Every day, I have to do something I can't

Thank you for your first question the other day. This time we are discussing a different matter.
I'm a college student, and I have lots of classes every day, and I have many college assignments. Also, since I'm in the 3rd grade, I have to proceed with job hunting, and I'm always in a state where I have a lot to do.
Even so, there are times when it becomes impossible to work without knowing the reason, as if the battery had run out. Apart from that, it's not that my body doesn't move physically, but I feel that my head hardly moves. Now, if I interrupt my work because I want to take a break, then it takes a tremendous amount of time to resume it, and even if I try to continue working for the time being, my work efficiency remains very poor, my assignments hardly progress, and I can't concentrate on class. When I had time to spare, I was able to manage my schedule properly, and I was able to properly interact with people, but now I just want to reduce the amount of information that comes in, my relationships with my friends are minimal, and I'm only able to have conventional conversations with my family. My mother thinks she's in a bad mood, and she reminds me to listen carefully to people's conversations. Actually, I should listen properly and participate in the conversation, but I'm not able to do that, so I think it's as my mother warned, but I've already reached the last minute of capacity, and I feel like I can't handle it any further now. I'm feeling stressed about myself not moving the way I want.
However, I can't talk to people if I don't know what the problem is and I'm in the current state, and if I talk to others, I'm just bothered. Actually, it would be nice if I could talk to my family, but my father and sister are busy, and when I talk to my mother, they listen to the situation in detail and it becomes even more stressful, and if I don't understand the reason, I worry all the time until the situation calms down and my mood gets bad, so I feel like I don't want to talk to them.
To varying degrees, I think there are days when I can't move as I would like, but what should I do when I just can't concentrate or get distracted? I would like to lend your wisdom.

4 Zen Responses

I think it's great that you've been studying hard.
You might think it would be bothersome to talk to people around you, but I think it's better to talk to them.
Please consult with people around you about school assignments and job hunting, and gather information.
That's because when I'm in trouble, other people are also often in trouble.
I think it's a good idea to tell your mom that you're sorry because she's busy with assignments and doesn't have much time to talk about it.
Studying is important, but for your mental and physical health, be sure to set aside time to sleep, eat, exercise moderately, and watch art (or hobbies) once in a while.
Don't panic, try writing down your priorities on paper (maybe a smartphone memo now) and work carefully, starting with the high priority.

There are times when every human being doesn't turn out the way they want.

Thank you for your consultation. You've reached your mental and physical limits due to schoolwork and job hunting, and you've been unable to move as if “the battery has run out.” Because you are serious and have a strong sense of responsibility, I see that you are in a very difficult situation right now.

In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “good luck (engi).” The idea is that everything in this world does not exist in isolation, but is made up of interacting and supporting each other. In other words, people are not equipped to be able to shoulder and solve everything alone from the beginning. It's definitely not easy to rely on “relationships” with people around you by asking for help from schoolmates or relying on university consultation desks without trying to take everything alone.

Also, if you are chased by what is right in front of you and lose sight of your purpose, your energy will be exhausted. When your mind has rested for a moment, look back on your original intentions, such as “why did you choose this department” and “what do you want to be in the future.”

There are times when every human being doesn't turn out the way they want. Blocking off information and feeling like taking a break is the right defensive instinct ordered by the heart. Don't try to force yourself to move right now, take a slow, deep breath first, and regain your own pace. You don't need to be in a hurry.

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Shut out your surroundings and secure an environment where you can concentrate and rest

I think university classes will also be influenced by the reactions of people around them while thinking about various things, such as assignments and future choices.

What I feel from the previous question is that while receiving strong reactions from those around you, you are proceeding carefully so as not to cause waves. It may be best if parents, friends, and lovers all have a good relationship, but they all have their own thoughts, and there are times when nothing can be done.

The important thing at such times is to have a firm grip on yourself. If you're full of schoolwork right now, be able to tell your parents and those around you to keep quiet. Shutting out your surroundings and securing an environment where you can concentrate and rest is also necessary for controlling your mind.

If someone understands (it's tough right now), they'll keep watching over me in silence. That's because you should only cherish that kind of relationship.

You can show yourself even more. And let's sort out what we're going to do now. Let's think about priorities and work carefully on each one.

Please contact Hasunoha for a consultation. Here, you can interact at your own convenience. You can open the page when you want to listen or watch. We will always respond without changing. When you can't move, take care of yourself. That's because taking a break is important. You should do your best when you can move again.

You don't have to take anything you don't need

I read it.
I see... you're in a lot of trouble because you can't focus on what you need to do. It looks like the battery has run out and you can't work, and you can't listen to people's conversations. I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but it tells me that you are in great trouble. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

I don't know about you specifically or what kind of situation or environment you are in right now, but I think there is probably a lot of information. Recently, due to the development of SNS, etc., the amount of information each of us receives has become enormous. Along with that, I really feel that the things I do have become more and more vast.
Things that used to be exchanged by letter are quickly sent on SNS, and it is now necessary to check the contents, make an instantaneous decision, and return it. In other words, I feel that they have been swallowed up by this huge amount of information and are exhausted. It's definitely not just you, but the people around you are probably getting very busy, so I think everyone, big or small, is getting tired.
If possible, wouldn't it be okay to throw away things you don't need to do or receive? And why not try resetting it even a little bit. It's raining today, but on a day like this, I think it's okay to relax and calm your mind while watching the rain slowly.
Time is slowly passing by. Don't be in a hurry, please keep your mind at ease and cherish every moment of the day.
I sincerely pray that you will be able to live peacefully and peacefully for the future from now on, and that you can truly cherish each other and live a full, compassionate, and fulfilling everyday life. We wholeheartedly agree

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