it must have been difficult to write with tears. To the point where I couldn't even breathe.

You don't have to force yourself to look at reality and think you have to live your everyday life. It's still too hard right now.

Thus, I'm thinking of you on the other side of the screen. I want to be by your side and listen to your grief. Even if you don't put it into words, it's still connected in this way.

If you are nearby, you can also invite them to the bereaved family meeting that is being hosted, but it's a bit far. Then let's share it in Hasunoha like this.

I think about my daughter too.
Gassho