I want to reflect on the actions that occurred

I want to reflect on the actions I have taken.
I am a 39-year-old married man with a wife and a family of 4 children aged 5 and 1.
Starting this year, we both quit the company we worked for for many years, and I worked as a freelancer, and my wife is also working at a new company. My wife is also in a new company, so I like my days off so that I don't accumulate as much stress as possible.
Since I became a freelancer, compared to before, I mainly do housework and child-rearing.
As I spent every day like that, probably because I was stressed, I gave in to greed and ended up playing sex games. After I finished playing, I felt healed both mentally and physically and was able to relieve my stress, but at the same time, I began to feel foolish that I had given in to emptiness and greed by the actions I had taken. Also, even though I played with my own pocket money, I felt a sense of regret that I had wasted money and a feeling of knowing how grateful I was for the money. After playing, I went to pray at the Ujigami where I live in order to sort out my feelings. In the future, I want to give in to greed and reflect on the actions I have caused and connect them to future actions. To that end, I would like to receive advice on how to reflect on this action and how to repent. Thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

Once you “post” it here, it's fine... 😅.

It's probably what's called “the devil cast”... 💦.
Since ancient times ❝ mistakes can't be made. This is called a mistake ❞ and the “Analects of Confucianism.” Anyone says “some kind of time signature!?” So, I'm going to do what I'm not supposed to do - in Buddhism it's called ❝ Five Commandments ❞ (please search the internet for details). In your case, you “committed ❝ immortal fornication ❞.”
What you've done won't go away for the rest of your life, but the value of a human being is determined by whether or not you reflect on it.
So, from now on, please act “taking care” of your wife and children (even if others don't tell you, if you stop and think about it for a moment, you should understand naturally).
Anyway, let's act “carefully” from now on... 💚.

Note, in the school of elementary school, I think the most important thing is to say “Namu Amida Buddha.” When a bad heart occurs or when you just do something bad, please “reflect” and praise Nembutsu - Namu Amida Buddha - with determination that you will never commit a crime again. Gassho Nanban Amida Buddha

Take it as your wife. When your wife isn't in that mood or situation, do it alone.

Reflect on yourself

I read it.
I read about you, everyone, what you did, and what you're feeling right now. I don't know the details about you or everyone, but I accept your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
If you think and reflect on it that way, please put your hands on the Buddha, gods, and ancestors and confess it from the bottom of your heart as it is, then reflect on yourself from the bottom of your heart and make amends without remorse.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will watch over you anytime, anywhere, and in any situation. They accept you and guide you in a good direction. Please cleanse your body and mind and take good care of yourself and your life with your family.
I sincerely pray to Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can live a clean and happy life with your loved ones in the future, so that you can live a clean, happy life with everyone.

Rather than knowing how to reflect or repent, a healthy and positive way to relieve stress

I think it's up to you how you handle and process greed. I think customs also exist. Both mind and body were healed and stress relieved, right?

If you think it's just emptiness or that you've wasted your money, it's probably better to find another way to relieve your stress.

Everyone feels stressed when they lose their balance between housework and child-rearing. Women in the world are probably like that too. However, not everyone takes advantage of customs. Devising housework and child-rearing, taking a break, complaining in the community, having hobbies and goals... stress relief where you can continue to be kind to yourself is probably less burdensome. Every family must be making ends meet while doing that.

I was asked to read your past questions, but the same mistakes are repeated and there are days of remorse. Rather than knowing how to reflect or repent, why don't you find a way to relieve stress? A healthy and positive way to relieve stress.

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